The desire to attract the opposite sex is natural, and it is for this reason that many girls are constantly trying to find an answer to the question: "What do men like?" Ultimately, they try to improve their figure and appearance in general, as they believe that this will help keep the person they love. But how will men themselves answer this question? Some of the answers may surprise you a lot.
1. Kindness
Men always notice good deeds, especially when they are looking for a partner for a long-term relationship. No wonder they say that goodness returns. It turns out that it comes back in the form of increased attention from men.
2. Ability to find a way out of an awkward situation
Men keep repeating that they are attracted by naturalness in both behavior and appearance. But it turns out that your reaction to unforeseen situations is also important to them. When a girl admits she made a mistake, instead of making excuses or getting angry, she has every chance of seeing admiration in the eyes of men.
3. Nails
Many girls are sure that no one, except the manicurist, is interested in their nails. However, men seem to pay attention to whether your hands are well-groomed (although they may not notice the exact color of the polish or the shape of your nails), as it helps them determine how well you are taking care of yourself.
4. Emotional state
According to men, one of the most unpleasant types of women is those with a negative outlook. Men can notice anything that bothers you and worsens your mood from time to time: unpleasant work, quarrels with your parents, suffering from unfulfilled dreams. This makes them associate your image with longing, while they are actually looking for a source of positivity. This is why they are so easily charmed by happy women who know how to enjoy life.
If you also see negativity in everything, but try to pretend to keep a man near you, you are unlikely to be able to deceive him for a long time. Sooner or later, your man will notice that you are feeling overwhelmed, even if you try your best to look like the happiest person in the world. That is why you must learn to find simple joys in everyday life, and do it not for the sake of a man, but for yourself.
5. Financial condition
Women have long fought for equality of rights, and they got it. That is why in the modern world, not only women look at the financial situation of men, but also vice versa. This is a very delicate but important topic at the same time. Therefore, be sure that men are not asking about your finances out of curiosity, but in order to get to know you better and draw conclusions. If you make more than him, it may take him some time to come to terms with this situation. If you make less money, he may want to determine if your interests are purely financial.
6. Self-assessment
Men like to compliment women who are confident in their beauty and attractiveness, rather than comfort those who are used to neglecting themselves. A man is unlikely to be attracted to a woman who constantly doubts her own beauty. Moreover, self-confidence usually compensates for any perceived or real deficiencies. If you understand this, then very soon you can become the very beautiful woman that men dream of.
7. Attitude towards other girls
If you look disapprovingly at every girl who passes by, or, moreover, allow yourself unpleasant comments about her, be sure that the man nearby will notice this. Worst of all, this behavior will make you look like a notorious girl with an envious and harsh personality in his eyes.
8. Style
Some men are not well versed in the latest fashion trends, but this does not mean that they do not care how a girl looks. Your style can be a factor as every man has his own idea of what his dream girl should look like. Some, for example, will never approach a girl with bright pink hair, while others, on the contrary, dismiss these prejudices. This is why you should never adjust to someone else's taste - you cannot be equally liked by everyone.
9. Shoes
Yes, men are very attentive to the girls they are interested in and pay attention to everything from nails to shoes. No, they are not trying to define the designer of your shoes or memorize the rules of color combinations between shoes and handbags, but they pay attention to how comfortable you feel in the shoes. When a girl wears shoes with huge and unstable heels, it can be annoying and she wants to end the date as soon as possible.
10. Number of friends
It is important for a man that his companion has her own life and real friends, with whom she went through fire and water. The absence of a close friend and a lot of acquaintances who change from time to time makes you wary.
11. Clothes with an open back
Although this point has nothing to do with the qualities of a woman, it is still worth mentioning. Open-back tops and dresses are an easy way to look feminine and sexy without revealing too much.
12. Laughter
Girls who are not afraid to show their true emotions always fascinate men.
13. Sense of humor
Almost all men, when describing their ideal of a woman, do not forget to mention such a moment as a sense of humor. Research also shows that girls who understand jokes and can joke themselves are more attractive to men.
