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How to change your life for the better - where to start (psychology)? The most important answer to this question is obvious and suggests itself: you need to make the final decision, as they say, “craze” and no longer put it off. This article is an effective, and most importantly, simple technique with which in just 4 weeks you will change your life for the better in every area.
I really hope you stop and finally move from reading many tips to action! The technique is very simple, itemized and has only 4 blocks (a week for each block).
A small but useful tip: get yourself a Personal Diary. I assure you, as soon as you begin to make efforts on yourself and “drag” yourself into a new life, many thoughts will appear that are interesting to write down.
I promise, if you overcome your laziness and follow all the steps, you won't recognize yourself in a month!
Week #1. Clear the body
Exercise 1. Start getting up at 6 am!
Get up at 6 am and you will have time for yourself while your family is sleeping. Admit it, because there is never enough time for yourself. And you can’t finish reading a book, put things in order in an old closet, start learning English, start doing exercises, etc.
Morning is the perfect time to do something useful and new for yourself. When you are lazy, do not want to get up - this does not mean fatigue at all, but says that you do not want to live a little more than “normal”. You don't want to get up because you don't like your job. Remember that day when you had to get up at 6 in the morning in order to go to the airport on vacation in Thailand. On such a day, everyone jumps up with joy!
Conclusion: in order to easily get up at 6 in the morning, you need to build a life for yourself into which you want to break into your life every morning and learn a lot of new things with interest, including about yourself!
Task #2. Start Light Eating!
It takes a tremendous amount of energy to do the work of changing your life for the better. And your body is already having a hard time, because it supports your simple “normal” life, despite alcohol, cigarettes, fatty foods, sweets, etc. This list goes on, everyone has their own.
You can choose the type of food that seems right to you, or at least give up something that is not healthy or even harmful. For example, I refused not for a month, but forever from sweet soda, chips, cookies, convenience foods, ketchup, moyonnaise, fast foods and similar products that have nothing to do with a healthy diet. I also don't eat meat on Wednesdays and Fridays. This unloads the body, gives it a little rest, and even has a spiritual meaning.
So, harmful - exclude, and portions - reduce. Don't forget to drink water throughout the day. And don't eat before bed. Feed your body healthy, light, delicious food. And he will thank you with the energy that you need for decisive action!
Task #3. Start playing sports!
Please don't whine! Sport is the most important thing for a strong spirit and determination. To awaken your determination, you need to stir up a tired body. You can choose any options: dancing, fitness, running, swimming. And if sports are not your thing, you can go the simplest way - in the morning, instead of exercising, do the Planck exercise for 2 minutes and walk 4-5 km a day (for example, go out a couple of stops before work and walk and don’t use the elevator anymore - go up the stairs.
Week #2. Clear space, environment and affairs
Exercise 1. Clear your space!
This is a difficult task - you need to throw away everything that has not been used for more than a year! If you stuff everything on the mezzanine, the task will not count. We have heard many times from psychologists and coaches that every unnecessary thing in our house takes not only space, but also our energy. That you need to make room for new and really useful things.
Finally put this knowledge into practice. Leave only the necessary things and those that inspire and delight. Do a general cleaning, remove dust in the farthest corners.
Task #2. Clear your thoughts of deeds and obligations!
For many years, many of us have promised ourselves to learn English, quit smoking, or go to the countryside to visit our aunt, whom we last saw as a child. There are many plans that we carry over from year to year!
So, psychologists say that each such point of the plan “pulls” energy from us, because deep in the subconscious we “think” about it. What to do with it? You can solve this problem right now. Remember all the promises you made to others or to yourself. And decide what to do with it.
There are 3 options: 1) start to perform, 2) refuse for good and delete it from the list of plans, 3) reschedule for a clearly defined time or indicate a clear condition for implementation. For example, it is not critical for me to start learning English NOW. I will start teaching when the motivation appears, for example, I plan to travel 2 times a year to different countries.
