How to communicate with your boss to get promoted. How to decide to have a serious conversation with your boss

There are different types of bosses. If your boss is a wonderful person, fair, smart, and not without a sense of humor, you are very lucky. But what about those whose boss is not a gift? There are bosses who are stupid, cunning, angry, and irritable. And there are also real tyrants who decided that their position allows them to humiliate the human dignity of people who to some extent depend on them. How can you be smarter than your boss enough to not let him make your life miserable without losing your job? Don't be afraid of furious bosses who spit saliva and call their subordinates names at every opportunity. last words. You just need to be able to communicate with them, while keeping your interests in mind. Psychologists have developed behavioral strategies specifically for such cases. If you don’t want to kiss your boss’s back, you definitely need to read this material.

Video secrets of building relationships with your boss

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Putting the raging boss in his place

The most unpleasant situation at work is to become an object of neglect or humiliation. The reasons may be different - you came in a skirt that was too short, you were accidentally late, you did not understand the task that was given to you. A common situation is that you made a mistake. And your boss, having discovered this, informs you in an extremely rude manner that you should not have acted this way, and in general, you as an employee are of no use. At the same time, all past “sins” are recalled. Many bosses reprimand their subordinates in a rather insulting manner, often doing this in front of witnesses. They see this as an opportunity once again show your superiority. Such bosses love to focus attention on the employee’s mistakes, humiliating him as a person.

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How to become smarter than the boss

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Method one: lose your job

The first thing that comes to mind is to answer the boss in the same spirit, declare that you are not on the same path with him and leave the office with your head held high. It's beautiful, you can't argue with that. On the way to the labor exchange, you will amuse your pride, remembering how you told him EVERYTHING. Unfortunately, a less pleasant outcome of events is also possible. If the showdown with the boss goes too far, his security may take over you, and you will not leave the office on your own, but simply fly out. Together with things, or maybe without them. If you need a job, this method of being smarter than your boss is absolutely not suitable for you. And will you be smarter if you do this? The question is controversial.

You shouldn’t answer your boss in the style of “that’s how you are.” Even if you feel the strength to correctly explain that the boss has no right to point out your mistakes, since he himself makes mistakes, is late, etc. The result will most likely be the same - you will lose your job.

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Method two: sprinkle ashes on your head

This method is a little better than the previous one - you won’t lose your job. You should tear your shirt off, repeating that you will not make such a mistake again, humbly apologize, and your boss will most likely change his anger to mercy and grant you forgiveness. One thing is bad: this method is not suitable for everyone. It is quite possible that you have your own dignity, in which case after such an incident you will be left with the feeling that your feet have been wiped all over you. In addition, you acknowledge your own insignificance, accepting humiliation addressed to you. And if other employees were present, you risk losing not only your self-respect, but also the respect of your colleagues, who will very soon stop taking you into account. After all, the team follows the boss, like a flock follows the leader - our ancient ancestors knew about this.

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Method three: constructive solution

Firstly, you should not answer your boss right away. Let him speak and let off his steam. Then he will be able to listen to you. Admit that you made a mistake, you regret it, and you will be more careful next time. Next, add that your boss speaks to you in a rather harsh tone, and you do not see the need for this. And remember that it is better to sort things out confidentially.

You shouldn’t give an ultimatum like “I’ll quit your office altogether if you allow yourself to speak in that tone again.” As a rule, bosses cannot tolerate this. And you can write a letter of resignation without warning. Simply and without irritation in your voice, say that this style of treatment is preventing you from concentrating on your job responsibilities.

But even in this case, there is a risk of dismissal if you come across a psychopathic boss who does not tolerate any manifestations of self-respect on the part of his subordinates. Such people need a different approach.

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Don't show mental superiority

There is an office saying: never show yourself to be smarter than your boss - you will be known as a sage. Indeed, smart is not the one who demonstrates this at every step, but the one who knows how to show his potential in the right place and in the right way. right time. And the boss’s office is not the place where you should show your superiority.