14. Cheerfulness
As you know, insomnia and lack of sleep are bad for your attractiveness, and this cannot be hidden even with the help of cosmetics. In one study, men looked at pictures of attractive women: some of them had slept 8-9 hours the night before, while others had not gone to bed at all. Tired women seemed to men less attractive, sad, and even aggressive.
15. Aspirations
Life in modern society is distinguished by a rapid rhythm and fullness of various events. Probably the reason why the desire to live a fulfilling life (to turn big, crazy dreams and plans into reality and strive to reach new heights, continuing to look for sources of inspiration) is a very important factor that makes girls attractive to men. But passivity and laziness only repel modern men. It's true that women are also not happy with men who don't strive for anything.
Men quite simply choose the women he likes. A representative of the fair sex should be attractive, cheerful and well-groomed, and then he will look closely at her and look for something that he likes. Women approach the choice of a companion much more seriously, starting not only from external data, but also the character traits that she prefers.
In general, practically every woman there is a list of basic masculine qualities by which she is looking for a life partner. Sometimes it can be simple loyalty and sincerity, and sometimes intelligence, restraint and the ability to make decisions are needed. One way or another, there are some masculine qualities that absolutely all women are attracted to. If you want to attract the attention of a particular person, then you need to try to meet the following requirements.
What qualities attract women to men?
1. Care and attention from men... A woman will always give preference to someone who pays a lot of attention to her and is ready for anything for her. This character trait is not inherent in all representatives of the stronger sex. It so happens that a man was brought up in a family where it was not customary to show his emotions and spend the weight of his free time on a loved one. That is why a man brought up in such conditions will be sure that his beloved woman is another area of his life that is not worth spending a lot of time on. A woman, in turn, wants to receive a lot of attention, love and care, so she will give preference to a man who can provide her with this.
2. Male sense of humor... This quality is also important for all women. Being with the company, she will always give preference to someone who knows how to joke subtly and draws attention with her positive attitude. A sense of humor is always relevant, even if your woman is phlegmatic. Cheerful people who know how to joke make you want to communicate, get to know them better and soak up its positive. With a cheerful person, it is much easier to overcome life's difficulties and deal with a bad mood, so women will be happy to start a relationship with a positive-minded young man.
3. Purposefulness in men... Many men believe that women only care about their salary and the level of the career ladder. In fact, most women pay attention to what a particular man wants and how he achieves his goals. A person who knows exactly what he wants and works every day in order to fulfill his dream and achieve his goals will always attract the attention of the fair sex and arouse their respect. It is worth paying attention to the fact that women are always looking for free men who are absolutely confident in their strengths and capabilities. Sometimes such self-confidence is unjustified, but how such a man feels is important for absolutely all women.
4. Decent appearance of men... Women, of course, are not as fixated on appearance as men, but they also pay attention to how a particular representative of the stronger sex looks. Men want to see next to them an incredible long-legged beauty with a gorgeous bust, which will cause admiration in him, and envy among friends. It is only important for a woman that a loved one is neat, wear clean clothes that sit well on him and do not let his figure run. In fact, there is nothing difficult about this, but many men do not even adhere to this, and then they wonder why women do not pay attention to him.
5. Passion of men... Almost all women are very emotional, so passion in a relationship is really important to them. must constantly compliment her, be faithful and loyal, and in bed - sexy and hot. These simple rules can be the key to a happy family life, because the cold between two people always moves away. A passionate man excites women's minds and hearts and knows how to conquer with just one glance. Romantic dates, beautiful words and bright nights of love - all this makes women submissive and in love.
6. The mind of men... No matter how smart and well-read a woman is, she always wants to see a worthy life partner next to her who can support any conversation or even teach her something. Of course, if a woman is not very smart, then she will not pay much attention to the IQ level of a particular representative of the stronger sex, but most women are looking for intellectuality in a man. But do not go too far, because some harsh statements can become an insult to a woman, because she does not want to feel narrow-minded against the background of a loved one. If you constantly boast to a lady of her deep knowledge of science, then sooner or later she will find someone who will be less well-read, but will recognize her mind as well.
