Unconditional love is not about kisses and passionate nights. It's much deeper. It's endless. It's deep. But is it possible? It turns out that all people have the ability to show unconditional love, but more interestingly and more importantly, during this process certain areas of the brain are activated, releasing dopamine, a chemical involved in the sensation of pleasure. To love unconditionally is also pleasant.
Unconditional love is difficult when we don't quite understand what it is. To love someone unconditionally means to love the very essence of a person, despite all the shortcomings and not expecting anything in return, including reciprocal love. While this is one of the more difficult concepts to grasp, watch out for these three fine lines:
1. Unconditional love is to love a person just like that, but it does not accept manipulation and violence
You support a person in any situation, go through good and bad with him. However, this is not blind devotion, painful attachment, or indulging in unworthy behavior. You want to see this person happy, without neglecting yourself or humiliating yourself. Many people use the term “unconditional love” as an excuse for their toxic relationships, pressure, or dominance. The victim may claim to be living with the abuser because of love. But sometimes love is also a decisive break, so that everyone feels better and easier.
2. Unconditional love seeks to ensure the happiness of another person, rather than being overprotective
Love is an action, not a feeling. This is a conscious choice that you make all the time, and it does not happen naturally. Helping loved ones and their support is important and necessary, but your desire to help should not harm them. In some cases, it is generally worth taking a wait-and-see attitude or the role of an outside observer for the good of a person. Let your neighbor go his own way and experience himself, but be there so that you can lend your shoulder in time.
3. Unconditional love involves respecting and making the life decisions of your loved ones without indulgence or indulgence.
Unconditional love is the complete acceptance of a person "as is." It does not imply deleting him from life, since you do not agree with someone else's life choices. Take a "less caring" attitude, that is, avoid controlling his behavior and value judgments. No, this does not mean standing on the sidelines and watching someone in danger - it is showing respect for choice. Unconditional love is support and help only when needed.
Why is this unconditional love needed if it does not make life easier, but rather difficult?
Unconditional love can change you and your loved one. It is a matter of balance and balance that requires you to continually correct both your actions and your attitude. But the result is worth it. What are the benefits? - you ask.
- You learn to accept and love yourself.
- You are learning empathy.
- You deal better with change and frustration.
- You better understand what true love is.
10 keys to understanding unconditional love
How can mortals love endlessly? How can we overcome our natural urge to be a little selfish and stop expecting life's benefits from our own good actions?
1. Practice forgiveness.
2. Practice empathy for others.
3. Learn to love yourself unconditionally.
4. Practice open and honest communication.
5. Love is not a thing without size that will fit anyone: what can be useful for one person will only harm another.
6. Accept yourself and others as they are.
7. Accept and respect the boundaries of your loved ones.
8. Choose a loving attitude. Ask yourself in every situation, what will be your love-bearing reaction?
9. Don't try to be a shield. Let your loved ones "get sick", but support them in the "recovery" process.
10. Help every day without asking for anything in return.
Probably every person has faced relationship problems in his life.
At first, our parents did not understand us. Then we stopped understanding a loved one, children, spouse, work colleagues, etc.
Misunderstanding and rejection is growing among humanity like a snowball.
Every day life teaches us the same lessons, which for some reason we are not able to grasp.
What are these lessons?
The answer is simple - Love unconditionally yourself and other people.
Ultimately, all life lessons come down to one thing - to learn to love unconditionally. It is both easy and difficult.
Before answering this question, it is necessary to understand what conditional love is.
Conditional love is when we love conditionally: “If you behave well, I like you, I love you”, “If you bring high marks from school, I love you”, “If you don’t deceive me, I love you”, “If you bring home a lot of money, I love you, ”“ If you don’t cheat on me, I love you, ”etc. Got it?
That is, conditional love is when we set conditions, when we love for something.
Can you accept a person as he is?
Do you want to be accepted for who you really are?
Take a close look at yourself, hear how you pronounce these conditions. Many of them sit on a subconscious level. But they can be seen from those situations, from those problems that we meet in life.
This is a message to us from ourselves - how we do not love and do not accept ourselves and how we do not love and do not accept our loved ones and those around us. We all need love like air, our loved ones need it as well.