Most people don't like those who are smarter. The situation is aggravated if the first is a boss and the second is an ordinary employee. If you flaunt your deep knowledge, you will be considered an upstart. And this will greatly prevent you from moving up the career ladder. Of course, there are also very smart managers who encourage the growth of professionalism of their employees and value their knowledge and skills. If you have just such a boss, you are lucky, but then you would not be interested in this issue and would not end up on this page.

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How to communicate with your boss correctly

Elena Kaspirkevich

Or something in between: sometimes the conversation just doesn’t go well. Thinking through the conversation in advance is not the best option, but also to enter into a conversation without having a sample list at hand general topics, also not the case. If you have ever tried to move away from impromptu and went through topics for conversation in your mind (and in the end everything, as usual, came down to discussing the weather), then our recommendations will be useful to you.

Here are tips for those times when you need to start a conversation at work.

With the founder of the company or its head

You:"Hello! How is your week going?

Management:"Not bad. Many affairs! How are you?

You:"Great. I’m really excited to be working on [the most important part of the project for you].”

Large companies employ a lot of people, so there is nothing wrong with inserting information about yourself during a conversation with the head or owner of the company. If you are not sure that your boss knows your name, it’s time to extend your hand to him and say, “It seems like we don’t know each other. My name is [your name].”

With a newbie

You:"Hello. You came [this week, last Friday], right? I'm [your name] from Team [X]. Well, how have you settled into your new place? Have you been to [a popular cafe nearby] yet?”

Newbie:“Yes, I’m fine, thank you. Of course, there is still a lot to learn, but I like everything. How long have you been working here?”

You:“Since [time you started working]. I still can’t believe that [here is some memorable event from the life of the company that you caught].”

Your job is to start a conversation and make the newbie feel relaxed. No, of course, you can look away when you see a new person, mutter “hello” to him and run on to make your coffee, but you are capable of more, right? Friendly relationships with colleagues are worth it.

Remember, being a newbie is always difficult. If you care about the company and your role in it, respect its culture and development - for starters, don't ignore newcomers, thinking that someone else should befriend them.

With a colleague who has been working here for a hundred years (and whom you are afraid of)

You:“I’m wondering where to go for lunch. I don’t know these places well yet, but you’ve been working here for a long time. Can you tell me where there are good places?”

Colleague:"What are you exactly interested in?"

This opening opens up many conversation options. This, of course, is not a situation where you need to quickly strike up a conversation, but since you are so afraid of talking to this person, then it is worth getting over yourself and saying more than just “Hello. How are you doing?".

It won't be reckless to start a conversation about work, but it will be easier if you have at least some understanding of what exactly your colleague is working on. Try to point out his or her experience (in in this case- knowledge of a place where you can have lunch). It is quite possible that this kindest people, and you have an impression of him misconception. The only way to find out is to boldly start a conversation.

With the event organizer

You:"Perfect place. Thank you for arranging all this for us. Do you plan to do this often?”

Organizer:“You know, of course I plan, because in my company...”

You've probably heard that most people like to talk about themselves? So take advantage of this. This approach is especially useful if you have no idea what to talk about with someone you've just met, or are afraid that you won't have anything interesting to say.

If you start a conversation with the organizer in this manner, it is unlikely that you will have to answer anything. You will only need to periodically insert a few phrases in order to maintain the conversation and make a good impression.

With a VIP

You:"Hello. My name is [your name]. I know you’re very busy, but I realized that I would regret it the rest of my life if I didn’t come and tell you that your app is simply brilliant.”

Chances are, the most the celebrity will do is thank you, and that gratitude shouldn't be taken personally. Compliment - always a good start for conversation. If you have something good to say about that person's company, program, or product, why not start the conversation there and see where it goes from there?

With the former boss

You:"Glad to see you! How are things at [company name]? I read that you have expanded [department or production]. Surely you are happy about this development.”

