Once in the life of every person there comes a time when someone from friends, relatives or relatives goes to the deceased forefathers. The remains of a deceased person are most often interred in the ground, where they will be in the future. However, love for does not dry out, so in certain days commemoration of the deceased is performed. In order to prevent unwanted mistakes, it is very important to know how to commemorate the dead, on what days it is done and, of course, how the commemoration takes place.
There are three main periods for commemoration after the death of a person.... The first time the prayers take place on the third day, the second time they are commemorated on the ninth day, and for the third time they pray for the deceased at the onset of the fortieth day. The countdown is from the day of the death of a person, and not from the day of burial. Memorial service on established days is a sacred custom that has survived since ancient times.
Basic mistakes and rules
Wake, like any other custom, has its own rules established over the years. They must be observed, so as not to inadvertently disturb or offend the soul of the deceased. But before you find out what rules for remembering the dead exist, it is worth learning about the erroneous actions that many perform at funerals. Common mistakes can be associated with subjects such as:
So, how to remember deceased relatives correctly.
As mentioned earlier, there are three special periods when the commemoration is held, not counting the day of the funeral:
After forty days, the deceased is considered to be memorable, that is, the one who needs to be remembered, where "always" means "always". You should not forget about your deceased relative or loved one after death..
What is a memorial service
During life, love can be shown to your loved ones by hugging and kissing them... But if a person goes to another world, then you can only express your feelings for him with the help of a requiem. They are held in the church, as a rule, immediately after graduation. morning service... How much the requiem will cost, you can find out directly when visiting the temple.
For the funeral service, you need to buy bread or something from pastries, but in no case should it be sweet, and you can also buy fruits. These products are considered basic, but other types can be added, depending on financial capabilities. As a rule, on this day it is customary to carry flour, various cereals and butter. vegetable origin. In no case should you take alcohol and sweets with you.
A note with the names of all deceased relatives, written in advance, is added to the products. Form for correct filling can be taken directly to the church. Everything prepared for the requiem is placed on a special table. During the memorial service, the presence of one who calls out to the saints with prayer is desirable. The total duration of the sacred action is about fifteen minutes. Believers say that at this time the soul becomes close to its relative and prays for him in the same way as he does.
There are memorial services that are especially significant for deceased souls, their effect is 10 times stronger than an ordinary service. They take place on a special day of remembrance of the dead, which falls on the parental and memorial saturday... You can find out when they come and how many of them are there per year in the church itself or in a special church calendar, where it is customary to mark them with a black cross. As a rule, most of them fall on the period of Great Lent.
The soul of a deceased person is waiting for a relative in the temple and rejoices if he comes. Otherwise, she is very homesick and devastated. On the eve, on Friday evening, the parastas is doing in the name of the deceased.
In addition to Saturdays, the commemoration of the dead in Orthodoxy takes place on Radonitsa, which follows on the ninth day after the celebration of Easter. It was at this time that souls wait for their relatives near the graves or in the church, sometimes they come to the apartment where they lived until death. On this day, it is necessary to vigorously remember them, as well as order a memorial service and give alms to those in need. If the birthday of the deceased falls on Radonitsa, then there is nothing wrong with arranging a commemoration. There are no prohibitions for the memory of loved ones who left the mortal earth.
The church charter states
Do not forget about your loved ones who have gone to God... According to the charter of the Orthodox Church, the commemoration of the dead takes place six months after the day of death, and even a year later. The anniversary of death is considered the second birth of the soul and new life in the Heavenly Kingdom. Special attention you need to devote to the commemoration before Trinity Saturday; when the next commemoration of the deceased is performed, a candle is placed in the church for the repose of the soul in a place reserved for the deceased in one of the hollow candlesticks, and a memorial service is also ordered. But in no case, even after many years from the day of death, should you bring alcohol or sweets. There is no need to anger God and torment the soul of the deceased.
According to the church charter, for the grace of the soul of the deceased, immediately after his death in the church, it is necessary to order the forty-mouth, which will be read for forty days. In the monastery, you can order a prayer service for the repose, which the ministers will do for several months. One more important point, which must be observed - if a person was unbaptized during his lifetime, then he cannot be remembered in church services. One can only pray for the blessing of his soul at home in front of the face of the saint, whose name was given to the reposed servant of God.
If for some reason it is not possible to celebrate the commemoration on the day of death loved one, then you can do this at any other time, even if it is much later than the date of death, except for those days when it is forbidden to remember the dead. You should not arrange a commemoration for church rules during:
- Easter.