Unconditional love is when we love and fully accept ourselves, this is when we love and accept those close to us and the people around us as they are, and not as we would like to see them. Do not impose on them your notions of what to say, how to behave, and how and what to do. Ultimately, all of this shows you how you would like to be yourself.
So become like that!
Do not demand the impossible from others! They have their own tasks in this world. They came to this world for their own lessons, not yours. They came into this world to live their own lives, not yours, which, as you may say to yourself in your moments of self-revelation, "failed" or "not entirely successful."
Don't try to change the world without changing yourself.
Don't try to change your neighbor.
This is how violence enters our lives.
"The road to hell is paved with good intentions!"
Change yourself first.
Changing, we change the world around us.
If we change, those around us will also change, our lives and our loved ones, who are connected with us by very close ties, will change.
Not right away, have patience, but this will surely happen, because the external is a reflection of the internal.
Unconditional love is like the love that a woman experiences when she gives birth to a child and takes him in her arms for the first time. At this moment, it all glows. Then it becomes clear that love is light.
She loves her child with everyone.
He does not let her sleep, sometimes he hurts her, he stains the diapers, he takes time, but she loves him, loves him unconditionally.
But months pass, and conditional love begins to creep out to the surface, gradually displacing unconditional: "If he sleeps peacefully and does not shout, I love him", "If he gives me the opportunity to do household chores, I love him."
If the opposite happens, irritation, anger and other negative energies enter life, and they, in turn, attract other situations. The wheel of karma begins to run. The outside reflects the inside. Like attracts like.
Hate attracts hate, love attracts love.
Only unconditional love can heal a person and help him realize himself in life.
I was struck by one example related to unconditional love, which is very revealing.
An evangelical preacher from Finland spoke about this in a sermon. This is the story of his life.
He had a brother, a drug addict who lived in New York, and a father who was an alcoholic. This went on for a very long time, and he could do nothing to help them. At some point in time, he realized what unconditional love is, let it in. And, as they say in the books, "a miracle happened." The brother recovered from drug addiction, and the father stopped drinking. He realized that he loved them conditionally. He realized that he loved the thoughts of them, not themselves.
Another example that happened to me. We all have problems communicating with our own children. We all don't like something about their behavior. However, we do not even realize that our children reflect ourselves. They reflect some trait in us that we do not like, for which we do not love ourselves, and sometimes even hate. But we will never admit this to ourselves, because it would mean to look directly and honestly at ourselves, at our face. And it can be very unsightly. Therefore, we put on all kinds of masks, just not to see the truth and not show people what is true that is inside us. Therefore, we do not like it when we are shown ourselves.
In addition to the fact that we transmitted our own fears and blocks to children genetically, in addition to the fact that they absorbed our beliefs from the atmosphere of the house, in addition to all this, we literally provoke them by the presence of our fears, blocks, beliefs. They reflect ourselves as if in a mirror. Our thoughts simulate a situation in which they behave in this way. If you do not like something in others, then it is present in you. Search. Like attracts like. The outside reflects the inside.
So, here's an example from my own life.
My daughter had one bad habit. In certain situations, she began to behave as if she deliberately annoyed me, which, of course, I did not like. I tried to somehow cope with this situation, tried to reason with my daughter, to bring up, but this, of course, did not help.
Before changing others, change yourself first!
At some point, I suddenly broke through, and I realized that she wanted to tell me something about myself with such behavior.
She reflects me! (I wonder why I was blind up to this point?) And I went inside myself. I didn't see anything at first. You need to have a great desire to know the truth, honesty and courage to see yourself as you really are. And this can be very painful.
And I saw it. I saw that I had something for which I did not love my daughter. And I saw something for which I did not love and did not accept myself. The light of consciousness illuminated one of the dark corners of my soul. Then I just had to forgive and accept myself for who I really am - not a very attractive process, especially when you consider that we have been taught all our lives that we should (!) Strive to become better. And it really should be so, but how can we become better if we do not see who we really are?
When this happened, when I saw myself as real and forgave, and it happened within an hour, my daughter immediately changed her behavior pattern. I never saw this character trait in her again. I have changed, she also changed with me.