Former boss:“Yes, I'm glad. Now everything is a little chaotic, but it’s interesting to work. I like having something to focus on.”

No matter the circumstances under which you left the company, you still don't have to pretend you don't see your former boss at the snack table. Be polite to him. This will demonstrate your character and professionalism. This isn't the first time you've encountered someone you don't want to talk to, but as they say, skill comes with experience.

Even if your former boss angry at you after you leave, he is unlikely to be able to ignore your kindness.

With an employee from an unfamiliar department

You:“So, how is your week going? Are you busy with projects?

Interlocutor:“We are busier than usual because we are currently working on [ main project commands]".

You:“Oh, interesting. I didn't know you were doing this too. What exactly are you doing?”

This vague start to the conversation makes it clear that you don’t know what exactly this employee does (don’t worry, he probably doesn’t know what you do either). But, nevertheless, this way you can start a conversation about his affairs and the work of his team.

If your interlocutor turns out to be talkative, perhaps he will describe in detail what his department does, and you will have something to talk about the next time you meet. If he is uncommunicative, then you can talk about your work.

With your boss's significant other

You:“It’s so good that you were able to come. It's great to finally meet the person I've heard so much about. Susan said that you like to cook together. What dish did you do best?”

Companion:"Hard to tell. Probably chicken in the oven...”

This way of starting the conversation implies that you will remember something that you heard from your boss about his “other half.” If nothing comes to mind, try to find out about it in a more popular way by asking: “I wonder what things we distracted you from with our event?” or “What else interesting happened to you this week (besides this meeting!)?”

When talking with your boss’s “other half,” you shouldn’t act too relaxed and as if you’ve known each other for a long time. But you shouldn’t treat her like a stranger. As with a seemingly unfriendly co-worker, try not to become nervous. If you already have a good working relationship with your boss, then communicating with his “other half” will only improve it.

With an intern

You:“How was the weekend? Are you watching or reading anything interesting right now?”

Trainee:"Great. I'm now hooked on [series one] and [series two]. Are you watching them?

You:“Oh, I heard [the first series] was cool, but I haven’t watched it yet. But I'm watching [the second series]. I love the actor who plays dad.”

Once you start a conversation with a topic about TV series, books or films, you are unlikely to have problems continuing the conversation. Unless, of course, the intern lives in a cave and doesn’t know what’s going on in the world. Find some common interests or discuss something you strongly disagree with. Do you like "The Americans" and does he like "House of Cards"? Forward. Good way move the conversation beyond the standard “Hi. How was your weekend?”, “Okay, how are you?”

Of course, these are all exemplary situations. It is impossible to predict exactly how your interlocutor will answer you. But that doesn't matter. If you learn how to approach people and start a conversation, you will easily cope in any situation. Be yourself, be authentic, and understand that starting and maintaining a conversation requires some effort for most people.

I am often asked: “how to talk to my boss so that I can be understood”? Or: “how to talk to the boss so that he raises my salary”? Indeed, have you noticed that when your bosses give you and me some kind of overtime task at work, they do it easily and freely, but when it’s our turn, we are timid and often it becomes very difficult for us, and sometimes Is it completely impossible to defend your rights? So why can’t you and I talk to our superiors “on an equal footing” when we really need it?

The whole point is that my boss and I speak “ different languages" What does it mean? I'll try to explain...

The higher position a person occupies on the social ladder (this applies, first of all, to how he is used to earning money) - the more strongly this affects his manner of behavior in society with other people. It is unlikely that I will discover America by saying that even if we dress a janitor and an entrepreneur in the same clothes, it will be enough for us to exchange a couple of phrases with them to understand “who is who” (who is who). And the point here is not at all in the amount of money, but in the ability to think and perceive the surrounding reality. Each of these people will have their own reality, and the reality of a janitor will be very different from the reality of an entrepreneur.

