First, let’s warn you: do not be afraid that with these tips your written speech will become boring and similar to the speech of everyone who reads these tips. We use the same ingredients and tools to prepare breakfast, but everyone's breakfasts are different. So with the text: technical advice will help you to more clearly show your personality in correspondence. And this is what we need!
How to write?
- Watch how he writes. One long message, or does each offer send a new one? Does it start with an uppercase letter or a lowercase letter? Smilies or stickers? It is not difficult to notice such features, and the effect of imitating his text habits is: whoever writes the same way, thinks the same - you become closer.
- Count the words. Not literally, of course, but watch out: the volume of your reply should not be larger than his message. For long stories, there will come a time when you meet in person, but in correspondence you can leave something with you. Understatement will fuel his interest in you.
- Trust but verify. Speaking well is just as important as clear skin. Monitoring the literacy of speech in personal correspondence is no less important than in business letters. After all, a worthy man is looking for a match for himself. And correct speech is the easiest way to comply. And if you doubt the spelling of a word from the area of his hobbies, do not hesitate, ask again! An excellent reason for him to appear in front of you in the best possible light.
- The subscriber is not a subscriber. Of course, you want to instantly respond to all his messages, but do not rush. You will always have time to talk, but it will be difficult for him to get out of the habit that you are always in touch, so do not rush things. And in real life, you probably have things to do that are not waiting.
- Hot - cold. Monosyllabic replies, “yes, probably,” sent by voicemail do not motivate the young person to continue the conversation. Better pleasant communication at a convenient time for you than on the run and with typos.
What to write?
- About the weather, about nature ... You ask the topics for conversation, because guys get stupid when communicating with a girl they like. And we, on the contrary, cannot be stopped! It is better to direct this energy to the choice of topics that are interesting to him and to you. Leave the boring news stories behind. How did you meet? At your friends, at a bar, at a concert? How long has he been listening to this group? What's your favorite song? Oh, and I have another, here, listen ...
- Call him by name! So what if it is indicated in the dialog box. So you let me know that you are attentive to the person. In a personal conversation, this would be tantamount to eye contact.
- Ask for advice or help! “Do you know where to find this book, I didn’t find it in bookstores?” girl. Just don't use it instead of Yandex.
- How was your day? If a reprimand at work, a quarrel with a friend, a stain on your favorite coffee jumper and a traffic jam happened on the same day, it is better to say something like “You know, my day was varied today. But on the weekend I was ... ". I would like to have a pleasant communication, right?
- Young specialist. Did you find out he was DJing? Quit reading articles and ask him more boldly about his hobby! You can show that you are interested in his hobby by being interested, and not by juggling terms and names in the question just studied.
- It is written on the fence ... Obscene language will definitely not help you fall in love with a young man by correspondence. Fact!
- Do you remember why you need correspondence in social networks? Bring the time of a real meeting closer! If you live in the same city, don't turn your internet correspondence into an online romance. Just meet!
No matter how it seems to us that the word printed in social networks is not so important (and they will understand that, right?), The written text means more to us than we think.
Do not try to follow the advice from this material 100%, because you can pick up a "key" for a guy only in the process of live communication. Template phrases will only help you move in the right direction.
What to ask a guy in a correspondence and how to do it right
The reason for the correspondence can be a like under a photo, a clash in an interest group, the presence of mutual acquaintances offline, and a thousand more reasons.
His "hello" can be expected, or it can be a pleasant surprise.
Whatever scenario turns into life, I want not only to show my interest, but also to learn more about the interlocutor, to understand what kind of person is hiding behind the screen. How he laughs and gets angry, how real his photos are (or staged), why did he even decide to make a virtual acquaintance ...
But before pouring a stream of questions on a guy, remember - on the network, as in real life, there are certain unspoken rules. And breaking them often means being left with nothing.
So remember:
nobody likes an obsession that makes a person feel uncomfortable and come up with the "right" answers to the questions asked. Do not turn communication into interrogation, because the points of interest to you can be clarified not immediately, but over time in the process of correspondence;
do not try to be better, more beautiful, smarter, sexier, more original, etc. Behavior unusual for you, pompous phrases, photoshopped photos betray themselves as lack of a "soul" - and who wants to communicate with an ideal robot? Therefore, be yourself, do not try to adapt to everyone you meet. After all, as you know, for every catcher there is a beast;
publish your own photos of good quality in your profile, do not hide behind pictures - such actions give out a fake that hardly anyone wants to communicate with;
write correctly. Of course, complex phrases that have descended from the pages of scientific works of the past will scare off even a fighter for the purity of speech, but the banal absence of spelling and grammatical errors will only play in your favor. And do not hide emotions under the monosyllabic "aha", "xs", "ok", write so that a stranger sees you as a real interlocutor with his own opinion and outlook on life;
end the conversation so that the guy wants to continue the conversation.