Task #3. Clean up your environment!
This is a common problem. It is inconvenient for us to end relationships with people, although we know for sure that we do not need these relationships, because they plunge us into depression, weigh us down, and pull us back. I assure you that this is false modesty. Right now, you need to make a decision not to communicate anymore with those who have nothing to learn from, who are not satisfied with everything, criticize everyone, dictate their opinion to everyone.
Learn to say no to these people. Pay any price for your freedom, even if you hear accusations against you that you are "ungrateful", "ill-mannered" and so on.
Important! Parents are an exception. With parents, on the contrary, relations must be established, no matter how difficult it may be.
Week #3. Start writing down dreams, goals and plans
Exercise 1. Start writing and making plans!
A personal diary will come in handy. In it, you can write not only plans, but also your thoughts. You already have a task plan from the previous weeks. If you don’t want to do some of them, either do it right away, or cross it out, or postpone it for a clearly defined time (as with learning English). In all these options, you will get a surge of strength and a great desire to live and create.
Just do not fool yourself again, but write such goals and objectives in the plan that you really want to accomplish. So that your hands itch with anticipation and you want to start doing it as soon as possible and with great enthusiasm.
Motivation can be a phrase that must be repeated every morning. Start writing a really INTERESTING book of your life - a chapter a day!
Task #2. Write a list of "incredible plans"!
This is the most interesting task. Imagine that you have everything (money, time) to make your most incredible dream come true. For example, to climb Everest or something like that. Make a list of such incredible plans. I assure you that many of them will come true in a few years and will seem very modest to you.
Task #3. Plan daily!
Get into the habit of writing out the next day's agenda in the evening. You can write in your paper Personal Diary or electronic, it doesn't matter (here are the best personal diary mobile apps - Penzu, Diaro). Let it be a very short plan, the main thing is that it be. What for? you ask. Even if you never remember the previous day's plan again, your productivity for that day will increase exponentially.
Important! Do not forget about the global plan, check if you deviate from the main course?
Week #4 Expand your boundaries
Exercise 1. Start living differently!
Even in small things, start living and doing everything differently. Go to work the other way, and you will meet new people, you will see new beautiful streets. Go to another cafe. Finally decide to go to an expensive store. Try a new hobby like skiing, Latin American dancing. It's educational and fun. Don't be afraid to do things you don't have experience with.
It is important to gain self-confidence and cultivate the habit of not being afraid to go off the beaten path, to easily start doing something new!
Task #2. Get out of your comfort zone!
Did you really manage to complete all the previous tasks? If yes, then you have already managed to leave your comfort zone! But you need not to stop, but to go further and look boldly into the eyes of your fears and fight them.
Only radical methods will help. Are you afraid of heights? We need to jump with a parachute. If you are afraid of the boss, get ready and come to him with a new idea. If you are afraid of the company of strangers - go to a party, and do not talk with your girlfriend about how to overcome this fear. Are you afraid to change jobs or start your own business? Do not delay, write a resume and find a new job. Do not be afraid! Now the times have come when it is easy to find a new job or learn a new one, even for free, for example, with the help of
Other helpful articles: .It is also important to have rest alone with yourself and allow yourself not to think about anything, but only to contemplate the beauty of the world around you. Or stop after all the fuss and honestly ask yourself if everything is fine, how to live on?
Summary
You are already at the beginning of the journey. If you ask “How to change your life for the better - where to start?”, then some part of your soul longs for a new life. So take advantage of the moment, please, do not delay, but conduct this experiment. Just 1 month of doing simple tasks and you will not recognize your life. Let it be just a path at the beginning, but then it will turn into a real interesting road with exciting adventures.
In conclusion, watch this wonderful and useful video from the famous psychologist, coach Pavel Kochkin, "How to find yourself (7 stages)". Answer his questions and understand where you are stuck and how to move on.