Of course, the above example is highly exaggerated, but it reflects the essence of things. Your boss is, first of all, a person accustomed to making decisions. Despite the fact that he, like you, is employed, his responsibilities include taking a little more decisions than you are accustomed to making in the course of your service. And there is nothing scary or shameful about this, because if, for example, you like your profession and you fully realize yourself through it, then you don’t need any decision-making.

Subordinate in the face of superiors

must look dashing and silly,

so as not to confuse your superiors with your understanding.

From the decree of Peter I

If you do not experience tension in a conversation with your superiors and at the same time resolve all issues constructively, we can only be happy for you. Most have nothing to brag about. It's good if we're talking about about some misunderstanding. Sometimes the procedure of communicating with the boss is stressful, comparable in strength to exam stress. How to influence the situation, what can be done so that when management appears, your head remains clear, and your speech is clear and intelligible, so that the first questions and objections do not confuse you?

Fear of superiors is one of the social, that is, the most common, phobias. This fear can be rational and justified if the boss is a tyrant from whom you can expect anything, including public insult and humiliation. This kind of behavior is not uncommon these days. But if you tolerate this, then you have significant benefits that do not allow self-esteem to manifest itself and close the door to his office once and for all. This is your conscious choice. This is not what this article will be about.

We will talk about the irrational fear that many experience on an unconscious level when communicating with their superiors. Where does it come from? And how can you get rid of it?

The first reason is psychological. As the doctor said Freud: we acquire all our problems in childhood, and then spend our whole lives solving them...

The boss is always the main one, the senior in status in the team; subconsciously his role is perceived as paternal. IN traditional culture The father was the head of the family for many centuries. Despite the fact that there is currently a change in roles in the family, the dominant role of the father is embedded in the unconscious.

Family education occurs behind the scenes in two main directions. The mother gives the child the experience of love and passes on the culture of the family. The father is responsible for interaction with society. His support and care create a feeling of security, confidence in safety and reinforce self-esteem. Observing the life of the father and communicating with him instills in the child socially useful goals and ideals.

It is not difficult to understand that the absence of a father or his antisocial behavior reduces the child’s adaptive abilities and increases internal anxiety, which is subsequently transferred into adult life. Such a person, as a rule, has problems with positioning in society. Even with numerous talents, people with low self-esteem spend much more energy making contacts and resolving issues than those for whom the support of their father helped them develop the necessary skills of communication and defending their interests.

The overlap of these two factors (increased anxiety and lack of adequate experience communicating with the father) creates additional difficulties in interacting with management; a person has to experience triple pressure on the psyche: a conversation with a manager always involves answering questions. difficult questions, internal anxiety and lack of experience communicating with an adequate parent increase psychological discomfort.

The second important reason for the emergence of irrational fear is a lack of understanding of the motives of the leader’s behavior. The lack of information about the characteristics of his personality, goals and true intentions in the imagination of a person with low self-esteem is often replaced by all sorts of speculation about bad attitude towards him or his work, thoughts about possible dismissal.

Any fear brings a person into the state of a frightened child. Childish self follows life principle feelings. IN stressful situation is a spontaneous reaction of fear and subsequent adaptive child behavior. To bring yourself out of a childish state, you should understand what an adult self is.

An adult perceives and processes the logical component of information. He knows how to manage emotions and use them to achieve goals.

Therefore, it is necessary to rationalize your experience of communicating with a leader, not to avoid contact, but to better get to know his strengths and weak sides, the requirements for him from his managers, to understand in what conditions he lives and works, how he prefers to receive information.