How to please a pen guy
To begin with, critically assess your page - how interested would you be with such an interlocutor? Look through the photos (and not only the latest avatars, but also the archive ones, which you yourself have long forgotten), flip through the audio recordings, read the available information in the profile. And if incriminating evidence, strange records of unknown origin, errors and typos were found there, it is better to spend half an hour and bring your "Internet face" into a proper form.
If your page attracts a guy, try to create a positive first impression. But do not overplay - if the day turned out to be difficult, it is better to be honest about it than to pretend to be miss fun. The Vedic interlocutor is not an idiot. Even if he does not recognize outright lies, the chill and tension between you is guaranteed for a long time.
An important point is the correct avoidance of "slippery" places in the conversation. If the topic is unpleasant for you, it is better to honestly say that you do not want to discuss this issue now, than try to make a strained joke or awkwardly translate the topic. Appropriate directness will appeal to the guy, but trying to get out of the quagmire will make you laugh at best, and make the guy lose interest in you at worst.
How to get your pen guy interested
To keep the conversation from getting bored, add a note of interest to it. For example, offer to talk in either-or format. Such games help not only to have a good time, but also to find out the type of temperament of the interlocutor. For example, questions like "mountains or beach", "racing car or Mercedes S-class", "redhead or brunette" will help you get to know the guy better, his inclinations, attitude to risk, etc. After all, a direct question can be given "convenient "Answer, but veiled under the game more often gets a more frank return.
Another way to interest a guy is to skillfully ask for his opinion, show interest in his hobbies, ask for advice. It’s especially cool if you’re smart and ask him about something you haven’t discussed yet. Review his photo, look for pages in other social networks, do not be too lazy to look for photos with him - such materials sometimes give more information than correspondence. And the more original you ask the question, the more interest you are guaranteed.
What to talk to a pen guy about
Of course, being original in the intimate plane is unacceptable. As well as joking or teasing a guy. It’s better if you leave questions about his past and sexual preferences for the future, when you have every right to ask such questions. In the meantime, be content with general topics: travel, books, films, friends, family, hobbies, dreams, interests, work (study). Such discussions are capable of providing a basic characterization to any person.
Chatting with a guy: examples of questions
- What dreams have you already realized, and what are you planning in the near future?
- What do you do in the evenings after work?
- An act that you are proud of? The most daring act?
- What were you like as a kid?
- How do you dream of spending your old age?
- Do you like to travel? What countries do you dream to visit?
- Favorite movie, TV series, book, superhero?
- What is your relationship with your family?
- Are there brothers or sisters?
- How do you feel about children?
- Are you a lark or an owl?
- Who did you dream of being when you grow up?
- Do you like spontaneity?
- What's your best birthday ever?
- Do you have a lot of friends? Tell us about them.
- Can there be friendship between a guy and a girl?
- What wish would you ask to be fulfilled right now?
- What do you like about girls? What can you hate?
- What kind of clothes do you prefer?
- Can you cook?
How to tell if a penpal likes you
The most important "beacon" that will help you understand a guy's attitude is his readiness and desire to correspond. If he is waiting for an online meeting, writes to you first, is not late for the agreed time, is not too inclined to say goodbye, most likely, you are pleasant to him.
It is also important how willingly he is to share intimate things with you. And it is not necessary to wait for a confession - a story about how the day went can mean more than a confession of something supposedly very personal. Ask about his mood, ask questions about relationships with friends, funny experiences that happened at work, and note if the guy is ready to share a part of himself with you.
The same applies to you - if the guy talks about himself and does not try to get to know you more deeply, in front of you is a typical narcissistic chatterbox.
Flirting can be noticed by his tone: you are clearly not indifferent to the guy if he praises you, makes compliments, wishes you pleasant dreams in the evening and a good day in the morning. He can send virtual gifts, delight you with funny emoticons, make surprises, that is, show his attention in all available ways. Caring, the desire to protect and advise is also important - it is characteristic of any man in love.
Just in case: how to turn off a pen guy
Sometimes the reason for the desire to end the correspondence can be the obsession of the guy, sometimes - boredom and chill, sometimes - the mismatch of characters, tastes and interests. In any case, do not delay, hoping that tomorrow he will definitely change.
