Orthodox Christians commemorate deceased loved ones on the third, ninth and fortieth day from the time of death. In addition to these special dates, believers adhere to traditions of remembering the dead on certain church holidays. Relatives must take into account days 3, 9 and 40 - they are important for a dignified transition of the soul. If you are not sure of the calculations, contact the funeral service agency or the priest.
How to calculate 3 days
Orthodoxy adheres to the canon of the need to bury the body on the third day after death. The starting point is the date of death, the time is counted until midnight. If a person died at 23.55, and the calendar showed October 1, then the funeral must be ordered on October 3.
The organization of the burial precisely on the third day is associated with the tradition of Orthodoxy and the symbolic relationship to the Holy Trinity - the Father and the Spirit, and His Son. According to the Orthodox scripture, which sets out the story of the conversation between Macarius of Egypt and the angel who appeared to him. It is in it that it is said that for the first three days after the body has died, the soul is among its relatives, on earth.
Relatives, in accordance with Orthodox traditions, should:
- pray for the soul of the deceased;
- visit a church, order a magpie, ask for a funeral service;
- wash the body. Nowadays, this function is performed by morgue employees. This service is free. If a person died at home, any person who is not related by kinship can wash him;
- collect all the necessary ritual accessories for the funeral - a coffin, a cross, a bedspread and pillow, clothing for the deceased;
- organize the digging of a grave in the cemetery.
On the third day after the Orthodox believer has died, the body should be interred. If a major church holiday falls on this day - Easter, Trinity or Christmas, the funeral is held the next day.
How to count 9 days
On the fourth day the soul goes to heaven, where it remains until the ninth day. 9 days are counted from the date of death, including this day. That is, if a person died on October 1 at 23.55, then it is October 9. If a loved one died at 2 am on June 14, then the 9th day is June 22.
On this day, one should remember the deceased with kind words, pray for his soul, and collect a memorial lunch. At funerals, it is customary for Orthodox believers to visit a gravesite and leave gifts to go into the church. You should give alms to those in need, leave a donation, light a candle for the repose.
All relatives gather at home and remember the deceased and his good deeds. The meal should include the usual simple dishes - pies, pancakes, fish soup. The church does not encourage drinking alcohol.
How to count 40 days
From the tenth to the fortieth day the soul remains in hell, and then its fate is decided by God's judgment. All prayers and good memorials that will be said for the deceased during this period will be counted in heaven. It is necessary to pray and ask God for forgiveness for the sins of the deceased.
Starting in the morning, you need to go to the morning church service, pray, and light a candle for the repose. Then you should go to the grave, where you need to leave treats - candy, pastries, cookies, cereal.
A funeral meal is organized at home, which should also not include alcohol and be modest and simple. All those gathered talk about the deceased, remember his actions, and make kind speeches.
There is an old tradition of covering mirrors in the house after death. This is not a mandatory ritual. But if all the mirror surfaces were covered, then on the 9th day the bedspreads are removed everywhere and only the mirror in the room of the deceased is left covered. There the fabric is removed after 40 days.
Orthodox Christians take funerals, as well as celebrations during life, very seriously. In this case, it is important to do everything according to the rules. Since the soul of the deceased needs prayer and remembrance during this period. In Christian books it is mentioned more than once that through the prayers of the living, there will be help for the dead and vice versa. It is also believed that the soul sees both heaven and hell until the fortieth day, and only after that its fate is determined by its deeds.
In the modern world, customs have faded a bit and quite often the funeral dinner, which should take place strictly on the ninth day after the funeral, is done on the second day. This is explained by the fact that in cities people constantly do not have enough time, so all customs began to be “compressed”, which is fundamentally wrong. Just like 9 days for the deceased, so 40 and a year must be spent strictly at the established time, because it is on these days that the fate of the soul of the deceased is decided, and it most needs support and protection.
There are many misconceptions and myths about the wake on the ninth day that have nothing to do with the Christian faith. Often, young people ask a question to the older generation, in the hope that they probably know the rules for holding a wake, although they, in turn, may miss a lot. This is how misconceptions and “grandmother’s advice” are born, which greatly alienate the true traditions from the invented ones. If a person does not know something, or doubts the correctness of the actions being taken, it is best to ask the clergy directly, and not a neighbor. Only in this way will everyone receive the correct and edifying answer and conduct the wake according to all the rules.