I wish you all patience, inspiration and a lot of strength to make your dreams come true!
There are always plenty of reasons to start life from scratch. For example, you are done with an unhealthy and humiliating relationship and now want to turn the page and forget your ex like a bad dream. Or perhaps you are not satisfied with the current state of affairs and you dream of moving to another country. The French psychological encyclopedia of useful tips for all occasions offers a universal sequence of actions.
Stage 1. Make a decision
1. Determine the motives
Think carefully about the reasons that prompt you to radical changes in your life. Some of them will be more weighty, some less.
For example, you were left alone in an empty house for the first time in many years: the children grew up and left. In this case, the desire to rebuild your life is completely natural. You no longer need to take care of children, it's time to think about yourself.
But maybe you want to change your life in order to protect yourself from unpleasant experiences. In this case, external changes are unlikely to help, because they will not solve your internal problems. Emotional baggage will follow you anywhere in the world. Before you try to start a new life, you need to deal with it.
2. Analyze all recent important events in your life
What has happened to you lately? Marriage, death of a family member, loss of a friend or job, major financial or health changes, moving house, pregnancy?
All of these events could profoundly affect your emotions. Some of them made you happier, others caused a lot of stress and anxiety.
If you have recently gone through something similar, it would be wiser to postpone making an important decision.
Especially when it comes to the death of a loved one. Give yourself time to get over the grief. Mourning is a necessary stage, without which you will not be able to survive a traumatic event. Do not rush to quickly forget everything and move on.
To successfully start a new life, it is necessary to revise old habits. Make sure that the expected changes are based on worthy motives, and not on the desire to run from the past. After all, running away doesn't solve the problem in the end.
Maybe you are used to ignoring conflicts and problems? What is your first reaction to a stressful situation? Do you stick to your beliefs, goals, and plans during difficult times?
4. Look at your value scale
Values are your beliefs about yourself, others and life in general. They are like a roadmap for your life path.
Before you make a decision that will completely change the course of your life, it is worth reviewing your values. Only by understanding what you really want will you be able to prioritize.
Ask yourself some questions. For example, about two people you admire. Which of their qualities command your respect? Why? How might this affect your own life? Listen to what these people have to say and identify the topics that inspire you the most or make you want to take action.
The answers to these questions will help you understand your own values: ambition, striving for something new, attitude towards social justice, etc.
Don't forget that there are no high or low personal values. For one, flexibility may be important, while for another, stability is most important. Both choices are correct if they are exactly yours, and not imposed from outside! The question is to understand who you really are and live in accordance with your true aspirations.
5. Determine the scope of the desired change
For some, the beginning of a new life can mean a move, new friends, a new job, and so on. For others, it may be a change in old habits and lifestyles.
Think about why you are unhappy or disappointed. Is global change necessary to change the status quo, or is it wiser to focus on one or two issues?
Don't forget: if you start small and gradually pick up the pace, the chances of success are much greater than if you are trying to become a different person right here and now.
6. Practice improving your self
Imagine your life at a certain point in the future in full detail.
- What will your environment be like?
- Where will you live?
- What are you going to do?
- What to feel?
Try to create the clearest possible picture.
Let's say you're a famous musician, you have your own band, and you're touring all over the world with performances.
Now consider what strengths and skills are needed to achieve your goal.
- What do you already have?
- What do you lack knowledge about?
Be as honest as possible with yourself.
For example, if you like the profession of a musician, do you have at least a slight inclination towards this, or do you just like the idea itself?
Imagine your future realistically. Obviously, you can't become Superman even if you set out to do so.
But if a superhero story matches your values, what's stopping you from being inspired by their example? For example, if you like Superman's desire for justice - you can also fulfill this mission by working as a policeman or a judge. Are you attracted to the physical strength of your character? In this case, you can improve your form by joining a gym. Or even later become a coach and help other people come to the sport.
7. Set goals
As Lao Tzu said, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." The first step in your journey is to identify the steps it will take to change your life.