- Holy week.
On these days, it is by no means possible to celebrate a commemoration; thus, you can disturb the reposed soul, as a result of which it will suffer and languish.
Repeatedly you can hear that it is impossible to commemorate the dead on Monday. In fact, the church charter is not prohibited. This opinion is connected exclusively with the opinion of people that Monday is a difficult day, and nothing can be started on this day, which means that a commemoration can be held on this day of the week as well.
What days are the dead commemorated? Can a suicide funeral be performed? How to pray for departed parents? Especially for Radonitsa, Archpriest Igor FOMIN answered the most common questions about how to remember the dead correctly.
What days are the dead commemorated? Can a suicide funeral be performed? How to pray for departed parents? Especially for Radonitsa, Archpriest Igor FOMIN answered the most common questions about how to remember the dead correctly.
What prayer to remember the dead? How often to commemorate the departed?
Christians commemorate the dead every day. In every prayer book you can find a prayer for the departed, it is an integral part of the home prayer rule... Also, the departed can be remembered by reading the Psalter. Every day Christians read one Kathisma from the Psalter. And in one of the chapters, we commemorate our relatives (relatives), friends, who have departed to the Lord.
Why commemorate the dead?
The point is that life continues after death. Moreover, the final fate of a person is decided not after death, but after the second coming of our Lord Jesus Christ, which we are all waiting for. Therefore, before the second coming, we can still change this fate. When we are alive, we can do it ourselves, doing good deeds and believing in Christ. Having died, we can no longer influence our own afterlife, but this can be done by people who remember us, have a heartache. The best way to change the posthumous fate of the deceased is a prayer for him.
When are the dead commemorated? What days are the dead commemorated? What time of day can you commemorate?
The time of day when you can remember the deceased is not regulated by the Church. There are folk traditions that go back to paganism and clearly prescribe how and at what hour to remember the dead - but they have nothing to do with Christian prayer... God lives in space without time, and we can reach heaven at any moment of the day or night.
Church established special days commemoration of those who are dear to us and have departed into another world - the so-called Parental Saturdays... There are several of them a year, and all but one (May 9 - Commemoration of the departed soldiers) have a rolling date:
Meat-Passing Saturday (Universal Parental Saturday) March 5, 2016.
Trinity Saturday (Saturday before Trinity). June 18, 2016.
Saturday Dimitrievskaya (Saturday before the day of memory of Dmitry Solunsky, which is celebrated on November 8). November 5, 2016.
In addition to Parental Saturdays, the deceased are commemorated in church at every service - at the proskomedia, part of the Divine Liturgy that precedes it. Before the Liturgy, you can submit memorial notes. The note contains the name with which the person was baptized, in the genitive case.
How is it remembered for 9 days? How is it remembered for 40 days? How to remember for half a year? How to remember for a year?
The ninth and fortieth days from the day of death are special milestones on the path from earthly life to eternal life. This transition does not occur immediately, but gradually. During this period (until the fortieth day), the deceased person gives an answer to the Lord. This moment is extremely important for the deceased, it is akin to childbirth, the birth of a little man. Therefore, during this period, the deceased needs our help. By prayer good deeds, changing yourself into better side in honor and memory of those close to us.
Six months - this church commemoration does not exist. But there will be nothing bad if you remember for six months, for example, when you come to the temple to pray.
Anniversary is a day of remembrance when we - those who have loved a person - get together. The Lord bequeathed to us: Where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am in the midst of them (Matthew 18-20). And joint remembrance, when we read a prayer for relatives and friends who are no longer with us, is a bright, sonorous testimony before the Lord that the dead are not forgotten, that they are loved.
Should I remember it on my birthday?
Yes, I think that a person's birthday should be remembered. The moment of birth is one of the significant, great stages in everyone's life, so it will be good if you go to the temple, pray at home, go to the cemetery to remember the person.
Can a suicide funeral be performed? How to remember suicides?
The question of the funeral service and church commemoration of suicides is very controversial. The fact is that the sin of suicide is one of the grave ones. This is a sign of a person's distrust of God.
Each such case must be considered separately, because suicides are different - conscious or unconscious, that is, in a state of serious mental disorder... The question of whether it is possible to perform a funeral service and commemorate in a church a baptized person who committed suicide lies entirely with the responsibility of the ruling bishop. If a tragedy happened to one of your loved ones, you need to come to the ruling bishop of the region where the deceased lived and ask permission for the funeral service. The bishop will consider this question and give you an answer.
