Did you like some man and terribly want to invite him on a date? Today we will tell you how to do it unobtrusively so that it does not refuse. Here you will find a list of suitable phrases, invitation methods. We will also discuss the topic: is it possible for a girl to call a guy first for a meeting. In addition, you will learn how to hint at a date, what to say and write.
The first step on the part of a woman is appropriate if:
- the guy has been sympathetic to her for a long time;
- the couple has known each other for more than a day;
- a man is distinguished by increased modesty or isolation;
- the girl is head over heels in love, and she doesn't care how it looks from the outside.
In advance, you need to clarify the marital status of the guy, so as not to invite a married man on a date.
Women's initiative is not as scary as it seems. But if a man is indifferent, you should not be active - there is a high risk of being refused. It is undesirable to invite him even when it will negatively affect the reputation of a woman (the boss invites a subordinate).
Invitation methods
If the lady nevertheless decided on such a gesture, she needs to correctly submit an offer. It can be done like this:
- via SMS - this can be convenient if a woman is afraid of rejection;
- through social networks;
- directly, in person;
- under an indirect pretext during real communication (there is an extra ticket to the cinema, theater, to a concert).
In real communication, it is worth finding out what the guy is fond of, and only then call him somewhere. Otherwise, going to a classical music concert may seem unattractive to a football fan.
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Phrases for making a date
Excessive ranting is not welcome here, so the following phrases will do:
- I have an extra movie/theatre ticket, would you like to come with me?
- I have an exhibition/performance coming up soon and it would be a real pleasure to have you at the event.
- We have so much in common! Would you like to continue communication tomorrow over a glass of wine in a restaurant?
- It would be interesting for me to continue this conversation with you tomorrow in an informal setting.
- It's my friend's wedding/birthday at the weekend, let's go together.
- I am looking for a company for a trip out of town for the weekend, are you free?
Phrases should be unobtrusive and short.
Usually, girls are embarrassed to invite men directly somewhere and are afraid that they may be refused, so they look for a suitable excuse. It could be a friends wedding, going to the movies, or even a broken laptop that needs to be fixed urgently. The task of the girl is to offer the man some leisure that can smoothly flow into interesting communication.
These phrases can also be used for SMS invitations. They are quite short, but at the same time effective.
For the next meeting to take place, you need. How to prepare for it, how to behave, what you can say, how to dress - in another material there are all the answers.
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How to hint a guy on a date
The initiative on the part of the woman does not have to be direct, you can just hint at a date and make him call first. Here's how to do it:
- The girl should emphasize that she will spend the next weekend alone, and this upsets her.
- If a man mentions an event, such as a concert, you can talk about your desire to go as well.
- A lady should establish tactile contact: accidentally take a man by the hand, hug him.
- When communicating, it is worth being cheerful, laughing at men's jokes, so that he wants to continue the conversation in an informal setting.
The main thing in such a situation is to focus on the man. A lady should emphasize in all available ways how interesting she is in the company of a guy, how much they have in common. Common interests will be an incentive to continue communicating at a concert of your favorite band or watching a new movie.
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Content:
Tired of sitting back and waiting for the guy of your dreams to want to invite you home? Break the traditional stereotypes and invite the guy yourself! Read this article to learn how to get a guy to visit you.
Steps
Part 1 Develop a plan of action
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Determine if he is already dating someone. This will save you time and effort, and give you enough time to adjust your plan if needed. Try asking around if you're not sure about the answer yourself.
- If he has a girlfriend, you can be sure that he will come along with her.
- Don't ask a guy directly if he has a girlfriend. It will reflect badly on you if he says "no" and it will not be fair if he says "yes" and abandons his mate.
- If it turns out that he is already dating someone, think of 1-2 other guys you would like to call.
- If you still can't figure out if he has a mate, don't worry. Invite anyway.
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Decide how you want to invite him. If you feel quite confident, then just invite him personally. If not, use a phone call, sms, email or do it through social networks.
- If you're planning on asking a friend to do it for you or whatever, then you need to think of a nice, deep way, like leaving a note in their locker.
Part 2 Make an offer
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Try to look your best. Wear something that gives you confidence and a sense of beauty on the inside and you will look confident and attractive on the outside. If you're planning on doing this in the middle of the school day, then run to the girls' room and make sure you don't have anything stuck in your teeth and that your hair is combed properly.
- In fact, you should try to look your best even when making invitations over the phone. Even though it seems to be not so important anymore, this will make you feel more confident, and it doesn't matter that the guy can't see you right now.
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Don't forget to smile! Smiling not only makes women more attractive, it also shows your sincere interest in him, your goodwill, and presents you as a person with whom it is fun to spend time.
- It doesn't matter what kind of guy it is - everyone wants to be around fun, cheerful people. Even if you feel shy or nervous, force yourself to smile - chances are good that this will also allow you to relax.