If you don't even want to start a dialogue, it's time to end it.
Honestly write to the guy that you don't want to communicate with him anymore, that real life means more to you than letters on the monitor. Stop showing interest, because the flirtatious "we need to take a break from each other", on the contrary, fuels the hunter's instinct in the man's soul.
In general, the easiest, honest and most effective way to end communication is the "spam" or "black list" button. Everything else is half measures.
Conduct correspondence only with those who are interesting, with whom you would begin to communicate in real life. And you yourself be the same as usual, do not pretend and do not hide behind a fictitious personality. And, you know, if you had to figure out what questions to ask a pen guy - most likely, it's just not your person.
Met a guy on the Internet and want to like him by correspondence? It couldn't be easier! We will tell you in detail how to correspond with a man, that he was crazy about you: how to put his Vkontakte page in order, what to write in his first message, the basic rules of correspondence on the Internet, competent written speech. Now your online acquaintances will always be successful!
We collect the necessary information
Before you write something to a guy you like, collect information about him. Go to his page in contact, look at all the available sections. Pay attention to whether all fields are filled in. If there are gaps, he is either secretive by nature, or he wants to be silent about something.
Maybe he wrote a whole poem about himself. Keep in mind: this is how the desire to attract attention is manifested, to show oneself better and more interesting than in reality.
Consider the photos and posts he posted. They will tell a lot not only about his artistic taste and talent as a photographer, but also about his hobbies, views, environment. The events attended, the films watched and the music listened to give food for thought: will joint leisure be good.
A lover of rock and motorcycles is unlikely in the future to want to patiently listen to your beloved Madonna or sit with you on the sofa watching a TV series. It is easier to get the attention of someone whose views are similar to your own.
We put in order our page in contact
Be prepared that he will also look at your page in VK. Evaluate it soberly yourself or ask those who will tell you the truth.
- Remove your unsuccessful photos from the albums, from the wall - pictures with jokes below the belt and messages about all kinds of everyday nonsense.
- Put a fresh photo on your profile picture showing you in the best possible light.
- Add small comments to good photos either about an interesting place where you are captured, or about your mood at the time of shooting.
Taking the first step towards
Prepare your boyfriend to interact more closely with you. For a start, you can limit yourself to a few "likes". Don't write private messages right away. Comment on what you see on the page or in his albums. In the comments, make it clear that you like what you saw. Express your impressions of the photo or post on the wall. Wait for his reaction. Perhaps he will be interested and take the first step himself.
What to write to a guy you like
Not every guy immediately realizes that he has already interested a girl. Take the first step yourself.
So, we write a personal message. Forget about messages like “Good afternoon! How are you?" They have already set the teeth on edge. The guy will think that you are one of those girls who like to have empty conversations, to distract. The conversation may never take place.
Make a more original move. Find something that interests both of you and make that a starting point.
- Write what you saw in his album a landscape that seemed familiar to you. Ask if you guessed the place, if he enjoyed the trip.
- We saw that he writes about walking a dog - admit that you are also a keen dog lover, ask if it is easy for him to get up for a morning walk with a pet.
- Noticed on the page a track with a song you know well - tell them that you have loved these musicians for a long time, ask if he ever attended their live performances.
You can cheat a little, exaggerate your interest, but it must be there. Simulating in a relationship is a thankless task.
After finding out what he is well versed in, ask for help in this area. He will be pleased to prove himself competent and generous in support. For instance:
- Ask him questions about a small problem with his car if he is interested in cars.
- Ask for an explanation of why your parquet floor squeaks, if he is a specialist in interior decoration.
You can also ask questions about what he likes. Give the guy the opportunity to talk about topics that he pleases. This will awaken his sympathy for you.
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Ask for his opinion on the phenomena of life. Listen carefully to his answers: from them you can understand whether you fit into his world, whether your value systems are similar.
Here are some questions to ask your new Internet friend to keep the conversation going and get to know him better.
Literacy at altitude
Competent written speech is a sign of respect for the interlocutor. Do not make him understand the incoherent jumble of words and letters. Conduct your correspondence correctly!
This does not mean that you have to sit and check everything written thoroughly with a spelling dictionary. It is enough to minimize the most common mistakes in your messages:
- Remember punctuation marks more often, use them appropriately. A stream of consciousness without commas and periods is good for the classics of modernism, but don't make the guy guess how to understand your "execution cannot be pardoned".
- Avoid overusing ellipsis. Don't substitute them for other punctuation marks. Such a text looks like the speech of an inhibited person, with difficulty collecting his thoughts.