Concerning home prayer then you can certainly remember the person who committed suicide. But the most important thing is to do good deeds in his honor and memory.
How can you remember? Can you remember it with vodka? Why are they commemorated with pancakes?
Feasts, memorial meals, have come to us from time immemorial. But in ancient times they looked different. It was a treat, a feast not for the relatives of the deceased, but for the beggars, cripples, orphans, that is, those who need help and will never be able to arrange such a meal for themselves.
Unfortunately, over time, funeral feast turned from a deed of charity into an ordinary home feast, and often with an abundant use of alcohol ...
Of course, such libations have nothing to do with real Christian commemoration and cannot in any way affect the posthumous fate of the deceased.
How to remember an unbaptized one?
A person who did not want to unite himself with the Church of Christ, naturally, cannot be remembered in the church. His posthumous fate remains at the discretion of the Lord, and here we cannot influence the situation in any way.
Unbaptized relatives can be remembered by praying for them at home and doing good deeds in their honor and memory. Try to change your life for the better, be faithful to Christ, remembering all the good things that the one who died unbaptized did in his life.
How are Muslims remembered? How are Jews remembered? How are Catholics remembered?
In this matter, it makes no difference whether the deceased was a Muslim, a Catholic or a Jew. They are not in the bosom Orthodox Church, therefore, are remembered as unbaptized. Their names cannot be written in notes on the proskomedia (proskomidia is a part of the Divine Liturgy that precedes it), but in their memory you can do good deeds and pray at home.
How to commemorate the dead in the church?
In the temple, all those dead are commemorated who combined themselves with Christ's Church in the Sacrament of Baptism. Even if a person for some reason did not go to church during his life, but was baptized, he can and should be remembered. Before the Divine Liturgy, you can submit a note “for a proskomedia”.
Proskomidia is a part of the Divine Liturgy that precedes it. At the proskomedia, bread and wine are prepared for the future Sacrament of Communion - the laying of bread and wine into the Body and Blood of Christ. It not only prepares the future Body of Christ (the Lamb is a large prosphora) and the future Blood of Christ for the Sacrament (wine), but also reads a prayer for Christians - living or dead. For the Mother of God, the saints and us, ordinary believers, particles are removed from the prosphora. Pay attention, when you are given a small prosphora after Communion - it is as if "someone has picked a piece out of it." It is the priest who removes particles from the prosphora for each name written in the note "for the proskomedia."
At the end of the Liturgy, pieces of bread, symbolizing the souls of living or dead Christians, are immersed in a bowl with the Blood of Christ. The priest at this moment reads the prayer “Washed, Lord, the sins of those who were remembered here by Thy Blood With honest prayers Thy saints. "
Also, special memorial services are held in churches - memorial services. You can submit a separate note for the memorial service. But it is important not only to submit a note, but also to try to be personally present at the service where it will be read. You can find out about the time of this service from the ministers of the temple, to whom the note is served.
How to remember the dead at home?
In every prayer book, you can find prayer for the dead, it is an integral part of the home prayer rule. Also, the departed can be remembered by reading the Psalter. Every day Christians read one Kathisma from the Psalter. And in one of the chapters, we commemorate our relatives (relatives), friends, who have departed to the Lord.
How to remember in fasting?
During fasting, there are special days of remembrance of the departed - Parental Saturdays and Sundays, when full (as opposed to shortened on other days of fasting) Divine Liturgy are served. During these services, a proskomedian commemoration of the dead is performed, when for each person a piece is taken out of a large prosphora, symbolizing his soul.
How to commemorate the newly departed?
From the first day of a person's repose, the Psalter is read over his body. If the deceased is a priest, then the Gospel is read. The Psalter must continue to be read after the funeral - until the fortieth day.
Also, the newly departed is commemorated at the funeral service. The funeral service is supposed to be performed on the third day after death, and it is important that it is not carried out in absentia, but over the body of the deceased. The fact is that all those who loved a person come to the funeral service, and their prayer is special, conciliar.
You can also remember the newly departed as a victim. For example, to distribute to those in need his good, solid things - clothes, household items. This can be done from the first day after the death of a person.
When to remember your parents?
There are no special days in the Church when it is necessary to remember exactly the parents, those who gave us life. Parents can always be remembered. And on Parental Saturdays in church, and every day at home, and giving notes "for proskomedia." You can turn to the Lord any day and hour, He will surely hear you.
How to remember animals?