7. Self-confidence in men... Just like a man, a woman will never give preference to a representative of the opposite sex, who suffers from complexes and is not sure of either his words or actions. In order to arouse a woman's real admiration and attract her attention, it is important to be as self-confident as possible and make a pleasant impression on others. No matter how strong and self-confident a woman is, she always wants to see an equally worthy companion next to her. A man may not at all have some positive qualities that women like so much, but his confidence that he is the best will always distinguish him from the background of other representatives of the stronger sex.
8. Sociability of men... A man who wants to attract the attention of women should behave in any company at ease, be able to maintain a conversation and be an interesting interlocutor. If he wants to spend all the time at a party alone at a table with a glass of cognac, then it is unlikely that he will attract the attention of the fair sex.
Always cheerful self-confident guy, which is in the center of attention and entertains others, will arouse the interest of women. To do this, you do not need to be able to juggle oranges, arrange an evening of humor or dance skillfully, you just need to actively communicate and evoke positive emotions in your interlocutors.
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Men, too, can afford to “delve into” applicants for a place in the heart, especially when it comes to choosing a life partner with whom he plans to live and raise children. And here it turns out that not all feminine traits are liked by men.
1. Inability to manage the household. Well, why should a man who plans to start a family, a clumsy wife, who is not able to cook dinner, is not able to sew a button? And if children appear, they also need care and supervision, not to mention upbringing. And a woman does not know how. No, a man will definitely not choose this option.
2. Laziness... Does the girl spend most of her time at the computer, chatting with her friends on the phone, lying on the couch, or does she stay on the TV? Men do not need such "happiness" either. Especially if a man is purposeful, builds a career, earns money, and at home a woman who has done absolutely nothing around the house is waiting for him, because she was too lazy to break away from the "contact". I think that few men will agree to take on women's responsibilities in the household.
3. Activity and high intelligence. Paradox, but also too active, purposeful 
women scare men too. A man does not want to be "under the thumb", be subjected to constant criticism and be controlled. And, moreover, least of all most men want to depend on women. And if a girl also has a clearly prevailing intellect and breadth of outlook, men simply stop perceiving her as a potential candidate, so as not to look stupid and pitiful against her background.
4. Greed. A woman only asks and asks for money, entertainment and fulfillment of any whims? According to the logic of a man, such a woman in him is only interested in the wallet and physical strength. Moreover, she herself is not able or does not want to bring something to the family budget, and any requests for services cause hysteria in her. It is understandable why men are repulsed by women who evaluate partners solely by their financial situation.
5. Problem. If a girl constantly complains about her problems, illnesses, difficult circumstances, constantly finds herself in tense situations and is depressed, she is unlikely to be able to quickly find a mate. Having talked with such a girl, a man understands that even with the development of relations, this flow of negativity will not stop. But you really want to come home, where your beloved wife or girl is waiting for you, who with her smile will warm the evening and cheer up. Who wants to live with the "eternal crybaby"?
6. Bitchiness. The attitude of men to this trait of a woman's character is a natural paradox. At the initial stages of a relationship, men even like it and do not cause any negative emotions. But over time, bitchy women begin to "strain" men. Men themselves are not able to answer the question of why they first surrender to the power of the bitch, and then break off the relationship. Although some radically opposite types of men ("rags" and "macho") can live their whole lives with a bitch.
7. Beauty. Another paradox of male logic. If a girl is very beautiful, almost perfect, a man will be afraid to approach her, if only because he would never believe that such a girl is lonely. And if the acquaintance nevertheless took place, with all his desire, the man, most likely, will not insist on the development of relations, because he will be afraid to be a "gray mouse" against the background of his companion. Well, there is no escape from the subconscious fear of treason, even if the girl does not give any reason for such thoughts. So it turns out that clever beauties spend their days alone, while their more bitchy rivals "twist" men with might and main.