1. Always remember the harsh conditions in which almost every manager works. Bosses always have a lot to do and little time, they are often under pressure and make decisions in a situation of time pressure and lack of special or encyclopedic knowledge. Your boss's responsibility for the business and staff is much greater than yours. The most a big problem, with which you come to him, this is perhaps one hundredth of all his problems.
2. As Radislav Gandapas says, the function of the subordinate element in the system is to provide comfort to the superior: to provide cover in dangerous situations, to transfer people who are unpleasant to the manager and to resolve issues that are unpleasant to the manager. Every time you go into his office, try to forget that this is the boss in front of you and see a person who can make a serious mistake.
3. Prepare carefully for each meeting, collect and analyze all the necessary information, ask yourself: “What is my true goal? What can I do to achieve it? This will allow you to significantly reduce internal anxiety. Don't rely on impromptu. Improvising in conditions of psychological stupor is quite difficult.
4. Every time before you go to your boss, sit quietly for a few minutes and devote this time to self-tuning. Think about your talents, remember your achievements, pleasant moments of victories. Let these memories become a powerful resource for you to build self-esteem and restore integrity. A man broadcasts his internal state on others. When we project calm and confidence, those around us will also become calmer and more trusting of our words and actions. And if you broadcast information into the space around you with all your appearance that you are a victim... Any victim will definitely find his executioner.
5. Often a person suffering from low self-esteem and not receiving positive reinforcement from management tries to fill the empty cup by praising himself in the presence of his boss, presenting information, emphasizing his own merits. As a result, speech slips from actual problem on topics that are unimportant to his leader. And instead of making money in the eyes of management additional bonus, such a subordinate looks incompetent. Remember that you are going to management to resolve issues, and not to engage in your own PR. A professional approach to solving problems is the best PR. And vanity is one of the deadly sins, and therefore is punished. In this case, troubles at work.
6. Avoid verbosity. Often, in order to drown out stress, a person begins to talk a lot. And he often says unnecessary things, to his own detriment. As one person I respect very much said: “You need to speak only when you cannot remain silent. And even then, before that you need to consult with heaven.” Write on a sticky note and stick in front of your eyes a phrase that will work for you every day: “I refuse to talk too much. I speak calmly and with dignity. Every word I say is worth its weight in gold. In the presence of any interlocutor, I am confident in myself and think constructively, and valuable decisions come to me.”
7. When entering the boss's office, do not start straight away. Look around, feel his mood. A few seconds will be enough for you to do this. Remember that it is easier to meet the understanding of your interlocutor if the pace and sound of your speech is similar to his. Adapt if you want to feel comfortable. If your boss is in trouble and depressed, he is unlikely to be inspired by your fighting spirit and brisk pace of speech. While calm behavior and a slightly muffled voice will show understanding of the situation and unspoken psychological support. And vice versa, if the boss has today great mood, you don’t need to spoil him with your sad appearance, tune in to his wave, and you will see that everything will be resolved for you in the best possible way.
8. If it is difficult for you to make eye contact, this is signaled to you by your childhood fears, which have become the reason for your distrust of the world. Instill in yourself the idea that you trust your boss, and when he talks to you about unpleasant things, it gives you food for development, and after a while you will see that it will become easier for you to look him in the eye.
9. Often, before we even have time to enter the office, we bring down the main stress factor on our manager’s head: “The bank called, they are not satisfied with our building!” And it doesn’t matter that the manager is now busy with a completely different matter and does not remember our last conversation at all... When entering his office, first of all, indicate the main topic of the conversation: “I am on the issue of our loan agreement with bank N,” briefly recall the background of the issue and only then identify the problem: the reasons why the bank refuses to accept the collateral. Come with a solution. Don't hang your monkeys on your boss. He has enough of his own. Form proposals while still at work. Write a list of why this is beneficial for the business, for the enterprise, and what risks may arise. Learn to talk to your manager in the language of solutions, not problems (Radislav Gandapas)
10. Never deceive your boss, even over small things. Little lies give rise to great mistrust. If you don’t know something, it’s better to say so, but promise to provide the necessary information in the near future. And don't forget to do this.
11. Submit your work only in its finished form. Try to bring the matter to completion as much as possible, even if you suspect that the boss may want to completely redo everything.
12. Keep your boss in the loop about everything. Nothing irritates a manager more than when strangers know more about what is happening in his department than he does. Inform your boss about the state of affairs with personnel, about proposed changes, about the state of the budget and others important matters. Report troubles to him in advance and immediately offer a solution.
13. Listen to your boss carefully and non-judgmentally, do not try to calculate in your mind what he is thinking about you now. Give yourself full attention to listening and discussing, this will significantly reduce stress and lead you to the best result.
14. Start speaking only when the boss finishes speaking. Express your opposing position only after you fully understand his point. If you disagree, but find it difficult to insist on your own, remember that you are saying “no” not to the leader himself, but to his arguments. And if you are criticized, then they criticize not you as a person, but your proposals.
15. Maintain subordination: resolve issues with other managers occupying the same hierarchical level as your boss (and even more so, resolve issues at even higher high level) you can only after agreement with him.
16. Restless and anxious subordinates, as a rule, are disliked. Any leader has enough anxiety and worry without you. And here you are with your childhood problems. If you feel that you are worried and cannot calm down, take a breath and listen to three heartbeats, you will feel calmer. Many leaders, no matter how unapproachable and successful they may seem, often also have a scared little boy deep inside them. Therefore, everyone wants to have a subordinate next to them, who would reinforce their confidence and calmness. Inspire yourself that in your presence, all interlocutors become more confident and calmer. By doing this, you will not only help yourself.
17. Another recommendation for managers, who, in turn, have managers. You can be a bright, charismatic personality, a true professional, and your subordinates can admire you. But when you communicate with your boss, forget about it, otherwise conflict will inevitably arise. In nature, alpha males divide territory and try not to enter someone else's territory. In a corporate environment, the territory has already been divided organizational structure. You can be the alpha male in your territory. On your boss's territory, use the recommendations above.
18. And finally, no one today canceled likes and dislikes. These categories are not amenable to conscious training. This happens at the level of instinct. You coincide with some people in your psychophysiological qualities, and with some you do not. You yourself know: there is a person of mine whom I like right away and, of course, a lot is forgiven him. And there is a person who is not my kind, his shortcomings just glaringly obvious. And you can’t help yourself.