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Find the right time to invite him. Do not try to do this if you see that he is busy with something or in a hurry somewhere. If you are thinking of inviting him to school, do it during a break, at lunch, or between classes.
- If he is among people, take him aside so that there is an opportunity to talk in private. An invitation in front of others can be embarrassing for both you and him.
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Just ask. Whether you're inviting in person or not, start by saying something casual like "Hi, how are you?" before posting a question. Starting with a simple conversation, it will be easier for you to go on the subject of an invitation to visit. In addition, when your thoughts revolve around this topic, there is a good chance that the conversation will come to it naturally on its own.
- Try to include a reason, compliment, or incentive in your invitation. For example, say why you would like to go with him: "I would be very interested in spending time with you", or "You seem very nice to me, so I wonder if you would like to come to visit me."
- If you have any plans, like a limousine ride or a party with friends before the trip itself, let him know. Such incentives will show him how many interesting things will happen to him if he agrees!
- 5 Accept his answer kindly. Whatever he answers, "yes" or "no", you must maintain your composure and continue to act friendly. If for some reason he refuses, let him know that this is not a tragedy for you. If the answer is yes, make the necessary adjustments; agree on who will pick up whom, tell him what color the dress will be on you so that he coordinates his outfit with yours.
- Remember that you not required arrange a stereotypical date or visit. If you feel that this is not very suitable for you, go for a walk with friends instead! Either way, you'll have a great time.
- In order to increase your chances of success, invite the guy you are friends with or the one you like.
- Invite him in advance, as early as possible before the event, so that he does not have time to plan anything for this time.
- Please note that if he wants to go with you, he will agree in any case, in whatever form you invite him. If he doesn't want or can't agree, he will refuse you no matter what you wear. So don't spend too much time thinking about it.
Can't you dare to invite a guy home, even though you've been together for quite some time? And, despite the fact that the guy has been hinting for a long time that he is interested in how you live, does something inside you prevent you from doing this?
So how do you invite a guy over? Think about the reasons that do not allow you to invite the chosen one to visit. Sometimes the reasons are your own fears. In most cases, they can be easily understood and removed. Let's consider the main ones.
Maybe you are afraid that your proposal will be interpreted by the guy as a hint of sex?
Inviting a guy home does not oblige you to have sex. Everything will depend on your desire. There is nothing reprehensible in the fact that people invite each other to dinner or a cup of coffee. Under the invitation is not always hidden sexual overtones.
However, if this bothers you a lot, you can always tell the guy in advance for what purpose you are inviting him home and warn that while sex is not included in your plans. If he really understands you and is ready to come on such terms, feel free to invite him home.
If you still have doubts and want to play it safe, invite the guy home for a while while the parents are at home. Warn them about a future meeting with a guy and agree that after a short acquaintance they will not interfere with you. Similarly, warn the guy that you won't be home alone. If this does not bother him, then your boyfriend needs more than just sex from you and he does not treat you lightly.
Often girls are ashamed of their home environment or place of residence.
It is foolish to worry about the situation in your apartment. It is even more stupid if the apartment is parental or rented. After all, it is important for you that a young man appreciates you, and not your financial situation and living conditions. Just look at his reaction and the real attitude towards you.
Well, if something is malfunctioning at home, then your loved one will have a good opportunity to prove himself as a master and help you a little in the household. If the guy is intelligent and interested in you, then he will be pleased to provide you with such a small service. Naturally, he should not hint at the expectation of repair or assistance from him. Just don't hide your real living conditions and let the desire to help be his own initiative.
Are you embarrassed by your parents?
Often girls tend to look more financially secure than they actually are, especially at a young age, while living with their parents. But think, is it worth starting a relationship with a lie? And remember that the secret most often becomes clear.
Do not forget about worldly truth: parents are not chosen. Every family has something to be proud of. And your parents, whatever they are, also have their pluses and virtues. At a minimum, they created and raised you such a beautiful and wonderful girl - at least you can be proud of that.
And also remember that your boyfriend in the future (perhaps) will not live with your dad and mom, but with you. He will evaluate, first of all, not your parents, but you. And if you are ashamed of your family now, then it is highly likely that later you will be ashamed of him in the same way as part of your future family. Therefore, if for some reason you do not love or respect your parents, then at least just relax and calmly show them to the guy.
My house is a mess and not cleaned!
You need to prepare in advance for the arrival of the guy. Start by cleaning, let your boyfriend see how neat and clean you are. It is not necessary to do a "general" cleaning. The minimum is enough to put things in their places and wipe the dust in prominent places. Guys are usually not very demanding on cleanliness, but pay more attention to the order of things. However, if you have the time and desire, you can do a more global cleaning. But here you need to take into account that if your young man comes to you often, then you will have to maintain the same order at home as the first time, so as not to spoil his opinion of himself about this.
What to feed him?
