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Dimitriev's parental Saturday in 2017 does not fall on November, as is usually the case, but at the very end of October. Why?

In 2017, parental Saturday was postponed to October 28 due to the coincidence with the holiday of the Kazan Icon Mother of God(November 4).

The Day of Remembrance of the Dead on Saturday, on the eve of the Day of Remembrance of the Great Martyr Demetrius of Thessaloniki (November 8, according to the present) was established after the Battle of Kulikovo, which took place on the holiday of Christmas Holy Mother of God in 1380.

Initially, according to the establishment of the holy prince Demetrius of the Donskoy, on this day all Russian soldiers who died on the Kulikovo field were commemorated. Actually, this is another meaning of the name of Saturday "Dimitrievskaya".

Over time, Demetrius Saturday became the day when all Christians "from time immemorial (from the beginning of time) have died".

Dimitrievskaya Saturday is the last parental Saturday in 2017. The next parental Saturday will be February 10, 2018.

Dimitrievskaya parental Saturday - what you need to know about the memorial day

Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday falls on the next Saturday before the day of memory of the great martyr Dmitry Solunsky (the day of the angel Dmitry Donskoy). He was a warrior of the heavenly and earthly king. He defended the earthly king from attacks, defended his country, people, history. And he loved the Heavenly King, knew, worshiped and served Him. He guarded the earthly king, and glorified the heavenly one and led other people to worship God, to faith, so that by success they could unite in the Kingdom of Heaven.

And the Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday was established after the battle on the Kulikovo field - by the Grand Duke Dmitry Donskoy. After the victory over Mamai in 1380, Dmitry Donskoy visits the Trinity-Sergius monastery to commemorate the fallen soldiers. And a little earlier, the abbot of the monastery, Venerable Sergius Radonezh, blessed his two monks - Alexander Peresvet and Andrei Oslyabya - for the war against the Mongol-Tatar yoke. Both monks died in battle. And the monk himself during the war, when he raised his prayers to God, imbued with the Holy Spirit, saw the soldiers fall and called each soldier who was killed by name.

Upon the arrival of Dmitry Donskoy at the monastery, a funeral service was performed, a commemoration of the Orthodox soldiers who died on the battlefield, and a common meal.

Subsequently, such a tradition developed - to make such a commemoration annually, since there were 250 thousand killed in that battle and many families felt the bitterness of loss. A little later, they began to commemorate not only the soldiers, but all the departed Orthodox Christians.

Parent's Saturday - how to spend the day

On Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday, people visit the graves of their relatives and loved ones. In churches and cemeteries funeral services are performed, funeral lithias (services), and funeral dinners are arranged.

On Dimitrovskaya parental Saturday, Orthodox Christians go to churches, light candles to the Crucifixion, and not to icons, and write in memorial notes the names of their deceased loved ones. In the notes, you can only mention the names of deceased relatives who were baptized during their lifetime.

You can pray for the unbaptized over their grave or at home. Another custom characteristic of Dimitriev's parental Saturday is to bring food to the temple for the poor. During the service, this treat is consecrated and later distributed to those who wish. Also on this day, it is customary to give alms to the poor with a request to pray for the departed.

To commemorate your deceased relatives in church, you need to come to church for divine service on Friday evening on the eve of parental Saturday. At this time, the great funeral service, or parastas, is performed. On the morning of memorial Saturday, a funeral liturgy is performed, after which a general requiem is served.

Commemoration of the departed is an apostolic ordinance, it is observed throughout the Church and the liturgy for the departed, the offering of their Bloodless Sacrifice for the salvation is the most powerful and effective remedy to the request of the departed for the mercy of God.

Church commemoration is performed only for those who were baptized in Orthodox faith.

Memorial services for suicides, as well as for those who are not baptized in the Orthodox faith, are not performed. Moreover, these persons cannot be commemorated at the liturgy. The Holy Church offers unceasing prayers for our departed fathers and brothers at every service, and especially at the liturgy.

It is imperative to commemorate the deceased on the day of his death, birth and name day.

Days of remembrance should be spent decorously, reverently, in prayer, beneficence to the poor and loved ones, in meditation and on our death and future life.

At the cemetery, you cannot have a feast and get drunk. There is an opinion that the commemoration of the deceased is an opportunity to have a glass of other alcohol, but this is not so. The fate of the departed cannot be alleviated by this action. Only deliberate prayer can convey our love to our loved ones. It is also not allowed on parental Saturday:

swear;
get drunk;
swearing;
speak badly about the deceased;
grieve and cry.