Here we will describe how to properly conduct a wake for nine days, what needs to be prepared and what prayers are read for the deceased during this period
9 days after death: the meaning of funerals at this time
The first funeral service, which is held after the burial of a person, occurs precisely on the ninth day after death. It is during this period from the day of death that the soul of the deceased, accompanied by angels, walks through paradise and sees all the blessings and joys of the holy fathers. After which, on the 9th day, the angels lift the soul to the throne of God so that it can worship and magnify the name of God. After which the soul is also sent on an introductory “excursion” to hell. But if a person was a righteous person during his lifetime and led a strictly Christian life, then his fate can be decided precisely on the ninth day after burial. Therefore, it is on this day that the relatives and friends of the deceased need to offer especially fervent prayers and think as much as possible about the soul of the deceased and his mortal paths.
Until the fortieth day, the soul of the deceased goes through all the circles of hell, where they try to win it from the angels, showing all its sins. In contrast, angels show all the good deeds of a person during life, and if there were more of them than bad, the person’s soul ascends to heaven and awaits the Last Judgment there, and if there were more bad ones, then demons take it away and also torture it until the Judgment.
It happens that there are almost equal numbers of good and bad deeds, and then the fate of the deceased is decided through the prayers of his loved ones on earth. If prayers are offered for the deceased for 40 days, notes for repose are given and memorial services are held, then his soul is saved, but if not, then he remains in hell.
That is why it is so important to spend exactly 9 days and 40 according to all the rules of the Christian world in order to help the soul of the deceased ascend to heaven, and not descend to the underworld.
Why do funerals take place on the 9th day?
It is believed that the rank of nine angels falls on the 9th day. It is they, together with the soul of the deceased, who ask the throne of the Lord for mercy and leniency towards the sinful soul of man. If it is possible to appease the Lord, then the soul remains in heaven without going through the ordeal in hell, which lasts until the fortieth day. If the soul was not righteous, it is sent to hell to undergo trials.
If the soul can go through all the circles of hell without obstacles, then it will again appear before the Throne, and will remain in heaven, offering prayers of thanks and praise to the Lord. It is also believed that the soul, which, through the prayers of its neighbors on earth, has gone to heaven, in turn offers prayers to God for its relatives on earth. She can also appear during difficult periods of life and warn relatives and friends about danger.
Why are the dead remembered on the 9th day?
What rules must be followed for holding a wake on day 9?
In the Christian world there are a number of rules that were established by our forefathers and described in detail in religious literature. These rules must be strictly observed and ensured that they are carried out without changes:
- It is necessary to create an appropriate atmosphere in the place where the funeral dinner is planned. You also need to monitor this at home. As a rule, a glass of water and a slice of bread are placed in home walls. Also, a lamp is lit in front of the photograph of the deceased. But you can also light a lamp in front of an icon. In churches, relatives and friends of the deceased order a memorial prayer service, light candles in specially designated places for the repose and read a prayer for the acceptance of the soul of the deceased to the Lord God;
- 9 days is not a dinner party, so no one is specifically invited to this wake. Most often, relatives, close friends and colleagues of the deceased gather. It is worth remembering that for these particular commemorations, everyone should ask where and when they will take place;
- Women should wear scarves on their heads to cover their hair, which should not escape from under the scarf. Men, on the contrary, must free their heads from any clothing and sit at the table with their heads uncovered;
- The question is often asked: what should you bring to a funeral for 9 days? Most often these are flowers that need to be placed on the grave of the deceased. It is necessary to put red wine on the table, because this is how the deceased are remembered, as well as sweets and cookies;
- Various compotes, kutya and other porridge must be present on the table. You can also often see that those dishes that the deceased loved during his lifetime are often placed on the funeral table or placed on an empty plate. Each region may have its own customs and traditions of the funeral table for 9 days, but everyone should have the same basis;
- It is necessary to remember the deceased with red wine and most often this is three glasses. During such a period, the presence of strong alcoholic drinks on the table is unacceptable. Also, you should not “stay too long” at the table, so as not to turn the funeral dinner into a feast.