Buy, and even better cook yourself, something delicious for tea. A hearty lunch is optional, because the guy did not come to you for food (we hope :-)). At the same time you will see with what gifts the guy came to visit. You should not expect him to order restaurant food either, but everyone can bring a box of cookies or sweets, a chocolate bar or a similar dessert for tea.
I don't know what to do with the guy
Usually this question does not arise at all, because you are talking about something on dates, the two of you are interested. Meeting at your home is no different from any other date in this regard, and you can do the same. And sometimes it’s very nice to just sit opposite each other, drink aromatic tea with delicious pastries and silently look into each other’s eyes, smile, enjoying the fact that you are nearby. Especially in cold or wet seasons.
Sometimes there are pauses in the conversation. Don't worry, it's normal. Of course, the best replacement for pauses is a kiss, but if sex is not in your plans this evening, it's better to just chat about some general topics, play a board game or watch a movie. You can tell the guy about your hobbies, hobbies, show their results. Alternatively, you can show your boyfriend your favorite books, videos, websites, or watch a family album together. Well, then go for a walk with the young man. If necessary, go with him to the store or somewhere else on another matter. That is, behave naturally and normally, involve the guy in your normal daily life.
The field of how the guy visits you, you are likely to get even closer to him. If you matter to a guy, he will appreciate your invitation, your preparations, and your relationship will become stronger, move to a new level. If something scares a guy away, then this is not your person, and there is no point in establishing a close relationship with him. And do not be upset that the apartment and financial situation for a young man is more important than you. Or are you looking for Alphonse? So, there he is and the road! And your person in any case will remain with you.
You meet a man quite recently, perhaps you only saw each other a few times, and now he invited you to visit. How to react? Do you agree? What to do if a man calls to his home? Let's talk about this.
First, you need to understand that if a man calls to his home, this does not mean that he will certainly count on sex and will harass you there. But he definitely does it for a reason. A man wants to look at your behavior and see if you can act more decisively or if you are not the type to sleep with on a second date. In other words, he wants to test you, study you, test the soil, or something.
Some men at home behave with a woman very correctly and only observe her behavior. Others may hint at intimacy, start frank topics, show some persistence in kisses. They also need to understand what kind of woman is in front of them. Maybe you can drag her into bed and not worry about a serious relationship. And still others can show assertiveness and even strength. Of course, there are those who, having crossed the threshold, try to force a woman to have sex, but I think that by the behavior of a man before getting to his house, you can determine what type he is.
Therefore, if a man calls to his home, there are several options for how to behave:
- Refuse, explaining that it is unacceptable for you to go home to an unfamiliar man. You can also, taking this opportunity, ask, why does he invite you home, what, is he hoping for something? And immediately say that you are not one of those girls who are given to a man just because he is handsome or treated them to dinner in a restaurant. Thus, you immediately indicate your position and let him know that you are a serious lady and if he is looking for a girl for an easy relationship, then you are not suitable for him.
- Agree, but say everything that was described in the first paragraph.
Why is it so important to explain your position about sex if a man calls to his house? So that your modest behavior and disagreement of intimacy would not be a complete surprise for him.
And even when you warned him about everything, you need to behave modestly when visiting a man so as not to disorient him. Taking a horizontal position, for example, is not recommended, because lying on a sofa or bed means inviting a man not to be shy and be bolder with signs.
Why am I not considering the option of coming to visit a man and surrender to him? Perhaps you also want this intimacy, why then you need to be modest?
Your close boyfriend, you can say a loved one, and perhaps only a friend invites you to visit him at home? You thought about it and decided to find out what is hidden under this proposal in the mind of a guy? It is for you in this topic that we will tell you what a guy means when he invites you to visit his home. We recommend that you read
IF A GUY INVITED ME TO HIS HOME
PARENTS: One of the most popular reasons why a guy invites to his house. Most likely, and more likely, he wants to introduce you to his parents, for example, your relationship has already gone deep, and he decided to more legitimize it from his parents. This, of course, does not mean that when inviting to visit him, he will require the approval of his parents and, if they do not agree in your relationship, he will refuse you, no, rather, he wants to bind you more tightly to himself. After all, you will be familiar with his parents and, perhaps, even make friends, which, of course, will bind you more to each other.Whether you agree to go to visit a guy to meet his parents or not depends on your feelings for him, so if you are ready to connect your life with him, then, naturally, there is nothing to hide and you should go to visit him and get to know his parents If in your future plans there is no guy who invited you to visit his home, then, naturally, you should not give him hope and agree to go to visit. We recommend that you read
OTHER OPTIONS: Above we looked at the most popular options for why a guy invites to his home, but these are just some of the possible reasons, and there are also others, such as, for example. He invites you to visit in order to show his house, how he lives, to get acquainted, so to speak, with his apartment and at the same time he may not have any thoughts of introducing you to his parents or sleeping with you. Also, as an option, an invitation to visit may sound like an invitation to some holiday, for example, your birthday, where you will not only be alone, but there will be an even larger company of yours and his friends and girlfriends.