Plan what you will be doing in six months, a year, three years, five years, ten years, twenty years or more.
Set yourself clear, realistic, reasonable goals and limit the time for achieving them.
Start by defining the main goal, and then divide into smaller ones and turn them into specific tactical objectives.
Suppose you want to fight for justice, so you decide to become a police officer. By making this decision, you have simply identified your main goal. To achieve it, you must implement a lot of intermediate:
- improve your physical fitness in order to pass physical entrance tests;
- make inquiries on how to get into the police academy, etc.
When setting goals, make sure you are as specific and precise as possible.
Stage 2. Start the change
To start a new life, you may need to change many aspects of life: physique, emotions, place of residence, social status, financial situation, profession, etc.
1. Determine the scope of change
For significant changes, the list of goals and tactical tasks can be very long. But if your goal is limited, for example, exclusively to finding a new job, points may be much less.
2. Create a plan for how to change your appearance
For some, improving health or fitness is a fresh start in life. The good news is that bodily changes are usually not too difficult to implement. Developing healthy habits, shedding extra pounds, strengthening muscles - all this can be done by discussing with your doctor what measures will work best for you.
Express yourself through the way you dress. Your clothes convey to others your attitude towards yourself, and they perceive you in the same way. Change the image in accordance with the picture of yourself in the future, which was drawn in your head, and it will be easier to achieve your goal.
3. Deal with emotional baggage
This step may take some time. Keep in mind that this is an ongoing process that lasts a lifetime.
By changing your behavior and learning to manage your emotions, you can get rid of excess burden and look at the world from a different angle.
Here are some ideas to help you in this endeavor.
Keep a gratitude journal. Learn to be grateful for what you have, and at the same time learn to adapt to changes faster, improve your physical condition and even the quality of sleep, become more satisfied with life and be able to overcome the effects of some traumatic events.
Farewell. Forgiveness releases the burden of painful and destructive situations that you have lived in. You forgive others for your own sake. Forgiveness is the first thing you need - it helps to cope with anger and anxiety.
Wear mourning. Allow yourself to “mourn” and experience the grief of loss as much as you need, do not try to speed it up for the sake of public opinion. The period of mourning is absolutely normal, it takes time and patience. Recognize that your grief deserves your full attention.
Take care of yourself. Recognize that you have needs, like everyone else, and satisfying them is not selfishness, but a necessity. You don't have to accept every invitation or respond to every request. It's okay to make time for yourself.
4. Consider a change of scenery
A change of scenery, be it a new job, a new circle of friends, or a new place of residence, teaches greater autonomy and flexibility. Breaking out of the routine, you improve your performance and increase the chances of success.
5. Audit Your Environment
If the environment demoralizes you, it will be difficult to start a new happy life. Perhaps, having honestly assessed the impact that the people around you have on you, you decide to no longer communicate with some of them for your own safety and peace of mind.
How to understand that a person shows hidden hostility towards you:
Surround yourself with people from whom you find the understanding, respect and love you deserve.
6. Clean up your relationship
Don't hesitate to end unhealthy relationships that don't bring you happiness. This is how you start the path to a new, happier and healthier life.
Here are some ideas how to end a toxic relationship:
- Talk to the person frankly. In some cases, he may not understand what is causing you pain or stress. Be frank and honest and try to understand if he is ready for compromises. If not, he has nothing to do in your life.
- Appreciate the benefits of the relationship. Of course, it's one thing to refuse to communicate with an unpleasant neighbor, and quite another to cut off all ties with your parents. Before ending a relationship, see if it brings you something you need, even if it is full of difficulties and negativity. Conversely, just because a relationship is enjoyable doesn't necessarily mean it's good for you.
- Prioritize relationships that make you happy. Make a list of people who can help you and bring you the happiness and harmony you desire. Strengthen these relationships.