8. And one more feature of male logic: men are afraid of women who are similar to their mothers (either in appearance or in character). At the same time, there is an opinion that a man is looking for a life partner, at least somewhat similar to his mother. And the opinion is correct. But if the similarity turns out to be simply striking, the man will not continue the relationship: firstly, the image of the mother is sacred and is not applicable to the life partner, and secondly, there is a subconscious fear that the woman, just like the mother, will begin educate and control a man.
9. "Sharp tongue". Men do not want to be the object of constant stinging ridicule, so 
more in company with mutual friends. Especially if a man himself cannot boast of a sense of humor. And it is impossible to be rude or sarcastic in response: the woman will be offended. Therefore, men find themselves in a desperate situation: they need to give an adequate answer to the ridicule, but at the same time the question cannot be solved "purely like a man." So such a girl would rather become the soul of a common company, but not in any way a life companion (at least until she comes across the same "wit").
The list goes on and on. Every man has his own preferences and fears. Someone likes giggles, and someone hates them, someone is crazy about a business woman, and someone would like to connect their lives with a sweet housewife. The choice is on the side of men: to accept and come to terms with some feminine qualities, or to look for that ideal girl that he sees in his fantasies.
What attracts men to women
But not everything is so hopeless for the girls who, for some reason, were included in the above list. "Negative", from the point of view of men, qualities can be balanced by those traits that men, on the contrary, are attracted to. And then, perhaps, what initially repulsed a man will turn into the notorious female "zest".
1. Sex appeal. A woman's sex appeal plays a big role in a man. The more feminine and sensual the companion is, the better. And many even like it when strangers turn around after his half. The main thing is that the man does not go to the other extreme: he does not start to be jealous of the girl for everyone.
2. Appearance. There are generally accepted standards of beauty in society. But, as practice shows, each man's priorities of female beauty are purely individual. Therefore, even girls who do not have a model appearance have every chance of finding a mate. The main thing is that the figure is feminine, this "fad" is in the blood of men.
3. Mimicry, glance, movement. Bright makeup and perfect facial features, according to men, are not the main thing in a woman. Pleasant facial expressions and body movements are more important. Smooth, graceful movements, sweet smile, soft eyes can conquer any man.
4. Clothes. Yes, men pay attention to clothes. Moreover, it is not at all necessary that
some dress was "mini" and fitted all women's charms. Quite the opposite, sucha girl will not be taken seriously by a man. But elegant, tastefully selected clothes that can emphasize a woman's individuality, designate all the best and hide all undesirable, men really like.
5. Lack of bad habits. Considering that there are fewer and fewer girls without bad habits, such persons are very popular among men. Of course, this is not the most important factor in choosing a life partner, after all, everyone has their own shortcomings. But, nevertheless, if a girl smokes cigarettes like a locomotive, drinks like a real alcoholic, and swears no worse than Uncle Vasya's janitor, she has little chance of being noticed.
6. Cheerfulness. A bright, positive, smiling girl involuntarily attracts the glances of all the men around her. There is not much positive in modern life, everyone has their own burden of problems on their shoulders. But if, despite this, the girl remains cheerful and cheerful, she has few chances of being alone.
7. Thoughtfulness. Even the harshest and most independent men sometimes want to be taken care of, brought a mug of tea when he watches a movie, or courted when a man is sick. At the same time, caring should not develop into custody, such a man does not like. Well, except for gigolos, who are used to living supported by women.
8. Economy. Although women's love of shopping has become the talk of the town, women know how to save money - at least for a new dress. The ability of women to "stretch" the remnants of their wages so as to pamper themselves and not to experience difficulties in finances, men amazes. And if this feminine ability to translate into a "peaceful" channel, to focus on the family budget, the man will be very pleased.
9. Well-groomed. Men have no idea how much time and effort it takes girls to be beautiful and fresh every day. Well, let them not imagine, for them it does not matter. The main thing is that it is always pleasant to look at the girl and touch her. A man will even put up with a huge number of jars and tubes in the bathroom (if only half of the family budget is not spent on this).
Again, this is not a complete list. In general, a woman as such always remains a mystery for men that cannot be fully solved. By the way, this is what attracts many in women: the ability to understand female thinking, female habits.