- A message written in caps (caps) is often perceived as a cry. It is extremely bad form to write whole phrases in capsicum.
- An excess of exclamation marks is also evil. For a short message about something out of the ordinary, such a design is suitable, but not for constant communication. Each phrase with an exclamation mark (or three) at the end gives the impression of hysterical screams of a person who cannot control his emotions.
- The requirement to put a full stop at the end of a sentence in Internet communication is gradually disappearing. It is permissible to send in chat or SMS a response from one phrase without a dot, this happens more and more often in the Internet community. And the interlocutor will guess that the phrase is over. However, in more lengthy statements, it is still necessary to separate sentences with dots.
- Use only words and terms whose meanings you know exactly. If you have at least a minute before writing an answer, do not be lazy to send a request to a search engine and check yourself.
A few more helpful tips in this video:
Praise and accept compliments
- Rude compliments evoke rejection, and skillful praise finds its way to the heart. Point out what he considers himself to be the most talented, successful, and from time to time express sincere admiration for his achievements. Learn more about how to properly compliment guys.
- After receiving a compliment from him, do not be apologetic. There is no need to report that yesterday your wonderful hairdo was like a broom, and your nails looked like a dragon's. Calmly thank him, tell him that you are pleased with his attention.
- Don't reveal all the secrets. If he praised the charlotte in the photo, there is no need to make excuses, they say, she blinded from what was. Mention in passing that this is a family recipe. Your grandmother taught you, but you will not tell him why the cake is so lush and aromatic. Better to try it himself someday and try to guess. So you give a hint that you want not only to correspond, but also to meet.
A languid look, significant sighs, fleeting touches ... With such an arsenal, even the most persistent of men will lose his head. But you never know the girls have secrets to attract the attention of the opposite sex!
But what if you met on the Internet, and a real meeting "shines" for you very soon? How to make a pen guy fall in love with you?
Can an ordinary correspondence with a guy evoke feelings in his heart, even remotely resembling love?
How and where to meet
We spend most of our time online. Do you remember the last time you met someone in a cafe, transport, or just on the street?
If even some 10 years ago we were embarrassed to tell that we met our future husband on a dating site, today it has become commonplace:
- We solve all important matters in Viber, Votsap and Telegram
- share photos on Instagram
- we discuss news on Facebook and communicate with friends via SMS
Our whole life is centered here. But why is it easy to get to know someone, but to seriously interest and fall in love with a guy on the Internet is already more difficult?
Where to begin?
The time has passed when all that remained for a woman was to sit and wait by the sea for the weather. It's time to take matters into your own hands. Therefore, we go to the site and begin the selection of potential candidates.
But you should not act thoughtlessly - to achieve the desired results, follow some unspoken rules.
Rule # 1 Check your profile
Do you have any entries in your profile or on the wall of the social network that could make you look not in the best light? Having photos in albums where you are half-naked does not add any points to you either.
At heart, all men are owners. If you are in the mood for a serious long-term relationship, you better play it safe and remove pictures that could compromise you.
Photos "nude", of course, can attract a guy on the Internet, but such a man clearly does not dream of taking you to the altar. He'll just admire your figure and go home.
Rule # 2 Do not be afraid to write to him first
Men love women who take initiative. How to get the pen guy interested? What to write? Do not overload a man with unnecessary information from the very beginning.
Remember that you have just invaded his personal space. Therefore, you need to act decisively, but wisely. Start with something neutral, like "Hello!" Do not go into details of the purpose of your "visit", but first wait for his response.
Rule # 3 Keep track of the time
Don't write to him at night from the start. Look at the time - maybe right now he is getting to work through traffic jams across the city. Or, conversely, he is busy at an important meeting.
Your messages will only be associated with annoyance.
In addition, his mood at this time of day can be poor. Choose evening time, but make sure the clock is no later than midnight.
Rule # 4 Don't talk about the past
The most common female mistake is to mention her ex from the first lines of correspondence. Don't ask unnecessary questions about his past. You never know, suddenly it can ruin his mood. You do not know what and how. The time will come, and she will tell you everything.
Rule # 5 Don't rush things
In a hurry to transfer SMS communication with a guy to real life? Do not pressure a man with this question. If you see that he does not support this idea, it might be better to carry it over to later. Don't worry, men can be scared too.
Chances are he's just not quite ready yet. In the end, it was you who found him, not he you. Have a little patience, because our main goal is to correspond with a man who will hook him so much that he himself will beg you to meet you as soon as possible. It is unlikely that he is going to build a lifelong correspondence relationship. The day will come and you will receive an invitation to your first date.