- Stop communication. If you decide that the relationship is bad for you, let the person know that you've decided to end it. You no longer have to maintain communication: neither talk to this person, nor deal with him on social networks, nor even think about him.
7. Manage your finances
Even if your work experience is more than 30 years, and income has not changed significantly in recent years, it is never too late to change your financial situation.
First, determine why you need money. Are you saving for real estate? Want to create a financial cushion for your retirement? Or are you planning to start your own business? Or maybe you just want to learn how to manage your finances and stop squandering?
The first step is to determine exactly what property and income you have. This will help you make the right financial decisions. You may need the advice of an expert in finance.
8. Up the corporate ladder
A new job is a great opportunity to create a new you. Many continue to hold on to unloved and boring work. Although changes in the professional sphere are favorable for starting a new life, like nothing else.
Take into account your skills and current abilities. What are your qualifications? What area is she in? In what way are you superior to others?
For example, you are a sociable person, most of all you are motivated by communication with people, but your current job does not give you such an opportunity. So something needs to change!
Don't limit yourself to your current professional field. It's never too late to find a calling!
Let's say you decide to become a psychotherapist or a teacher in order to have constant contact with other people. The problem can be solved by obtaining additional education.
Revisit failures. Instead of focusing on the mistakes of the past, look more at the lessons you learned from them. They will help you succeed in the future.
Set career goals wisely. This means that your goals must be precise, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely. Decide where you want to be in six months, one year, five years. Find ways to help you succeed.
9. Consult with others
When you have a clear idea of what kind of life you want to start, it is useful to consult with people who already lead such a lifestyle. Ask questions about the difficulties so that you can immediately take off your rose-colored glasses and be ready for real challenges.
10. Get Support
Starting a new life is always difficult. Surround yourself with people who love you, respect you, and are ready to help you. Often, not only close people, but also religious communities and support groups can become a fulcrum.
Stage 3. Stay happy
1. Track your progress
Devotion to the idea and patience can work wonders. But the transition period can be exhausting and difficult. Stay vigilant and track your progress.
It's good to keep a diary. It will help you better understand your emotions and weaknesses.
Keep in mind that often radical changes in life become the cause of depression. If you often feel sad and empty, are in despondency or despair, if you have ceased to enjoy your favorite activities, you have a feeling of anxiety or a tendency to self-abasement, seek help from a specialist.
2. Adapt in the process
The beginning of a new exciting career does not mean the end of a boring and uninteresting relationship. Moving to a new city doesn't mean you'll never miss your old home.
The road to change is not easy. When faced with difficulties, it is important to be aware of them and adapt your plan to the changed situation.
3. If necessary, consult a psychotherapist
Even if you are sure that everything will be fine, it is often useful to simply consult with a therapist if you are planning to make a major change in your life.
Many believe that this therapy is only suitable for patients with serious problems. In fact, it's more like a scheduled visit to the dentist to remove plaque. While you are dealing with minor problems, it is worth solving them before they lead to "caries". You should not consider a visit to a psychotherapist a manifestation of weakness. On the contrary, it is a sign that you are taking care of yourself enough.
Stock up on a detailed plan, enlist support and, most importantly, do not put it off until later - and you will succeed!
Focuses only on certain areas of life and neglects others.
For example, if he is interested in finding himself and self-realization, he may not think about physical development. If he is interested in his figure or personal life, he may not think about a career or finances, etc.
But, as practice shows, this approach is a mistake.
In order to achieve results in any of the areas of life, one must not forget both the entire personal strategy and those specific areas that seem unimportant to you, but actually play a significant role. This is the only way to solve a specific issue and change life in general.
If you don't know where to start, start by improving your appearance.
Here is what a famous plastic surgeon and psychiatrist says:
When you change a person's face, you almost always change their future as well. By changing his perception of his appearance, in almost all cases you change the person himself - his individual qualities, behavior - and sometimes even talents and abilities❞
This statement applies not only to the cardinal alteration of oneself through plastic surgery, but also to all positive changes in appearance. Having lost five kilograms or made a new hairstyle, you begin to perceive yourself differently, you feel more confident and attractive.