So the choice of a life partner for men turns into a serious task: what to accept and what you can accept, what he will never accept, what attracts him more. If the choice is made consciously, happy couples appear who will spend their entire lives together.
But men should not forget about themselves: you may find the ideal girl, in your opinion. But just whether she wants to be next to you if you do not have masculine qualities attractive to girls?
Lecturer in general and educational psychology at the Academy of Psychology and Pedagogy of the Southern Federal University.
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What attracts men primarily to women? Why did the image of an indecent girl suddenly become so fashionable among the weaker sex? What good is it to balance on the verge of a decent woman and a courtesan?
"What's wrong with catching rave glances from men?"
Nothing, not even good. Only you do not catch enthusiastic looks, but lustful, lustful ones. Modern girls think that due to their frank behavior, bright makeup and overly revealing clothes, they look sexy and men want them precisely because of this sexuality. However, this is a very big mistake.
With such frank behavior, you only cause lust in men, but not sexuality.... Lust is the desire for the momentary gratification of animal instincts. Simply put, a man wants to simply sleep with you, but in no case idolize and care for you. You are just an object of his sexual arousal, not an object of admiration.
|| Modern girls think that due to their frank behavior, bright makeup, they look sexy ... in fact, they look lustful, which only causes sexual desire in men
Remember how girls used to go? Remember how a bare leg was considered the height of obscenity? I am not saying that now you need to behave in this way and not show the elements of the new fashion, but know when to stop, my dears. A person flaunts exactly what he is rich in. If you are trying to expose your breasts and other revealing parts wherever possible, then what might a wise man think when looking at you? Do you think he does not understand this?
And yet, girls want to be desirable among men. This is absolutely correct, because it is feminine nature. To be desirable = to be attractive, which makes the girl feel even more feminine, as a result of which her self-esteem grows a lot.
However, the essential problem lies in the essence of the man's desire.
What desire do you want?
To answer the question for yourself, especially in women, you must first understand what exactly you want from this man: care, affection, warmth, love and protection? Or the second is some kind of sports interest and satisfaction of your ego, when you are interested in getting anyone for the sake of interest, in order to prove to yourself that you are simply capable of doing it. It's up to you to choose. I think that the majority still prefers the first option, and who the second, it is because of the lack of the first, just through the second there is the illusion of quickly receiving love and care, although this is a big deception.
Why isn't your relationship with your guys working?
The image of a "bad girl" really attracts, but, as a rule, for one night, because this image for guys (far from the best quality, and also irresponsible) is equated with easily giving in for daiquiri. I'm not insulting anyone here, but look around, look at the youth of today: everywhere the desire for lust, for quick sex, even relationships are often created by men for the sake of sex and women agree to have sex in order not to be lonely. So it is born in my head: "while he comes back, he stays with me, that means he loves." And the fact that he remains due to the fact that it is convenient and far to go is not necessary, the girls do not think about it.
|| Guys today are ready for relationships for the sake of sex, and girls are ready for sex for the sake of relationships.
I'm not saying that everyone strives for the image of a "bad girl", but look at those who are set to us as a standard, the so-called "secular lionesses", how do they make up, how do they dress? Look at those who can afford to live richly? Pumped lips, a tight dress that will make a fat girl curvy, and one that has no forms - it will show that everything is in place. Do you know, primarily in women, in their opinion? Hairpins, fur, red lipstick. Why exactly red, but because everyone has read "smart" glossy magazines, in which "five-step" articles advising how to attract a successful man and be attractive, the focus is on blind instinct. That is why red is brightness, he is a hunter, and I will also “fit my chest, butt, make my lips huge and behave defiantly obscene, because he is a hunter, and I am caught ".
But those who are not particularly rich also strive for them on the fashion Olympus. They buy less expensive substitutes and create the same image as on the Instagram of the "fashionable kid" that everyone wants, judging by the number of likes. And from the minds of those who have not experienced the true essence of "secular and rich relationships", the understanding of a happy family life, warmth of relationships, support and so on is gradually erased.