It is important to know that remembering does not mean being sad. To remember is to pray. The soul cannot die, it passes into another world - into which one depends on the person during his lifetime. If he sinned, then the soul will torment and languish. Only prayer, read by loved ones with special trepidation, will help her to save her from this. Therefore, every parental Saturday it is necessary to remember your loved ones with prayer from a pure heart. The one who reads it conveys love and gratitude that he could not give to a loved one during his lifetime.

The Sabbaths of remembrance of those who introduce themselves are special. They are called parental, due to the fact that all the deceased went to their parents and ancestors. How to spend this day and what not to do, read with us.

What not to do on Dimitrievskaya parental Saturday

On this day, it is forbidden to scold the deceased. You should remember only good things about them, otherwise you may anger their souls.

It is believed that it is strictly forbidden to commemorate the deceased. alcoholic beverages... However, if such a tradition exists in your family, then try to do it in moderation. The souls of the departed may become angry because of drunkenness during a memorial meal.

Also, during the commemoration, you cannot laugh or sing songs. Despite the fact that the holiday is not of a mourning nature, do not forget that on this day you remember loved ones who are no longer among the living. Therefore, the fun will be inappropriate.

If your deceased relative committed suicide or was not a believer during his lifetime, then you will not be able to remember him in church and light a candle for the repose of his soul. If so, you can pray for him at home.

What not to do on parental Saturday

Many superstitions are associated with prohibitions on the memorial day. It is not forbidden to do housework and gardening on these days, but only after going to church and reading the memorial prayer.

Most believers, when visiting a cemetery, pour alcohol into a glass by the grave or pour vodka over it, believing that if the deceased loved to drink, then they help him so much. It is unacceptable to do this, since the soul of the deceased may suffer for the sin of drinking wine even after death.

At the cemetery, you cannot have a feast and get drunk.

The first parental memorial Saturday of 2017 is set to February 18th. On this day, the church charter provides for the performance of divine services ecumenical meat-empty Saturday... The name of this memorial day indicates the time of commemoration - the last Saturday before Holy Great Lent, on which the use of food of animal origin is allowed. After a week of meat-eating, cheese week begins, and then the faithful enter the holy Forty-day.

During Lent in 2017, the departed are commemorated three times. The charter sets aside for this Saturday the middle of the Fortune (in particular the 2nd, 3rd and 4th). The strictest Orthodox post implies a prayer not only for the personal salvation of the soul, but also the remembrance of dead people. Parents' Saturdays falling on Forty days, 2017 fall on March 11th, 18th and 25th, respectively.

One of the most famous memorial days in is considered Trinity parental Saturday. On this day in Orthodox churches commemoration of all Orthodox Christians who have died from the century is performed, and the cemeteries are full of people as never before. In 2017, Trinity parental Saturday falls on June 3rd (the very next Sunday, the Church celebrates the feast of the Holy Life-Giving Trinity).

In the fall of 2017, the service is performed Dimitriev parental Saturday... This memorial day falls on the last Saturday before the celebration of the great Christian Great Martyr Demetrius, named Thessaloniki. In 2017, Dimitrievskaya Saturday is determined by the calendar for November 4th.

Special mention should be made of other significant parenting days in 2017, which do not fall on Saturdays. First of all, it is the commemoration of the departed in the post-Easter period. April 25th, the ninth day after Easter in 2017, is celebrated Radonitsa- the time when after Easter joy Orthodox people prayerfully commemorate the dead (always falls on Tuesday).

Another commemorative date is May 9th... The date itself indicates the prayerful remembrance of the soldiers and the special honor given to the heroes - participants of the Great Patriotic War... The Gospel clearly says that the highest deed of love is the sacrificial slaughter of one's life for the sake of one's neighbor.

The Russian state has identified another significant day for the commemoration of soldiers, which has become part of church liturgical practice. 15th February I remember the warriors... This day in 1989 was marked by the conclusion Russian troops from Afghanistan. The Orthodox Church in Russia celebrates special memorial services on February 15th in memory of the deceased. Despite the fact that this day of the calendar is marked by the great twelveth feast of the Presentation of the Lord, in many Orthodox parishes, at the end of the liturgy, a panikhida is performed, where special petitions for the dead soldiers-internationalists are inserted at the funeral ectinia.

Nika Kravchuk

Parental Saturdays 2017: remember to commemorate the dead

Did you know that our dead relatives and friends need prayers even more than living ones? You can pray for them both in home prayer, and in the church. The church even established special days commemoration. In this article, we will tell you what days parental Saturdays fall on in 2017 and how to remember the dead correctly. Hurry up to find out, because the first parental Saturday is already February 18th.

Why pray for the dead?