What does it mean to accept yourself as you are and forgive yourself?
Imagine that your one-year-old child takes something very dear to you and accidentally breaks it.
Your thoughts, feelings and actions?
Now imagine that your ten-year-old son or daughter did the same thing, only before that you asked them a hundred times not to touch this thing. Do you feel the difference?
In the first case, you reconciled yourself, forgave the child - what can you take from him? - and accepted what is. You have accepted the fact, you have accepted reality as it is.
In the second case, you don’t want to accept the fact, you don’t want to forgive.
Close your eyes and imagine both of these situations right now, without postponing the matter on the back burner, and compare the feelings. You will understand what it means to forgive and accept. You will understand what it means to take a situation for granted.
A person does not know how to forgive himself or others, which is why I gave an example with a baby. The feeling of unconditional love is still alive here. The process of forgiving and accepting oneself is very similar to the process of repentance, repentance and humility. All this must come from the heart, otherwise nothing will happen.
Become aware of your behavior towards the people around you and those close to you. Notice what you dislike about their behavior, what annoys you about them. This is your next thought-form (belief, block) that has risen to the surface from the subconscious and simulates a situation so that you once again try to go through the lesson of forgiveness and unconditional love. And you will constantly face this until you complete the lesson. If you do not like rudeness, then either it is inherent in you, or there is a conviction in you that you are a weak person and a victim. In either case, you will attract situations to yourself until you understand something definite about yourself and the outside world.
Yes, what has just been said, at first glance, does not inspire optimism and love for life. But this is only at first glance. In fact, the opposite is true. This is perhaps the most optimistic information you have ever received in your life. In order to move forward, you need to know where we are and what we really have.
How can we change ourselves if we do not know who we are and what we are? What should we change then?
How can we grow spiritually if we don't even admit to ourselves that we are capable of lies and deception?
You can lie to others because sometimes it hurts and can be dangerous to open up to people. They can use it against you. They are just like you, afraid of this world and taking steps to protect themselves. Just notice how you do it every time. But don't lie to yourself. Information gained from honest dialogue with yourself is the most optimistic information that can appear in your life. Because the light of consciousness expels darkness from our souls. This is a step towards unity with oneself, this is a step towards unity with the world, this is a step towards unity with God.
Who among us can say about himself that he is a saint?
Therefore, we must learn to honestly look into ourselves and accept ourselves as we really are. We need to learn to love ourselves for who we really are. How can we take a step towards inner perfection if we do not accept ourselves?
The runner must push off the ground to run forward. Likewise, we must see and accept what is hidden within us in order to start moving forward. This is true self-love. Otherwise, we will again and again drive the negative aspects of our personality deep inside, afraid to honestly look into our eyes, and situations in which we will suffer will happen to us again and again.
Dealing with our own masks, we can endlessly “strive for perfection”, but nothing will ever change until we see ourselves as true.
Having learned to understand and accept ourselves, having learned to love ourselves, we will learn to understand, accept and love other people. This is love and compassion for one's neighbor.
How can we love another person if we don't know how to love ourselves?
How can we help another person if we have not been able to help ourselves?
How can we give our neighbor what we ourselves do not have?
How can we understand that we are loved if we do not know what love and respect for ourselves are?
AND NOW, EVERYONE ASK YOURSELF AND ANSWER YOURSELF HONESTLY, NOT DEADLY - ARE YOU ABLE TO LOVE WITHOUT CONDITIONAL OR ONLY PLAYING IN LOVE, FOOLING YOURSELF AND OTHERS?
What is unconditional love and how does it relate to spiritual growth and enlightenment? Is unconditional love like ordinary human love?
Wikipedia defines unconditional love as follows: a spiritual term that expresses a person's love for everything around him without any conditions and the desire to receive anything from him in return. Thus, unconditional love is complete absence.
By definition, unconditional love does not set conditions, does not create restrictions, that is, it provides complete freedom. It is also correct to say that unconditional love no matter what.
But when there is total acceptance, the receiver himself disappears (see), that is, there is no longer either the receiver or the object of acceptance, there is no feeling of separation. In other words, there is no source of love, no love object — no separation.