Analyze your habits
The next step is habits. Our habits are at the core of our character. Remember the famous aphorism of Aristotle, which is familiar to many from childhood:
❝If you sow a thought, you will reap an action; you sow an act, you reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; you sow a character, you reap a destiny.
Habits are patterns of our behavior that govern our lives. Are we really going to let them decide everything for us, following their lead?
Method: Carefully analyze each of your habits and its impact on your life. Eliminate those that interfere with yours, replace them with new, useful habits.
For those who really decided to work on themselves, I offer the Success Diary - a classic diary with applications for achieving success and working on yourself
4. Conditioned reflexes
No wonder the scientist Pavlov tormented dogs: conditioned reflexes are the basis of the foundations. With this key, you can form any habit you need.
Method: Repetitive actions with reinforcement develop new skills and habits. When a new skill is fixed, it will go into and you will do everything automatically, unloading your brain for new achievements.
Reward yourself for success or take something away if you backtrack on your plan to change yourself. Let your new quality be necessary and desirable for you.
5. Eradication
What cannot be converted into a plus, just eradicate.
How to identify your negative qualities and how to see yourself from the outside, read the article. You can also download a table of negative human properties.
6. Double life
The technique is suitable for developing new character traits and more significant changes in oneself.
Method: Imagine yourself the way you want to be. Rehearse the new role mentally over and over again. To be more convincing, buy things that will help you get into character and emphasize your new qualities. Wear them only for your second life.
Your environment is unlikely to immediately accept you new, so communicate with those who do not know you! Rehearse your new qualities on them. How much will they believe in your image? And if something does not work out, you can always change the place and environment, and try again.
7. Use your imagination
In the course of the experiment, it was proved that if a person daily spends a certain period of time in front of a target, imagining himself throwing darts at it, then his results will improve to the same extent as if he really threw darts at the target every day.
Mental images allow us to "practice" new relationships and character traits that would otherwise be unattainable. Our nervous system is not able to distinguish reality from what our imagination vividly painted. When we imagine ourselves doing something in some particular way, it is almost the same as actually doing it. Mental practice helps to achieve perfection.
Method: Every day in the morning and before going to bed, mentally imagine yourself the way you aspire to be. How you speak, how you move, what you wear, how you react to situations. Do it over and over. This imaginary picture will have a strong influence on your behavior. And remember, how you see yourself from the inside largely determines how others see you and others.
8. Shock
If you want to change yourself but still don't find enough motivation to start, let failure be your motivation.
Method: Associate with people who will openly despise you. Use other people's ridicule to your advantage. Prove to them that you can be better, prettier, smarter. This method has never failed.
9. Alien
Often with our loved ones, we behave like a pig. Hamim, we neglect them and do not respect them at all. Whereas with strangers we are completely different, especially with superiors. If you want to change your behavior, try this method.
Method: Imagine in the place of the father or mother a complete stranger to you, whom you want to impress. Treat them like a boss on whom your salary depends. Try to look at them from a distance, as if seeing them for the first time.
10. Tune in
Method: change the environment and communicate with the people you want to be like. Adopt their habits, their way of thinking. In every book on achieving success, communication with successful people is an obligatory item, how does this work?
In the course of communication with another person, we tune in to his wave - to the mentality of the interlocutor and his worldview. Without this, communication is impossible. As a result of this adjustment, we temporarily change our ideas, stereotypes of thinking and behavior, to someone else's. And the more often this happens, that is, the more often we communicate, the more we adopt until someone else's picture of the world becomes ours.
11. Cold shower of the "future"
When you really grow up and think about the future, you suddenly realize that it would be time to get rid of many habits and character traits. The thought that you will soon have to build a new life with your family is sobering. I no longer want to overspend, be optional, drink all night with friends.