Rule # 6 Don't make big plans
No matter how easy a man may seem to you to communicate, do not start talking about your plans and goals. You don't know each other well enough to discuss the future. There is a danger that he will take whatever you say personally.
Especially talking about marriage and children. This can simply scare a man off, because each of them fancies himself an inveterate bachelor and is convinced that he will never marry. Well, he just didn't meet you before.
Rule # 7 Literacy
There is no one answer to the question: "How to fall in love with a penpal guy." What a man will definitely like in communication is your culture of speech and style of presenting thoughts. After all, this is your clothes, which are met when meeting online.
Try to write correctly and avoid typos. When in doubt, it is better to check how a particular word is spelled.
Rule # 8 Explain Your Emotions
The problem with all correspondence is that we cannot always correctly interpret what our interlocutor was trying to convey to us.
Sometimes we do not always understand what a message in a messenger from a friend with whom we have been friends for 10 years and usually understand each other from a half-glance means. And here - an almost unfamiliar man, who, by the way, we want to please.
Not the most convenient time for an explanation that you simply expressed yourself incorrectly, but he did not understand the joke and was offended.
Use emoticons and emojis to tell him you're joking, but don't try to replace whole sentences with them. Such communication is more suitable for adolescents.
How to interest a guy seriously and for a long time?
We figured out the basic rules of correspondence with men. The most important thing is how to get a boyfriend via SMS. Yes, make it so that all his thoughts were only about you.
Let's try? The most important thing is to remember exactly how you should communicate.
Discard platitudes
Don't text him trivial things that make you one of a million girls like you. All these "smacks", "sweet dreams" and "cemiks" are already pretty sick of them.
Be yourself and choose words that he will associate only with you.
Do not try to compare
With no one and never. Especially with ex-boyfriends. As already mentioned, the topic of the ex is a taboo. Unless, of course, he himself touches it. But even in this case, it is not worthwhile to dwell on this topic too much. It was and it was. Now it doesn't make any sense. Let's go.
Don't talk bad about yourself
Most of your complexes are far-fetched. And it's not up to you to decide what he likes about you and what doesn't. Perhaps he will love you precisely for this hump on the nose, which "spoils" your life since the fifth grade of high school. And the real shortcomings are also not worth mentioning. Only talk about yourself in a good way.
Look for new topics
Talking about the weather is the most boring and dull thing you can think of. Leave this topic to the grandmothers on the bench. Carefully find out what he is interested in and "dig" in this direction. Tell us what has happened to you recently.
Don't answer dryly
It may seem to him that you are not interested in further communication. This way, your conversation will quickly fizzle out. Warm up his interest with juicy details.
Call him by name
Oh, this is the sweetest sound for every person. This custom lettering works wonders.
Addressing a person by name, you subconsciously become closer to him.
Let him get bored
Some girls do not let the man get bored and attack him with messages. Take a break and wait for him to text you first. Men do not appreciate what goes into their hands.
Add intrigue
Every woman has a little intriguer. Men do not know how to endure, they want to get everything at once.
Therefore, if you cryptically promise to "introduce him to someone" or "show him something interesting," he will turn on in such a way that he will not leave you until you fulfill your promise.
And you really wanted to send him a photo of your cat. You never know what he invented for himself. This is a common example, perhaps not the best one.
Think what you have that could intrigue him in earnest?
Don't reply to a message right away
Do not rush headlong to the phone as soon as an SMS notification arrives. Let him know that he is not the center of your universe. Do not delay until tomorrow with the answer, but you should not answer immediately.
Adequate text volume
Do not scribble the essay "How I spent the summer with my grandmother in the country." The length of your messages should not exceed the number of characters that he sent you. And don't get too busy with messages.
If he sent you, say, 2 SMS, you shouldn't schedule 20 reply messages without the need. Shut up your fountain of eloquence. Do not be offended, but this tactic of the girl discourages all the desire to communicate.
Don't talk about yourself
We are all selfish, and that's okay. But forget about it at least for a while. Talk about him, about him and again about him. If he wants to talk about you, your hobbies and preferences, he will ask you these questions himself. Rejoice in his successes, admire him.
Chat regularly
He should get used to the fact that his morning begins with a message to you, and you only need to fall asleep after saying good night to you. "Put" him on the correspondence with you.
If even after all your actions, the guy clearly does not go towards rapprochement, then perhaps you should step back from the assigned goal.