It is not customary to remember animals in Christianity. The teaching of the Church says that eternal life is prepared only for man, since the soul for which we pray is only in man. published by
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The anniversary of death is celebrated in a narrow circle. How to remember who to invite, which menu to make - organizational issues worried about the family of the deceased. By deeds of mercy, prayers, visits to the cemetery, the memory of the deceased should be honored.
History of commemoration days
A commemoration (or commemoration, remembrance) is a ritual in memory of a deceased person. Usually, the commemoration is held by relatives, if there are none - close people, friends.
The tradition of commemoration arose in connection with Christian teaching. Each religion has its own rites of remembrance of people. An adapted folk consciousness often combines several beliefs into one ritual.
Christian traditions are fundamental in Russia. However, according to Orthodox rules(with funeral commemorations, prayers) only people who have undergone the rite of baptism are remembered. The exceptions are suicides, unbaptized, non-Orthodox, heretics - the church does not pray for them.
Remembrance dates
In Orthodoxy, commemoration after death is held 3 times. On the third day after death, on the ninth, fortieth. The essence of the ritual is a memorial meal. Relatives, acquaintances gather for common table... They remember the deceased, his good deeds, stories from life. Dishes from the memorial table are distributed to friends, acquaintances, colleagues of the deceased, so that they remember him.
On the day of the funeral, everyone who wishes to honor the memory of the deceased gathers. The Christian is first taken to the funeral ceremony in the church or chapel of the cemetery. The unbaptized deceased, after parting with the house, are immediately taken to the cemetery. The burial takes place according to the traditions of the region in which the person lived. Then everyone returns to the house for the commemoration.
To honor the memory of the deceased, only the Wake is reminiscent of a family dinner, with the difference that the photo of the deceased is not far from the refectory table. A glass of water or vodka, a piece of bread is placed next to the photograph of the deceased. This is a pagan tradition, unacceptable to Christians.
Everyone is invited to the 40th day. On this day, usually those who could not attend the funeral come to the commemoration.
Then comes the anniversary of death. How to remember, whom to invite - the relatives of the deceased decide. Usually they call on the anniversary of the death of the closest friends and relatives.
Christian traditions of commemoration
According to the Christian faith, the commemoration on the 3rd day after death is performed in honor of the resurrection of Christ (on the 3rd day after the execution). On the 9th day - in honor of those who ask the Lord for mercy on the deceased. On the 40th day - in honor of the ascension of the Lord.
Church tradition says that the soul from the day of death is in wanderings. Until day 40, she prepares for God's decision. The first 3 days after death, the soul visits the places of earthly life, close people. Then she flies around the heavenly abodes from 3 to 9 days. Then he sees the torment of sinners in hell from 9 to 40 days.
God's decision takes place on the 40th day. A directive is issued about where the soul will be before the Last Judgment.
The beginning of a new one, eternal life is the anniversary of death. How to remember the deceased, whom to invite, what to order - these are important organizational issues. It is necessary to prepare for the day of remembrance in advance.
Death anniversary: how to commemorate
The mourning date is reported only to those whom the family of the deceased wishes to see at the time. These should be the closest and dearest people, friends of the deceased. It is necessary to clarify who can come. Knowing the number of guests will help you make the right menu. In case of an unforeseen arrival of someone from your acquaintances - make the portioned dishes 1-2 more.
On the anniversary of death, you should come to the cemetery, visit the grave of the deceased. After that, all relatives and friends are invited to attend. It should be noted that commemoration days are held at the discretion of the family of the deceased. Subsequent discussions of strangers about the correctness of the ritual are inappropriate.
The anniversary of death is approaching. How to remember how to set the table? It is important to note that it is convenient to hold such events in small cafes. This will save the owners from the exhausting preparation of various dishes and subsequent tidying up in the apartment.
Christians order special memorial services in the church. You should discuss with the priest in advance all the activities that need to be carried out. You can limit yourself to reading akathists at home, invite a priest to your house.
Whom to invite?
In a close family circle, a commemoration takes place, the anniversary of death. How to remember who to call is discussed by relatives in advance. For years, it is customary to invite only those whom you want to see.
Unwanted visitors can suddenly appear on the anniversary of death. The family of the deceased must decide whether to leave an unwanted guest for a memorial dinner or not invite them to the table at all. The anniversary of death is an event only for the closest people.
You should not arrange a crowded gathering. A funeral date, the memory of the deceased is not a reason for a noisy party. A modest family dinner, fond memories of the deceased - this is how the anniversary of death goes. How to commemorate - decide the closest relatives of the deceased. A leisurely, calm atmosphere, quiet music, photographs of the deceased are a worthy way to honor the memory.