- If the funeral meal falls during fasting, then it is necessary to completely eliminate all meat dishes, replacing them with fish and lighter snacks. At the same time, compote and kutya remain unchanged on the funeral table;
- At the funeral table you need not just to dine, but also to remember (remember) the person, telling some moments of the deceased, remembering his positive sides and, on the good side, telling about him to those who may not have been so familiar with the deceased. Most often, at such moments, certain truths are revealed that prompt soul-saving thoughts among those gathered.
What needs to be prepared for the funeral table within 9 days?
A standard menu for a nine-day funeral might look like this:
- Kissel, kutya, kanun (can also be called kolovo);
- Pancakes with different fillings, most often cottage cheese, poppy seeds and apples, sometimes liver;
- Sandwiches with sprats and other cold fish appetizers;
- Sweet pies (most often with poppy seed or apple filling);
- There must be at least one hot dish, for example borscht with poultry;
- Porridge, roast;
- Cutlets and cabbage rolls;
- Salads, especially vegetable ones (vinaigrette, Korean carrots, etc.);
- Stuffed peppers;
- Boiled potatoes with mushrooms;
- Kvass and compote;
- Cookies and sweets that people themselves brought to the funeral dinner are also served on the table.
It is customary to prepare those dishes that the deceased loved during his lifetime. This is also a kind of reference to the deceased. If you are fasting for 9 days, you need to replace all meat dishes with their fish counterparts, and cabbage rolls can be made vegetable by replacing meat with mushrooms.
It is very important on this day to give out alms and feed the needy, and you need to ask to remember the deceased.
What prayers should be read at the funeral for 9 days
On the day of death and before burial in the house, the entire psalter and certain prayers are usually read in front of the icon. Only the person who has received a blessing from the priest can read them. If there is no such person, you should read the prayer rule in front of the icon and ask for God’s blessing yourself.
On the ninth day, prayers are also read, which can be said both in church and within home walls near the icons. If the funeral dinner was scheduled in a cafe, as is often the case now, it is worth reading special prayers for the deceased before the funeral meal and only after that proceeding to dinner.
Litiya for the deceased for 9 days
Before the funeral meal, it is necessary to read the rite of lithium for the deceased, which is performed at home or in the cemetery, immediately in front of the grave:
Through the prayers of the saints, our fathers, Lord Jesus Christ our God, have mercy on us. Amen.
Glory to Thee, our God, glory to Thee.
Heavenly King, Comforter, Soul of truth, Who is everywhere and fulfills everything, Treasure of good things and Giver of life, come and dwell in us, and cleanse us from all filth, and save, O Good One, our souls.
Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us. (Three times)
Most Holy Trinity, have mercy on us; Lord, cleanse our sins; Master, forgive our iniquities; Holy One, visit and heal our infirmities, for Thy name's sake.
Lord have mercy. (Thrice)
Glory to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.
Our Father, who art in heaven! Hallowed be Thy name, Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, as it is in heaven and on earth. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our debts, just as we forgive our debtors; and do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.
Lord have mercy. (12 times)
Glory to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. And now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.
Come, let us worship our King God. (Bow)
Come, let us worship and fall down before Christ, our King God. (Bow)
Come, let us bow and fall down to Christ Himself, the King and our God. (Bow)
Psalm 90
Living in the help of the Most High, he will settle in the shelter of the Heavenly God. Says the Lord: Thou art my intercessor, and my refuge, my God, and I trust in Him. For He will deliver you from the snare of the trap and from rebellious words, His blanket will overshadow you, and under His wing you hope: His truth will surround you with weapons. Do not be afraid from the fear of the night, from the arrow that flies during the day, from the thing that passes in darkness, from the cloak and demon of the midday. Thousands will fall from your country, and darkness will be at your right hand, but it will not come close to you: behold your eyes, and you will see the reward of sinners. For You, O Lord, are my hope, You have made the Most High your refuge. Evil will not come to you, and wound will not come close to your body. As His angel commanded you, keep you in all your ways. They will lift you up in their arms, but not when you dash your foot against a stone. Tread on the asp and the basilisk, and cross the lion and the serpent. For I have trusted in Me, and I will deliver; I will cover and because I have known My name. He will call to Me, and I will hear him; I am with him in sorrow, I will destroy him and glorify him; I will fill him with long days, and show him My salvation.