After all, you cannot be liked by everyone without exception. And that's okay. Do not rack your brains as to why you failed to build a relationship and what you did wrong, deciding to fall in love with a man by correspondence. Don't be discouraged and don't take it personally. Someone will definitely appear in your life who will appreciate you!
What to write first to a guy: easy ways to impress
The power of a compliment
Common denominator
Life hack from a psychologist
Rule 1. The main thing is to start
Rule 3. Be correct
Rule 5. Maintain intrigue
Selection of a dating site
Preparatory work: before you write
Before surfing the vastness of a dating site, check if everything is in order with your virtual face - a profile that, like the right dress, should emphasize the advantages and hide the flaws. We have already analyzed in detail, on a dating site, in order to leave a distinct, capacious and vivid impression about ourselves. Read it.
I put myself in order - with the intentness of a tracker, study the profile of the guy to whom she was going to write, desperately flashing her eyes. You need to know the enemy by sight. Any profile on a dating site, except for an empty one, provides a lot of useful information. In particular, it answers the question of which words to write to the guy first. Hang on to the kindly provided information.
What to write to a guy you like: setting goals
While you are puzzling over what you can write to a guy, I’ll ask you this question: is goal setting an important condition for success. And I’ll answer right away: yes. The target is the point of arrival. A goal is a clearly articulated desire. Having defined the goal, you look for (and usually find) the means (words) to achieve it. Without a goal, you go somewhere and find yourself somewhere. As in the fairy tale about Alice.
- Tell me, please, where should I go from here?
- Where do you want to go? - answered the Cat.
- I don't care ... - said Alice.
- Then it's all the same where to go, - said the Cat.
Don't be Alice. Set transparent goals. Realize why you are wasting precious time looking for a partner, so what? For example, walking through galleries, engaging in tantric sex, creating a social unit. For each purpose - its own way of communication. By the way, what a style - to write first. Probably a hundred times already asked this question.
Why writing first is important: the benefits of being an initiative
Contrary to the stereotype “a man should take the first step”, it is a commercially profitable event. Firstly, there are few girls who write first, and the attitude towards them is the same - as reverent as towards rare precious metals. Secondly, you get the opportunity to choose among ALL, and not among those who wrote to you (admit, more than 90% of those who wrote are guys of low social relevance). Thirdly, it is a useful skill in every sense - to take, not wait. If you become more familiar with dating sites, you will be able to use it everywhere.
What to write first to a guy: easy ways to impress
Now dip your pen into the inkwell and write. And although the banal “Hello, how are you”, uttered by a woman’s lips, loses its shallowness and acquires fresh coquettishness, it is worth using our brains not only to grab attention, but to make an indelible impression. It's easy to do this with a compliment.
The power of a compliment
Oddly enough, so few women use the simple way to win over any man on a dating site - to make a compliment. The compliment should be light and relevant. Leave the eloquence of the times of the Egyptian pharaohs in the bins of your rich spiritual world. "Your eagle eye pierced my quivering heart" - something like that, at best, will cause a smile, and sometimes it can offend the interlocutor.
Men like it when they emphasize their tribal advantages - sexuality, strength, will: “I've never met such expressive biceps!”, “Who gave you such an amazing smile?”, “I want to make sure that handsome guys are interesting interlocutors. Can you help? ”,“ I don’t know which is more in you - magnetism or romance, but you are definitely not like the others ”. Praise those virtues that are real, not illusory. Talking to a slender guy about biceps is at least merciless.
Common denominator
You can approach from the other side. As from a springboard, push off from the general points. “Hello! I saw your photos from Tbilisi. I'm just planning to go there. I would like to ask a few questions about the city and your impressions. Do you mind? "," I also often visit this park, but I have never seen you. How could I miss? "," This gorgeous Doberman is yours? I've always dreamed of having a dog. Is it true that Dobermans, contrary to popular belief about their aggressiveness, are friendly and peaceful? "
Life hack from a psychologist
To feel confident in any situation, not just on a dating site, consider the following life hack. Don't know how to start or maintain a conversation - ask questions. First, you will save the interlocutor from the headache, what to say, so that the conversation flows like a babbling stream. Secondly, the question form of communication will emphasize your focus on it.
Phrases for dating a guy on the Internet: TOP-100
Continuing the conversation about women's initiative, there are many examples on the topic “do not sit like a red girl, but write first”. Here's what you can write to a guy so as not to cross the fine line between light flirting and indecent behavior.
- I am a journalist. I'm doing a survey for a dating site. May I ask you a few questions? The first of them - how do you feel about the girls who meet first?
- I read that a person needs to use 70 muscles to smile. I suggest you start downloading them right now. Smile and let's get acquainted!