Yes, what is it! Come to the club, dressed as frankly as possible, start dancing, throwing your body parts and loose hair, then some major player will certainly bite at you, or a peasant with a fat wallet, whose son takes pictures of girls in a nearby club, and his wife ... his wife is just where -then. Then he will treat you, admire your sense of humor, then go to him and then two options: either in the morning you will be left alone, or there will be a relationship. But which ones? Yes, there will be gifts, there will be beautiful pictures in social media. networks, there will be envious friends, there will be a feeling of a successful life, however, all this euphoria passes very quickly.
There there will be no care, happiness and love, because henceforth your boyfriend is a credit card. Quarrels, jealousy, resentment, this will also of course be. And, of course, there will be other girls too. How do you want? Faithful and idolizing princes do not go to such places, they know that a wise, decent woman cannot be found there.
|| When you agree to have sex, your man's desire drops by at least 50%, because now there is no point in trying to get you again - you already gave everything he wanted ... and you will give it again without effort on his part.
Forget about exploits in your name. Why bother, if you can just take you to a restaurant, where you take a picture in an expensive toilet in order to upload this photo to the network, and then you yourself already know that you have to pay, you do not need to remind me. A well-developed male scheme, as well as a female one. He gives relationships in exchange for sex, you - sex for relationships. Everyone is happy, because everything is fair. However, few are satisfied, especially girls, because the magazines promised that there will be happiness.
|| Modern relationships are created on the basis of an unspoken agreement between a guy and a girl: he gives relationships in exchange for sex, she gives sex for relationships.
What do men call these girls?
Girls want happiness, but they are used to seeing around the only effective way to find a gentleman - this is attract him with his looks and hold him further with sex, meanwhile, trying to show him "what a good mistress and mistress I am." Everyone got used to it quickly; no time to stand still, forward, higher, stronger.
The ideology of fast food has penetrated everywhere: there is no time to eat - eat right in the car, there is no time to meet with your family - call on Skype, you don’t want to look for the right man for a long time, therefore “I will pomp and go where they go for women” - to the club. What attracts men primarily in women in nightclubs? Honey! Namely: tight, revealing outfits, bright makeup, unbridled behavior.
And here you come all "smeared with honey", stand in the center and wait. And flies flock, then you want honey, especially if you don't need to try too hard, because the main thing for a girl is just to grab and run. And then the guy offers her a deal: "I'll be with you for sex," to which the girl replies, "and for the sake of a relationship, I'll give you sex, just take me." That's all, this is how a happy life-long relationship begins, and in fairy tales some junk is written, it can be much easier. Joke!
Don't expect a prince on a white horse to be attracted to you. Only boys will peck at such a fishing rod of yours, even if they are in their twenties. For them, the main thing is to achieve quick sex, so that later they can brag to other boys that he has "flunked" you. Are you a wild boar or a tree to cut you down? How else will they say? Do you think, having said goodbye to you, he comes home, sits down at the table, dips his pen into an inkwell and pours out his surging feelings on paper, and in the meantime there are only your eyes in his head? No one will definitely do this, at least those men who prefer nightclubs as entertainment.
Do you know what the meanest thing is? A good man, wise, will never succumb to the spell of the "bad girl". In the head of such a man, there is a completely different kind of relationship:
|| If you are so easily ready to surrender to him just because he was kind and attentive, then you so easily surrender to any man, show him something cool and pretentious to you.
Sorry for such direct thoughts today, but some aspects of our life require more explicit attention than it might seem. What is the bottom line of this article? Ask yourself the following questions to have a little practice today:
- What kind of male desire and attention do you want to receive? (warm family life or passion and lust?)
- What kind of man do you want to see next to you?
- How can you attract such a man and where do you think you can find such a type? (nightclubs, museums, exhibitions, library, etc.)
- Do you correspond to such a man, or is it better to work on yourself somewhere? (education, reading, demeanor, style, neatness, etc.)
- What kind of relationship do you want and what should be an obligatory element of a happy relationship, in your opinion?
- Does that “desirable” type of man fit the role of your partner for this relationship?