Method: Think about the future and the life you want to have, and figure out for yourself how you need to change and what habits to eradicate.
But I want to warn you don't take on too much. Weakly amenable to change innate temperament.
An introvert (a person deep in himself), of course, can change and become his opposite - an extrovert. But he will soon get tired of this “role” and will be unhappy, being in plain sight, secretly wanting to be alone with himself and his thoughts. There will be a feeling of emptiness. It arises from the loss of energy, because introverts draw it from within themselves, and only spend it in communication with others. It becomes clear that to lead such a long life is difficult and exhausting.
Be sure to record your wins and losses in a Success Diary, which is a must-have if you are aiming for serious results.
Or maybe you don't need to change?
Find your circle where you will be accepted as you are and there you will be happy. Everyone has their own value system and it is quite possible that your dream is to change and become more popular, successful, etc. will not bring the desired joy.
Or sublimate your energy into creativity. How can this incomprehensible Freudian term help us? The fact that we can redirect ourselves, life, others into creativity, using the protective mechanisms of our psyche.
Leonardo da Vinci, the great painter, scientist and engineer did just that. Whatever he took on, he brought it to perfection. However, it is reliably known that he had no interest in sex. Such sublimation can be traced in many creative people. They simply cannot create when they are happy.
Sublimate (redirect) your energy and desires into creativity, to new hobbies. Are you a bespectacled man with a bad figure and therefore experience difficulties with the opposite sex? There are two ways out here - to change by working on yourself: exhausting workouts plus pickup courses. Or - find the passion of your life and create. We miss your talent so much!
As you change yourself, don't forget to change the space around you. Tidy up a cluttered apartment and change your wardrobe, how to do it easily and quickly - in Erin Doland's motivating book "Simplify Your Life" ().
“To take and start everything from scratch without fear in the eyes” - they are not born with such an idea, but come with time. Difficulties force some people to take their will into a fist, while others are driven into a dead corner. Among the pessimism of people, indifference to oneself is born. How to change your life for the better and finally find that cherished happiness? Why do many people remain with a “broken trough” throughout their lives? What is so secret hidden in our potential? Each piece of advice will become valuable on the way to a new "I". It is enough to read the article, and you will learn the secrets of personal growth.
How to improve your life
To change life for the better ... so many experiences, inner pain, zeal for victory are put into these words. Walking down the street, you can see a smiling man with flowers in his hands, a stooped man in an old coat, an attractive lady with a dog. All of them are united by the state, society and the desire to live in such a way that they do not need anything.
The only secret is what these people do so that their life is cloudless. On a rainy day, not everyone is sad and disgusting at heart, someone warms himself from the inside with goals about future prospects, merits in the present. Even in a large house on a prestigious street, you can feel sadness for your unfulfilled dreams.
Then for the better? Stop blaming fate for your own failures, look for stupid things and start doing your best! There are so many examples in the world when a person from a very poor family became a multimillionaire, when a disabled person achieved heights in sports. It's inspiring! It is inspiration that helps to find a positive attitude to destroy your own framework. Having 2 legs and 2 arms, we are able to light our star in the evening sky. It is important to reflect on what it is possible to do for your great goal for the remaining decades. It is enough to follow the tips that have stood the test of time and have helped many to become one step higher.
Find the most important thing in your life
How to change life for the better? Understanding what you really like and following it is the true pleasure of life. To do what brings sincere joy, fills life with meaning - what could be more ideal? The search for a life path can be compared to a marathon. The "run" to the place of its destination can last for many years. A business that ignites allows a person to fully reveal their inner potential.
Eat food straight from nature
“You are what you eat inside” - the saying very accurately describes our way of eating. Is it better when a person constantly uses chemical products, poor-quality water? Nature gives a person valuable gifts filled with pure energy.