It turns out that love (in human understanding) contradicts the concept of "unconditional", because as long as there is false, unconditional love is impossible.
A synonym for unconditional love, in addition to total acceptance, may be the original (unmanifest) consciousness, etc., something not identified and not dual.
It is impossible to love unconditionally, since this will immediately create a subject-object relationship, which makes unconditionality impossible; but one can be this very unconditional love, emerging from the dualistic division of the world. For this there are.
In addition to this small and many incomprehensible article, I would like to say that every person has at least one true friend who loves him unconditionally - this is God who lives in everyone's heart. Of course, for many people this statement is controversial, but who if not God can show us unconditional love? There is a wonderful book on this topic, The Voice of a Loving Conscience. In this book, there is a real dialogue between God and the soul, which seeks to comprehend the highest truth. This spiritual discourse was recorded and then published as a book and now as an online book, The Voice of a Loving Conscience, which can also be downloaded in several different convenient formats.
Why is the book called that? Simply because our inner voice of conscience is the voice of God who loves us unconditionally, who is always ready to help us if we sincerely turn to Him. It is said that God is always “in touch,” and first He speaks to us in a whisper of love; if we stop listening, the Lord manifests himself as a conscience, the voice of which we hear inside; but if we do not want to hear this voice, there is only one way to reach our minds - through suffering. And even our suffering is a manifestation of the Creator's unconditional love, which becomes clear as we read this unusual wonderful book, which is read in one breath.
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Unconditional love… How to revive this wonderful feeling within yourself? Learn to to love this world without evaluating, not selectively. And certainly, guided by the heart.
Any living organism that exists on our huge Planet was created by Unconditional Love. And we humans are no exception. The only difference is that the whole living world(animals, birds, plants, microorganisms) knows how and accepts this love. And we, due to our negative emotions and beliefs, eventually closed our hearts to love. We stopped radiating it, plunging headlong into the hustle and bustle of everyday life.
Unconditional love is the energy with the highest vibrational frequency... It heals, brings life and dissolves, transforms any negative aspects and phenomena. Old grudges, trauma, mental pain, illness - everything disappears if you channel the flow of unconditional love there. By raising your vibrations and radiating positive emotions, you are filled with unconditional love.
How to understand that She (unconditional love) is She?
Feeling unconditional love is a state of elation! When you feel inner freedom and want to embrace the whole World. This is a whole palette of wonderful sensations that fill you from the inside. When you experience a feeling of unconditional love, your consciousness expands.
You feel an inextricable connection with your higher aspects and with the Creator. it feeling of Lightness, Acceptance and Forgiveness. You accept not only those around you, but the whole World as it is. No conditions, no complaints, no evaluations with joy and love.
When your heart is filled with unconditional love, you are completely open to life. You broadcast it to the outside world, and in return you get the same thing! Only the stream going to you is hundreds of times more powerful! Feeling unconditional love with every cell of your being, you raise your vibrations to the maximum frequency.
In this exalted state, you can direct the flow of unconditional love wherever you go. She is capable transform any low frequency energies and vibrations.
By directing the energy of unconditional love to a sore spot in the body, you thereby heal it. By giving unconditional love to those around you, you develop harmonious relationships. Filling your heart with this feeling, your Soul is in peace and harmony. Living with a feeling of unconditional love means constantly feeling the support of the Universe in your life.
How to revive unconditional love in yourself
You just need to remember. Take and remember this feeling with your heart. After all, it lives in each of us, but for some - somewhere deep inside. In childhood, we knew this feeling very well and carried it to the world around us. Remember the childish spontaneity. How kids love everything that surrounds them, including themselves. How they look at the world with wide-open eyes, in which sparks of unconditional love shine. But, over time, we forgot her and our hearts closed.
Theta meditation will help you experience the flow of unconditional love.
- Start loving yourself with unconditional love... With all its features: plump or too thin, with large or small breasts, feminine and not very - no matter what. The main thing is to love yourself unconditionally, without any assessment, claims and self-flagellation. You can broadcast to others only what is in you. their. This is one of the laws of the universe, and it works!