- I choose cufflinks as a present for my dad. Can you help me? Such a stylish young man should understand this.
- What kind of ties are in fashion nowadays? I need to buy a present for my brother, but I know about ties like screwdrivers.
- Do you know what an electrical discharge is? This is what happened when I looked at your photo.
- You look like the guy I recently saw in a dream. True, he was not alone, but with a white horse. Isn't that you?
- Can you tell me how to change the candles / oil in "any car brand"?
- I pressed something on the computer keyboard and everything went out. What could it be?
- Do you really think the internet is the place to be for serious relationships?
- Why is such a spectacular guy looking for a girlfriend on the Internet? I'm sure in real life the girls follow you in droves.
- I want to make sure that a handsome guy can be an interesting conversationalist. Can you help?
- You look like a wild beast - brave, smart and daring. And yet I think I can tame you.
- I want to ask you one question - what can you write to a guy you like?
- Why is he so brooding in the photo? Do not be sad. Life is wonderful. If only because there is me.
- I want to watch a movie tonight. Any advice? It seems to me that you are well versed in cinema and not only.
- Give me a book. I can't choose, but you look like a well-read young man.
- I also like this park (city, horseback riding). I wonder how else we are alike?
- It's amazing how ordinary photography can convey so much emotion.
- I have never met a man with such a deep gaze. I'm impressed.
- How many secrets are there in these beautiful eyes. Will you share one of them with me ?.
- Before I saw you, I only read about alpha males in magazines.
- You look like you are hugging them. It immediately gets warm. "
- Such a view ... Seeing him, it does not matter anymore, neither income, nor education, nor the presence of bad habits.
- You look great. An innate sense of taste or are you following trends?
- Hello. I've been looking for you everywhere for so long. And you, it turns out, are here.
- I saw your profile, and now I am concerned about one question ...
- It seems to me, or did you really act in some kind of movie?
- Probably, girls often invite you for a walk to the registry office?
- Tell me how to please one charming guy on this dating site?
- What do you think is more important for a girl - to be beautiful or smart? Which one do you prefer?
- How do you like the news that "the plot of the latest news (for example, the ruble has dropped dramatically)"?
- Do you believe in love at first sight or do you prefer to take a long look?
- I wonder if such a romantic young man listens to the voice of his heart or reason?
- Do you think it is worth making decisions based on intuition?
- What is your favorite movie? Perhaps this is what I will watch tonight.
- Have you been told that you make a lasting impression on girls?
- You've probably been told a thousand times that you are beautiful. But it's nice to hear it for the thousand and first time too, isn't it?
- I was invited to my uncle's birthday. Can you tell me what you can give?
- The guys are good at tech. Can you help me choose headphones / player / phone?
- Do you think love is actual or is it already a relic of the past?
- If you happened to become a woman for a short while, what would you do first?
- Could you call me on my mobile? Lost, I can't find.
- If you had a time machine, where would you like to go?
- Do you love popping bubbles on the packaging bag as much as I do?
- Are you seriously considering this site as a girl search resource?
- I wonder if such a serious man has ever done crazy things?
- And what brings you here?
- Do you want to cheer you up?
- By any chance, aren't you the guy of my dreams?
- How do you feel about women's initiative?
- Why do men like stupid girls?
- How long have you been stealing women's hearts?
- Your smile makes me lose my sanity.
- You look like a purebred cat. I just want to stroke you.
- Sky, tree, supermarket wall…. What do you see from the window?
- I have eye problems. I can’t take them away from your profile.
- Hello. You need a man's opinion on one issue. Can you help me?
- Oh, have you been to "city / place name"? And how did you like it there?
- Let's skip the formal dating part and move on to the more important one.
- Maybe we'll get to know each other anyway, or will we silently look through each other's profiles?
- I have a feeling that you, having looked through my profile, did not know how to give me a ride. Here, I decided to help you.
- I thought for a long time about a good phrase to start dating, but decided not to complicate it. Let's get to know each other without boring buzzwords?
- How about communication without obligation?
- What do you think we have in common?
- The advantages are there, but what about the disadvantages?
- I would like to know more about you than just your name.
- Wondering what's behind this beautiful facade?
- You have an x-ray look. Probably, you can't hide anything from you?
- You have a gorgeous look. Now it's your turn to compliment.
- Could you explain one of the traffic rules to me?
- I am a visitor from the future and have been sent to a dating site to make your life better and happier.
- I am writing an article on web dating. Can I ask you a couple of questions?
- I am writing a book on how to meet a guy. Your independent opinion is interesting.