Christianity is called the religion of life. And this is no coincidence. Orthodox Christians, Catholics, and many Protestants believe that after physical death they continue to exist, because man is eternal.

Therefore, the Church prays for both health and repose. It is believed that after a bodily death, the fate of a person is determined - where he will await the second coming of Christ and the Last Judgment. Some will go to heaven, others to hell.

But this is not yet the final decision. Every sinner has a chance that before The last judgment his posthumous fate will change. All this is thanks to the prayers of the living: relatives, loved ones, friends.

That is why believers do not forget their relatives, even if they are in another world. They pray for the departed both at home and in the temple.

Parental Saturdays - days of special church commemoration

V morning rule there is a prayer to the Lord with a request to put our parents, relatives, benefactors and all Orthodox Christians to rest.
In churches, separate services are performed - memorial services, during which they pray only for repose. There is even certain days- parental Saturdays, on which the Church calls on all believers to pray for those who are temporarily not with us.

True, in an Orthodox church, you can submit notes only for those baptized in Orthodoxy who died a natural death. The Church does not commemorate unbaptized, infidels, suicides, since even in their earthly life they were not members of the Church of Christ and did not strive to be with God.

Memorial services are performed every Saturday in Orthodox churches (and more often in monasteries), but only eight days a year have a special status - these are memorial Saturdays.

On what days of 2017 does the Russian Orthodox Church commemorate the dead?

Parental Saturdays 2017 fall on the following days:

Ecumenical Parent Saturday (meat-eating) - February 18, 2017.
Saturday of the second week of Great Lent - March 11.
Saturday of the third week - March 18.
Saturday of the fourth week - March 25.
Commemoration of the departed soldiers - May 9.
Radonitsa - April 25.
Trinity universal parental Saturday - June 3.
Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday - November 4.

Why are memorial Saturdays called parental Saturdays?

In the calendar above, the two parental Saturdays of 2017 are referred to as "ecumenical". This means that these days Orthodox churches all over the world the dead are commemorated.

Why are memorial Saturdays called parental Saturdays? Do they only pray for their parents these days? No, the Church commemorates all the departed Orthodox Christians, but first of all - our relatives. It is the duty of every Christian to pray for the parents who gave us life. And if our fathers and mothers have departed for eternity, then we are all the more obliged to remember them, thereby expressing our love and care.

In addition, parents should be understood not only as fathers and mothers, but also other relatives - grandfathers, grandmothers, great-grandfathers, and so on.

In this sense, parental Saturdays are an opportunity, first of all, to pray for your kind, for people with whom we are bloodily related. And only then - for friends, benefactors and all Orthodox in general.

How to prepare for the commemoration?

The first parental Saturday 2017 falls on February 18, nine days before the start of Lent. It is also called meat-eating - on this day and next Sunday, you can still eat meat. Maslenitsa is already starting from Monday 20 February 2017.

Commemoration of the departed begins on Friday. In Orthodox churches, they serve not just the All-night Vigil, but the Memorial Vigil - parastas ... On Saturday morning, the Divine Liturgy is celebrated, followed by a panikhida.

The memorial service is usually served with notes with the names of the deceased, as well as food and colivo.

Why is it so? It is believed that the best help for the deceased is prayer and alms. Our personal petitions and memorial notes are prayer, and the food brought, which, after consecration, is distributed to those in need and those serving in the temple is alms.

There is no specific list of what to bring to the memorial service, and no specific “norm”. Who can do as much as possible - this is the main rule. Bread, sugar, flour, canned food, sweets, vegetables, fruits - the list goes on. The only prohibition is meat that cannot be brought into the temple.

Also in churches on memorial Saturdays they cook colivo - a ritual dish in the form of wheat or rice with honey. Interestingly, the grain symbolizes the earthly and eternal life person. In order for a grain to germinate and give a crop, it must first be planted in the ground. For a person to be born for eternal life, he must first die and be committed to the earth. Honey symbolizes the sweetness of the Kingdom of Heaven.

These external attributes - both the products for the memorial service and the amount of food - are important, but they should not distract a person from the main thing - prayer. The latter should not be left solely to the priests. Our prayer from the sincere loving heart equally important.

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The history of the appearance of the memorial day

Many people know the more common name for the memorial day - Radonitsa.In ancient times, this event was called that way, and began the celebration of Radonitsa in honor of the god - Radunitsa. God Radunitsa was an ardent protector of the souls of all dead people. God not only helped souls find the right path in the kingdom of the dead, but he also contributed to the fact that dead souls in Heaven would find eternal rest. For all this, the pagans sacredly worshiped the god Radunitsa.