Glory to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.
Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia, glory to You, O God. (Thrice)
Troparion, tone 4:
From the spirits of the righteous who have passed away, rest the soul of Your servant, O Savior, preserving it in the blessed life that belongs to You, O Lover of Mankind.
In Thy chamber, O Lord, where all Thy saints rest, rest also the soul of Thy servant, for Thou art the only Lover of mankind.
Glory to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.
Thou art God, who descended into hell, and loosed the bonds of the bound, and give rest to Thy servant Himself and the soul.
And now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.
One Pure and Immaculate Virgin, who gave birth to God without a seed, pray for his soul to be saved.
Sedalen, voice 5th:
Rest, our Savior, with the righteous of Thy servant, and this one is lodged in Thy courts, as it is written, despising, as Good, his sins, voluntary and involuntary, and all those in knowledge and not in knowledge, Lover of mankind.
Kontakion, tone 8:
With the saints, rest, O Christ, the soul of Your servant, where there is no sickness, no sorrow, no sighing, but endless life.
Ikos
Thou art the One Immortal One, who created and created man, on earth we were created from the earth, and to the other earth we will go, as you commanded, Who created me and gave me: as you are the earth, and you will go to the earth, and even all men will go, a funeral lament creating a song : alleluia, alleluia, alleluia.
It is worthy to eat as you truly bless Thee, the Mother of God, the Ever-Blessed and Most Immaculate and the Mother of our God. We magnify You, the most honorable Cherub and the most glorious without comparison Seraphim, who gave birth to God the Word without corruption.
Glory to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.
Lord have mercy (Thrice), bless.
Funeral service for 9 days after death, what is prepared and how to conduct it? For Orthodox Christians, commemoration of the dead occurs on the ninth and fortieth days after death. Why?
The clergy answer this question in detail. According to church canons, the time from the moment of repose directly to the ninth is called the design of the “body of eternity.” During this period, the deceased is taken to “special places” in heaven. And in the world of the living, relatives and clergy conduct various funeral ceremonies.
What happens in the first 9 days after death?
In these very first 9 days after death the deceased can observe the people around them, see and hear them. Thus, the soul forever says goodbye to life in this world, to life on earth, gradually losing these opportunities and thereby moving away from the world of the living. Therefore, it is no coincidence that memorial services are ordered on the 3rd, 9th and 40th days. These days represent special milestones that every soul passes when leaving our world.
After the nine-day mark, the soul goes to hell in order to see the torment of unrepentant sinners. As a rule, the soul does not yet know what kind of fate is in store for it, and the terrible torment that will appear before its eyes will have to shake it and make it fear its fate. But not every soul is given such a chance. Some go straight to hell without worshiping God, which occurs on the third day. These souls delayed the ordeal.
Ordeals are posts where souls are detained by demons, or they are also called the princes of ordeals. There are twenty such posts. Demons gather at each one and expose to the soul all the sins it has committed. At the same time, the soul does not remain completely defenseless.
Guardian angels are always nearby in these difficult moments.
The Guardian Angel represents to the demons the good deeds of the soul that are opposite to sins. For example, generous assistance can be pitted against accusations of greed. Blessed Theodora, whose authority deserves attention, testifies that most often people get stuck in ordeals because of adultery. Because this topic is so personal and shameful, people are often sensitive about having to talk about it in confession.
And this sin remains hidden, thereby erasing the entire confession. Therefore, demons win the war for their lives. No matter what actions you have committed, no matter how ashamed you are of them (this also applies to your intimate life), you must fully confess to the priest, otherwise the entire confession will not be counted.
If the soul does not go through all the ordeals, demons take it straight to hell. There she remains until the Last Judgment. Relatives and friends of the deceased can soften the fate of his soul with prayers, so it is better to order a commemoration in the church.
On the third day, the soul that was able to go through the ordeal goes through the worship of God.
Then she is shown all the beauties of paradise, in comparison with which earthly joys simply fade. The happiness that becomes available to a person in heaven is incomparable to anything. That's what the saints say.
Pure and beautiful nature, as it was before the fall of man, the fulfillment of all desires, righteous people who are all together, everything you can dream of - this is paradise. In hell there is none of this and all people are alone.