So, if you feel persistent antipathy from your boss, use tactics that work effectively with unrequited love. Move away, stay out of your way, get down to business and do it honestly. As a rule, the other side first has a question: why did this failed lover suddenly become so self-sufficient? And then the analysis of past relationships begins and often reciprocal feelings similar to love appear.

In a work situation, you don't need love from management. As the classics said: “Pass us beyond all sorrows...”. But these recommendations will help make the relationship more comfortable.

And finally - a parable. One day a young vizier came to the Sultan and asked permission to say a word. And the word was this: “O great one and so on, look at your faithful servant. I am young, strong, fast, devoted to you. But I'm only the fifth vizier. And look at your first vizier. He is old, weak, slow. And he is the first vizier! Swap us. It will be fair". “Wait,” said the Sultan. “I see something gathering dust on the horizon. You should go and find out what’s there.” The fifth vizier realized that this was a test, threw himself into the saddle and, whooping, rushed off beyond the horizon. After a while, he galloped back and reported: “This is a caravan coming, my lord.” “Where is the caravan going?” - the Sultan was curious. And again the young vizier set off on his journey. “To Bukhara,” he brought the answer. “Where from?” - the Sultan asked. One more flight. "From Cairo." “What’s your luck?”... The vizier spent several hours in the saddle, but the Sultan had more and more new questions. And when both the fifth vizier and his horse were completely ready to fall, the old, blind first vizier rode up to the Sultan on an old mule.

The long greeting procedure began. “Wait,” said the Sultan. “I see something gathering dust on the horizon. You should go and find out what’s there.” The fifth vizier grinned, for he realized that this too was a test. Reluctantly and sluggishly, the first vizier set off on his journey. It was already getting dark when he returned and, having caught his breath, turned to his Sultan. “There’s a caravan coming,” he said. - “From Cairo to Bukhara, he is carrying silk, thirty-six bales. He plans to sell them in Bukhara for twenty-five gold pieces per bale. The caravan owner Saad is ready to sell the entire lot for twenty. ...but that’s not all, my lord, I agreed in Bukhara that they would take the whole batch of twenty-two from us.” The wise sultan looked at the fifth vizier and asked: “Is that clear?” “I see,” replied the young vizier, who had learned one of the most useful lessons of his life.