Parenting Day 2019 Story goes away in ancient times. Since then, faithful traditions of celebrating this important event... If earlier believers worshiped the god Radunitsa and, in order to appease him, sacrificed various foods. Now this tradition has been completely preserved, the only difference is that believers give alms to all people in need. In addition, on the parent's day, it is customary to bake cakes and various pies and treat them to all disadvantaged and poor people. The baked dishes must be taken with you to the cemeteries, and after that, various goodies must be left on the graves of deceased relatives or friends. Thus, the celebration of the memorial day was carried out, in which the souls of all the dead also took part.

It is important to note that the memorial day is by no means sad or mournful.This is a holiday of joy and finding of the dead souls of eternity. If the living on the graves of the dead show a feeling of joy, then in this way, peace comes to the dead souls, and then they gain eternal freedom. It is important to adhere to this basis and never cry for the souls of the dead on a holiday. If tears are shed on the graves, then the dead souls are worried and cannot find the freedom that is found only in Heaven.

Parents' Day Traditions

In times past, the main obligation of the memorial day was prayer for the tranquility of the soul of a deceased person. Theseparenting days rules have not dried up to this period. Many people in Radonitsa try to bring a huge variety to the graves. delicious dishes, as well as alcoholic beverages, but this is strictly prohibited. No soul can find peace through gluttony or otherwise. addictions... Therefore, the main rite that must be performed on the parent's day is reading a prayer.

Everythingtraditions of celebrating parenting day in 2019 come from old pagan times. From the very early morning or in the evening on the eve of the memorial holiday, the hostesses bake cakes, pies, paint chicken eggs... In the morning on the very day of remembrance, you must go to church and participate in the memorial liturgy. If there is no opportunity to visit the sacred temple, then it is important to put up a sacred candle at home as a sign of respect and remembrance of the dead and read prayer words dedicated to the souls of the dead. After the sacred liturgy is completed, people go to the cemeteries, taking along with them goodies, painted eggs, and baked dishes. It is not recommended to go to the cemetery alone, it is important for all relatives to gather and remember the deceased person. During memories, people eat the brought food, so they share a "feast" with the souls of deceased relatives. But what remains after the memorial dinner is sure to be distributed to those who ask and those in need.

On the day of commemoration, it is not at all necessary to fulfill all the above traditions. But it is important to remember deceased relatives with a memorial prayer and kind words.

Honoring the memory of the departed is a constant process that takes place in the soul of every person. But there are special days in the year when all people who have lost loved ones merge in a single prayer for the dead. Such events are called "Orthodox parental Saturday" and depend on religious holidays, as well as related fasts. Remembrance of the departed gives them eternal life in the hearts of living people, who, in turn, through memorial prayer hope for the resurrection of the soul.

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Parent's Saturday 2017, in the calendar, does not always fall on the corresponding day of the week. Quite often, memorial days can be on any other day. The importance of such events is not only related to the veneration of loved ones. These days, the memory of those who gave their lives in complete loneliness is honored and there is no one to pray for the soul of such a person in the world of the living. Such universal commemoration gives an energy debt to all the deceased, regardless of family ties... Although the name at first glance looks like reverence for the closest and dearest people - parents, this is not entirely true. The wording of such a model is endowed with the meaning of remembering everyone who is related to the race, and not to a specific family, but to the human race.

Orthodox calendar 2017 (parental Saturdays)

Based on the greatest religious holidays, general memorial days do not have a fixed date, but nevertheless fall on almost every month of the first half of the year. The shift of the main commemoration may have a two-week period. Parental Saturdays in 2017 (Orthodox calendar) are distributed as follows:

Of course, every person has the right to honor the memory of his loved ones in any way convenient for him. But, as practice shows, we increasingly make mistakes that carry more harm than good, even in such a matter as remembering a dead soul.

If you adapt your behavior to a day such as parental Saturday ( orthodox calendar) requires the fulfillment of all the canons corresponding to a certain religious holiday. Although the rules have several points in common, the implementation of which will enrich such a day and make it more productive:

It is worth visiting the temple, praying under church dome, light the funeral candle and leave the memorial food for everyone in need.
With the close location of the cemetery, you can visit the graves of the dead, bring them a "present" in the form of bread, cookies or sweets. With favorable weather conditions it is not prohibited to clean up the burial site: pull out weeds, remove dry grass, etc.
You should not arrange a drunken spree from the memorial dinner. After all, drinking alcohol by Orthodox standards is a sin, and honoring memory and sinning at the same time is at least not logical.
Also, at the cemetery, one should not talk in a raised voice and use foul language.

It would be good to remember that parental Saturday in 2017, as always, is not necessarily a day of mourning and crying, but a time to rethink your actions and life in general.