It is important to stop eating junk food, other plastic food, soda, alcohol. The ability to think clearly and sanely is possible if you use natural products. It is also worth limiting yourself to sweet, fatty, salty - all this does not allow you to feel both physical and moral lightness.
To learn foreign languages
A small percentage of people are able to competently read, write, and communicate. The level of education pulls thinking to the surface, and laziness, on the contrary, to the bottom. Everyone knows their native language on a subconscious level. A foreign one requires expanding the perception of the world and looking at the same things from a different angle. It is enough to learn English to be able to work freely in a foreign company, find new acquaintances, travel without borders.
Read more useful literature
In each book, at least one sentence carries such a meaning that can turn the mind. No time? On the go, you can turn on the audiobook. Got a free minute? Why not take the time for an interesting autobiography, the topic of personal growth. If reading becomes a habit, life will never be the same. The golden rule is to read one book every one to two weeks.
Open, purposeful people are the best environment
And life for the better, if the social circle is filled with eternal whiners, pessimists? The circle of communication makes its mark on the personality and its development. If parents raised their daughter not to take risks, then her dream of becoming an actress may be torn apart.
Only strong zeal and friends, colleagues who support can correct this situation. The desire to actively grow towards success does not go out of your head? You need to try to reduce communication with pessimistic, dull, angry people. They only pull the whole incentive to the moral "bottom". Useful acquaintances with those who are several levels more successful guarantee personal growth. The desire to grow up will know no bounds!
Investment
Investing is what will improve life in the near future. People who have successfully accumulated large savings say: “It is worth saving 10% of monthly income, 30-50% of bonuses. After a few years, the amount will be enough to purchase something significant.
What is the difference between a poor person and a rich person? Way of thinking. Many live paycheck to paycheck and barely have enough to live on. Some still manage to get into debt! If you get into the habit of constantly saving money, then you can confidently go to financial goals. An excellent way is a deposit in a trusted bank, life insurance, which is now gaining momentum.
Learn to manage time
Much is put off “for later” and never gets done! The most elementary thing can be done right now. On a piece of paper you need to write down the affairs of primary and secondary necessity. If the mess in the house interferes with life, and laziness takes over, then it's time to do a general cleaning. By the way, cleaning the trash also frees life from the superfluous. All things need to be clearly planned - for this there is a daily routine. Managing your affairs will save the lion's share of time.
Give up bad habits
Do you have a bad habit of sitting in front of the TV for hours? This is not advice, but some simply gave the TV to their relatives. One thing is for sure - you need to save your field of vision, your subconsciousness from the presence of a potential "pest". Have a habit of checking email and (so casually) browsing websites? Install an agent that will notify you of new messages on your phone. Whether it's social media. networks or unnecessary daily walks with friends - any impact can be reduced. Effective development is impossible if you devote only 30% of your time to your future.
Travel
How can you improve your life if you can't see it to the fullest? Traveling is rightly called a “second wind”, which fills us with positive energy. After a trip to an unfamiliar city, inspiration for something new is felt. Is this feeling familiar? The opinion that "only the rich can travel" is absurd.
Why not diversify your holidays, holidays, after all, weekends with a trip to the local mountains, a picnic in the forest outside the city? For example, after studying your own country, you can smoothly move on to Europe. An active person stops getting hung up on trifles and becomes more wise, open, positive.
Know how to give and not expect the return
Charity is the strength of the elect, which attracts positive energy to a person. "You give once and you get twice as much" - the law of the Universe, which no one has canceled. The ability to give more than one is ready to take comes to a person with experience and knowledge gained. Benefits, victories in life must be earned not only by hard work, but also by voluntary help. If everyone in the world begins to realize the importance of mutual assistance, support, then harmony would simply reign around.
How to change your life for the better and be guaranteed to become a different person? The main thing is to accept the world as it is and think only positively. You won’t put much into practice, but you definitely won’t fill your life with special meaning. Liked the article? We will be grateful if you share it with your friends.