On the ninth day, the soul is brought down to hell as a spectator.
Having been in paradise and seen the righteous there, a person realizes that he deserves hell more than heaven because of his sins, so the soul awaits with great trepidation the period of 9 days after death. Prayer is very important here, with which loved ones help the soul. It is important to acquire a close connection with the soul of the deceased so that the verdict is rendered in favor of the Holy Place. You should order a service in the church so that your loved one has support from you.
Also at this time, you can think about how to arrange the burial site, for example, choose a granite monument.
9 days after death - commemoration of loved ones
First 9 days after death very difficult for the soul of a deceased person, so help your loved ones, order a memorial in the church, and it will be easier and calmer for you for your loved one and the soul of the deceased will be calm and peaceful. Not only church prayer is important, but also your personal one. Ask your father for help. He will help you master the special rules for reading the Psalter.
The custom of remembering loved ones at meals has been known since ancient times. Often, a wake is an occasion for relatives to get together, eat deliciously, and discuss business. In fact, people gather at the funeral table for a reason. Orthodox Christians should pray for those loved ones who have left the earthly world. Before starting a meal, it is necessary to perform a lithium without fail. This is a small rite of requiem, it can be performed by a layman. You can read Psalm 90 and Our Father.
Kutia is the first dish, which is actually eaten at the funeral. It is usually prepared from boiled wheat or rice grains with honey and raisins. The grain is a symbol of resurrection, and honey is the sweetness that the righteous enjoy in paradise. Kutya should be consecrated during the funeral service with a special rite; if this is not possible, it should be sprinkled with holy water.
The desire of the owners to provide everyone who came to the funeral with a tasty treat is understandable, but it does not exempt them from observing the fasts established by the Church. On Wednesday, Friday and, accordingly, during long fasts, eat only permitted food. If during Lent a funeral service falls on a weekday, it should be moved to Saturday or Sunday.
The pagan custom of drinking at graves has nothing in common with Orthodox customs. Every Christian knows that what brings joy to our deceased loved ones is prayer for them and the piety we bring, and not the amount of alcohol we drink.
At home, during the funeral meal, after the funeral service, a small glass of wine is allowed, which will be accompanied by a kind word addressed to the deceased. Do not forget that this is a completely optional thing at a wake. But other alcohol should be avoided altogether, as it will distract from the wake itself.
In Orthodoxy, the first to be seated at the funeral table are the poor and the poor, old women and children. You can also distribute the deceased’s belongings and clothes. You can hear many stories about cases when the charity of relatives helped the deceased, and received confirmation of this from the afterlife. Therefore, you can help the deceased by giving your savings to alms in order to benefit the soul in the afterlife.
The loss of a loved one can change your worldview, help you gain the desire to become a true Orthodox Christian, and take your very first step on the path to God. Start now to cleanse your soul, to confess, so that in the afterlife good deeds will prevail over sins.
9 days after death is a period during which the soul experiences many events and changes. What happens after the burial?
First 3 days
In the first 3 days, the soul is where it is important for it to be. For example, if a person was very attached to his body during life, he will be nearby. In the case where some people meant a lot to the deceased, he will spend his last time on Earth next to them. In fact, many documentaries talk about how some souls don't know what to do. Some start riding the subway and keeping an eye on relatives, others are trying to secure the future of their children. Everyone, if possible, tries to complete earthly affairs or look at something that is very significant for the last time.
Worship God
Worship is performed repeatedly: on the day of death, then on the third day, on the 9th day after the funeral, 40 days after repose, and also immediately before the Last Judgment. People who go to hell perform worship even after the judgment.
From 3 to 9 days
After 3 and up to 9 days after death, the soul explores the beauty of paradise. She sees the abode that is prepared for her. However, people who were vain, did mortal things and walked in evil ways will not enter heaven.
ordeals
9 days after death, the ordeal begins. They last up to 40 days. After death, we are surrounded by our sins. Each of our bad deeds has its own “guardian” - a demon. When the soul leaves the body, these demons surround it. There are so many lawlessnesses and troubles that they cannot be counted. These are all the sins a person committed during his lifetime. Some people think that after death the soul ascends upward and nothing can stop it. But this is not so, because it is the forces of evil that own the space between earth and sky. The Mother of God prayed not to see evil demons after death when she was preparing for the Rapture. Therefore, the Lord personally came to guide Her soul. This is noted on the icon of Rapture. As is clear, demons come not only to “ordinary” people, but also to selected dying people.