- Your presence here turns the other guys into a faceless mass.
- You give the impression of a fortress where you can find shelter and feel safe.
- Young man, you have wounded my heart, and now you are obliged to provide me with medical assistance.
- I promised my cat that today I would meet the most handsome guy on the site.
- They say that initiative is punishable, and at the same time it is better to regret what has been done than not done. Let's get acquainted?
- With such a man, you don't even need a blanket. So much warmth from you!
- I get embarrassed when you look at me and don't write anything.
- Would you like to accompany me to a cafe one evening?
- Young man, can you tell me, do you like me?
- Will you take me out of the maze of loneliness?
- I'm drowning looking into your eyes. Save urgently!
- So this is what a magnetic gaze is ...
- I have never met such expressive cheekbones.
- Is it true that all men are polygamous?
- You can even go to a desert island with you.
- What attracts you most about girls?
- Tell me, how does a screwdriver differ from a drill?
- If tomorrow is the end of the world, what would you do today?
- I feel that you are not like everyone else. I want to understand why.
- What do you think, is it possible to buy happiness for money?
- Do you know that reproduction in space is impossible?
- I dreamed about Freud today. What do you think that would mean?
- They say the trainer's wife gets sugar after good sex!
- Do you also think that female logic incapacitates the male psyche?
- I wonder why men shake the pistol in the tank after refueling the car?
- What happens if you press the gas and the brake at the same time in the car?
- I wonder if you are folding or throwing your socks around?
What next: how to keep his attention and interest
In principle, you don't need a lot of intelligence. Enough good looks and unobtrusive initiative. But so that interest does not evaporate at the speed of boiling water, maintain the correct degree.
- Do not expose your urgent need for communication and worry about its absence. “Where have you disappeared”, “Why don’t you write”, “I am waiting for your answer” - phrases to defeat.
- Talk mostly about him - everyone likes it when they talk about them. Speak, but do not speak. Don't be a Real Madrid fan if you don't know what a penalty is.
- A good throw-in is to ask for help. Men like women who ask for help. This makes them feel courageous and smart, that is, to feel superior. “I choose a lawnmower for my father for his birthday - do you think Makita or Husqvarna is better?”, “Gave (name of the game), but I can't get through the seventh level! You are a tough gamer. Help out! " (if he's a cool gamer).
Remember that communication for the sake of communication has no practical meaning if the purpose of your stay is not to stretch your fingers. As soon as you are convinced of the adequacy and safety of your partner, go to real life. All interesting things happen there.
Summary: 5 important rules for interesting and effective correspondence
In the meantime, you are here, and not there, load into the unconscious the basic rules (without rules anywhere) of interesting and effective correspondence.
Rule 1. The main thing is to start
The first rule of communication on a dating site is to start a conversation. We found out that the problem of what to write to the guy first does not exist. You can designate your interest with a banal "Hello", having tested the waters, whether your partner makes contact or only loves blondes (when you are a brunette). Or go to the next level - compliments and immersion.
Rule 2. Be meaningful
Do not bother how beautiful it is to write a guy on. Literary talent is an advantage, but without the right stuffing, a sense of language doesn't matter. Men are a different audience. They don't like pretty quotes. It is important - not how, but what to write to the guy in order to interest him. Be a brilliant conversationalist. Here's a recipe from Lisa Kerk: "A gossiper is someone who talks to you about others, a bore is someone who talks to you about himself, and a brilliant conversationalist is someone who talks to you about you."
Rule 3. Be correct
His background does not concern you yet. Hold on to questions about your financial situation, the number of divorces, a history of hemorrhoids. At this stage of dating, skeletons in the closet are not considered. You will arrange the interrogation with passion later. For example, before going under Mendelssohn's march to a bright future.
Rule 4. Do not include "half"
As soon as you turn on the "half" who is bored, suffering and everyone else demonstrates their inferiority without him - write, it’s gone. Word forms emphasizing your inferiority against the background of its significance, forget it like a bad dream (“I miss you”, “I miss you”, “You have become the meaning of my life”). And without esotericism ("Fate itself brought us together").
Rule 5. Maintain intrigue
It is better not to finish talking about yourself - answer his questions briefly and cover yourself with a veil. Watch out for a halo of mystery. Do not be a shirt-guy and open your soul. It is interesting to recognize a mysterious stranger.
What to write to the guy, we have offered examples. There are enough of them to demonstrate their originality and psychological maturity. Here are just a theory without practice is not worth a damn. Therefore, right now, register a profile and start exercising. Good luck!