- Receive your loved ones with all "their cockroaches", habits and judgments. Love them for what they are! They live next to you and give you their attention, support and love. Do not try to change them, but change yourself! Raising your vibrations and filling with unconditional love.
- Learn to accept this world unconditionally, and not from the position: "I am for you, and you are for me!" Love, Acceptance and Gratitude work miracles! As you live your life with unconditional love in your heart, you gain wings. And with ease and joy you follow your Path, led by the Creator and the Universe himself!
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For Unconditional Love to flow in you continuously - rejoice at every moment of your life, every little thing: rejoice in the morning sun, the scent in the air after the rain, the chirping of sparrows, the laughter of children in the yard, a delicious dinner, snowflakes on the window ...
The heart chakra will open, Unconditional Love will flow in a powerful stream.
Learn to ignore problems.
Better rejoice at them too - and they will disappear in fright.
Unconditional Love is the greatest power, and it creates unimaginable things, you will see for yourself.
Self-attunement to the Energy of Unconditional Love.
"I ask you, Lord, to tune me into the energy of Unconditional Love right now." Or "Lord, I ask you to put Unconditional Love in my heart." As you like, in your words - the main thing is that the request comes from the very heart.
When used regularly, the energy opens up the heart chakra very strongly. The feeling of a holiday appears in your soul. Energy can be sent by intention (just thinking about a person, a situation), as well as through the palmar chakras.
As long as the energy of Unconditional Love flows in you, you are completely protected - from an accident, from theft, from an attack, from an evil word. It is as if you are enveloped in a radiant magic cloud that protects you from all manifestations of negativity. In an unpleasant situation, feel free to use this energy: instead of being afraid or annoyed, invoke Unconditional Love. It will immediately eliminate both fear and anger, and not only in you, but also in the people around you, and will immediately harmonize the situation.
Constantly open heart chakra will make your life easy and happy. All problems will be practically solved by themselves. People will feel inexplicable sympathy for you, as a result of which you will forget what a "difficult relationship" is. For according to the cosmic law, "what's inside is outside." - If you have Love, then Love reigns around.
Direct Unconditional Love towards yourself and others, not only for peace and joy, but also for healing.
For Unconditional Love has powerful healing properties.
Being a high-frequency energy, it perfectly dissolves negative energies and blocks.
Treatment technique.
Contact session. You put your hands on the problem area or keep at some distance from it. You can also do a full session with all Reiki hand positions.
Remote session. Call on the energy and think about the person (or his illness, his problem) for a while. Just do not force yourself: if you are "tired" of thinking, end the session. You can put the image of a person between the palms - the energy flows through the palmar chakras.
Working with relationships (situation). Call on the energy and think about the relationship (situation). For example, if your relationship with someone is not going well, be sure to think about that person by turning on Unconditional Love for at least a few minutes every day. It will not be difficult for you to do this, since Love will overwhelm you. It is very possible that after the first "session" your enemy will forget all his claims and be filled - without knowing why - with sympathy for you. Well, in the event of extreme hostility, he will at least become indifferent to you.
Working with the past and the future. Call on the energy and remember an unpleasant situation or illness in the past. Gradually, the past will begin to change for the better. If you are going to take an exam or go to a conversation with the boss or something else related to the future, generate energy and think about the situation, imagine that everything turned out well.
Working with desires. It is pertinent to quote here an excerpt from Klaus Joule's The Messenger.
Creating with Love what you want.
“It’s very easy to do, and it works so perfectly that you’ll wonder what’s going on. Simply, following the instructions, open your heart and begin to radiate love, and then imagine what you want to create, see it in your mind and feel it with your emotions, as if you already have it, and then just send a huge volume into this picture. love. Repeat this every other day until it manifests itself in your physical reality. Some things will appear literally the next morning, others will take more time, but when you get what you wanted, it will be more than expected, and, indeed, with love ... ".
Unconditional Love can be sent to any living being without asking his permission.
Invoke Unconditional Love as often as possible. Each time your heart chakra will open wider and wider. Your affairs will go better and better, you will simply be "lucky" in all respects. It is said that a person whose heart chakra is constantly and wide open is gradually getting rid of all bad karma. In this case, the circle of his reincarnations ends, since there is no need for a new incarnation.