9 days after death: before and after
Until the ninth day there is a period of feeding and formation of the “body of eternity”. Relatives and clergy begin to carry out memorial procedures. Until the 9th day, the soul sees the delights of heaven, and after that - the torment and horrors of hell. On day 40 a place is assigned. Over the course of nine days, the deceased gradually ceases to hear relatives and friends, and he can no longer see them. He can make all contacts only by using his senses of smell and touch.
Why are these days celebrated?
After death, the soul travels for 9 days and finds out possible places of its stay. Until the very end, she does not know what fate is in store for her. She is shown both the beauties and delights of heavenly life (for a much shorter period of time) and the terrible events that occur in hell. During this time, relatives can pray earnestly and ask for a better fate until the Last Judgment occurs on the soul of the deceased. The correct behavior of loved ones can help the soul get to heaven. Therefore, it is very important not to be lazy, but to go to church and order prayer services. You also need to devote time to this activity yourself. And it needs to be done correctly. You can get clarification from your clergyman.
Days of commemoration: 9, 40 days and 1 year after death. All Souls Days and saints Orthodox. Parents' Saturday. Funeral service in Lent. Wake on the day of the funeral.
Days of remembrance of the dead among the Orthodox
Remembering a person who has passed away is a kind of mission, something obligatory, but at the same time performed without coercion - in memory of a loved one who is not around, but who remains forever in the hearts of people who remember him.
It is customary to remember the deceased on the day of the funeral, which according to Christian tradition are on the third day after death, on ninth And fortieth days, and also after a year after the loss.
Funerals on the 3rd and 9th day after death
Memorial Day after the funeral is very important. Those gathered to see off the deceased on his final journey offer prayers to God for the reassurance of his soul. On this day it is customary to cover large funeral table(you can find out what it should be like on the page “”) and have a leisurely meal, during which those present are given the opportunity to express their grief and say a few warm words about the departed person. How to issue an invitation to a wake - read the article. Read about how to formulate your thoughts at a wake and what words to choose on the “” page. 
The wake on the ninth day is best held in a small circle- with family and friends, - reading prayers and resurrecting in memory episodes of the deceased’s life that characterize him from the best sides. On this day, you can visit the grave of the deceased, refresh the flowers and once again mentally “talk” and say goodbye to your loved one.
40 days and 1 year (anniversary)
Funeral for 40 days (or forties) are no less significant than the events held on the day of the funeral. According to Orthodox beliefs, on the forties the soul of a departed person appears before God and its fate is decided, where it will go - to heaven or hell. On this day, relatives and friends should prepare large funeral table and invite everyone who knew the deceased and would like to remember him. On the forties, it is customary to visit the grave of the deceased and read prayers for the repose of his soul.
Memorial service for the departed
Through one year after death It is not necessary to hold a wake for a large number of people, it is enough to gather together at the family table and honor the memory of the deceased person. At the same time, on the anniversary of death visit the grave of the deceased and, if necessary, restore order there. A year after the sad event experienced, you can plant flowers, pine needles on the grave, tint the fence, or, if the monument was temporary, replace it with a permanent granite or marble monument.
Do I need to go to church for a funeral?
Funerals for 3, 9, 40 days, as well as 1 year later they assume Orthodox Christians holding church services. When visiting the temple, relatives of the deceased light candles, read prayers and organize memorial services. But let's add that this can be taken care of not only on memorial days, but also on ordinary days. So, you can light a candle and pray in church if something is bothering you and feelings about the departed person come flooding back again. You can offer prayers in the temple on the birthday of the deceased, on the day on which his name day fell, and at any other time whenever you want it. You can perform prayers on memorial days at home yourself or by inviting a clergyman.
Why do we need to pray for the dead?
And finally. Remembrance days should be met and seen off in a good mood, without holding a grudge against anyone, especially against the deceased person. During the funeral, it is also customary to distribute alms to those in need and treat funeral dishes to everyone who surrounds you on this day - neighbors, colleagues, friends.