Margarita Smurova

21.01.2015 | 1166

Communication with the manager is an important part of the work process. Properly established relationships with superiors help in work and promote career growth. How to achieve the necessary mutual understanding?

To line up a good relationship with a manager, you need to take into account a lot of aspects. Let's figure it out.

What types of leaders are there?

The boss usually sets the tone and manner of communication. In many ways, communication depends on what type of leader he is.

Autocrat

The main requirement of an autocrat is strict obedience to his orders. Top priority for him is to achieve the goals he himself has set. When communicating with such a leader, strictly observe subordination and do not show initiative.

Liberal

Business communication of this type of boss involves discussions on work topics. However, the trust he places in his subordinates should not be confused with permissiveness.

A liberal manager listens to the advice of subordinates

Democrat

The democrat considers his subordinates competent and experienced enough to entrust them with solving current problems. He is objective, takes into account everyone’s contribution to the common cause, and encourages initiative. Despite the subordination, he does not isolate himself from his subordinates. It is also appropriate to discuss personal topics with a democrat.

Leaders may be different, but subordinates must always be ethical business communication and protect the authority of your boss. Gossiping about the personal qualities of the boss behind his back is strictly prohibited! This reasonable requirement allows you not to damage the reputation of the organization in which you work.

When is the best time to contact your manager?

If you need to discuss an urgent work issue with your boss, do not delay the conversation. This is especially true in cases where a decision needs to be made as soon as possible.

The situation is completely different if you want to talk about a topic that concerns you personally. For example, ask for a salary increase. You need to be well prepared for such a conversation and, of course, choose the right moment for it.

You should not ask your boss for anything if the financial situation in the company is unfavorable. After all, for positive decision It requires not only desire, but also opportunity. By the way, a good argument in your favor will be your personal participation in improving the situation.

It’s good if you can prepare just such a justification for your increase. Then it would be logical to schedule a conversation with the manager for Friday. Over the weekend, he will be able to think carefully about the arguments you have made.

If you have done something wrong and the boss himself is the initiator of communication with you, there is nothing to do, you need to go when they call you “on the carpet.” Try to be convincing when you have to make excuses.

What to wear for a scheduled conversation with your boss?

If you have planned a conversation with your manager in advance, you should think about how you would like to appear before him. For a business conversation, you need to look as professional and serious as possible.

A business suit is ideal for a meeting with the boss

• Costume. Give preference to a business suit in a neutral color. Don't wear sheer, romantic blouses or intricate, colorful dresses with a breathtaking neckline. Let's leave such outfits for more appropriate occasions.
• Shoes. Choose closed shoes, the colors of which are in harmony with the suit, with low or medium heels.
• Accessories. Gold watches and diamond jewelry do not correspond to the image of a modest and hardworking employee.

There is one more point that you should pay attention to: you must have well-groomed and neat hands, no bright red nails. It is recommended to have a fresh manicure and makeup in pastel colors.

Important nuances in communicating with your manager

There are no trifles in matters of communication between managers and subordinates. And some nuances require close attention.

• Tone. Keep yourself in control in any situation. The boss can afford to lose his temper, but you cannot, unless you are ready to quit right now.
• Arguments. Don’t drive your boss into a corner: he still won’t admit he was wrong, but he will remember his unpleasant emotions from talking to you.
• Gestures. Avoid crossed arms and other “closed” positions. Mutual understanding is facilitated by mirroring (copying) gestures, but this is a topic for another discussion.
• Pose. Sitting on the edge of a chair reveals uncertainty. Sit naturally, but not loosely.

Remember that the outcome of the conversation often depends on how much you control yourself.