How to dress properly?
Clothing for the anniversary of death is of no small importance. If a trip to the cemetery is planned before the funeral dinner, it should be taken into account weather... To visit the church, women need to prepare a headdress (headscarf).
At all funeral events, dress strictly. Shorts, deep neckline, bows and ruffles will look indecent. It is better to exclude bright, variegated colors. Business, office suits, closed shoes, formal dresses in muted tones are an appropriate choice for a mourning date.
How to remember the anniversary of death correctly? With good memories in a close circle. You can give alms - pies, sweets, belongings of the deceased.
Cemetery visit
For years, you should definitely visit the cemetery. If the weather conditions do not allow (heavy rain, blizzard) it can be done on another day. You should come to the cemetery in the first half of the day.
The grave of the deceased must be monitored. Timely paint the fence, you can put a small table and bench. Plant flowers, weed out unnecessary weeds that give the grave an unkempt look. This is the anniversary of death ... How to remember a person? Clean up on his grave, light candles in special cups, lay fresh flowers.
By Christian traditions back in the 19th century, the synod banned wreaths with inscriptions made of fake flowers. Such laying on distracts from prayers for the soul of the deceased.
You can bring tea, alcohol, pies, sweets with you to the grave. Modestly commemorating the deceased, pouring the remains of alcohol on the grave, pouring crumbs - this is a symbol of the presence of the deceased next to the living. Many families adhere to this pagan tradition at the commemoration.
In Christianity, it is forbidden to bring anything to the grave. The dead should be remembered only with fresh flowers and prayers.
How to set the table
The table setting for the commemoration is standard. The only difference is to put an even number of dishes on the table. Forks for funeral dates are usually excluded. Such a moment in time is left to the discretion of the family of the deceased.
Dishes other than those required for memorial table are prepared according to the preferences of the deceased. You can add mourning ribbons to the interior, light candles.
For the Orthodox - to consecrate kutya in the church. Eliminate alcohol, stick to indigestions and fast days- make a start from them when drawing up the menu. Pay more attention not to eating, but to prayers for the deceased.
Death Anniversary Menu
The anniversary of death is celebrated as usual. How to remember what to cook? Jelly, kutia, pancakes are considered obligatory on the memorial table. The symbol of Christianity is fish dishes - it can be pies, cold snacks, smoked meats.
From salads, you can make vinaigrette, beets with garlic, vegetable caviar. Submit sauerkraut, pickled cucumbers and mushrooms. baked cheese. Meat and cheese cuts.
For hot dishes, fried or baked chicken (rabbit, goose, duck, turkey) is suitable. Cutlets or steaks, French meat or chop, stuffed vegetables or For a side dish - boiled potatoes, vegetable stew, fried eggplant.
Dessert - gingerbread, sweet pies, pancakes, cheesecakes, sweets, fruits and apples. Drinks - purchased juices or homemade compote, jelly, lemonade.
Exclude sparkling and sweet wines from the menu, as it is not noted fun party, the anniversary of death. How to remember? Give preference strong drinks(vodka, cognac, whiskey), dry red wines. During a table conversation, it is customary to remember the deceased, his good deeds on earth.
Memorial service in a cafe
To exclude the bulk purchase of food, cooking, table setting and subsequent tidying, you can order a small room in a cafe. So that the anniversary of death passes in a calm atmosphere. How to remember what to order - the staff of the cafe will help. Their menu is not much different from the home menu.
The staff of the cafe should be warned in advance that guests will gather for the commemoration. The administrator will try to keep too cheerful visitors as far away from the relatives of the deceased as possible (if it comes about the common room).
Usually, it is customary to order a small banqueting hall... Then the festively-minded neighbors will not interfere with the quiet mood of the anniversary of the death.
If you are not attracted by the cafe, but you want a cozy, homely atmosphere, you can order lunch at home. Agree on the menu in advance, set the time and delivery address.
Death Anniversary: How to Remember in Church
According to Christian beliefs, the duty of the living is to pray for the deceased. Then the most serious sins can be forgiven. Church funeral services are called to ask for the forgiveness of the sins of the departed. Not only on memorial days, but also on common days you can order the Panikhida.
During the Divine Liturgy, prayers for the departed are heard. Immediately before the Liturgy (or in advance, in the evening) a note is given in which the names of the deceased Christians are written. During the Liturgy, all names are voiced.
You can order a magpie about the deceased. This is a commemoration for 40 days before the Liturgy. Sorokoust is also ordered for a longer period - a commemoration for six months or a year.
An ordinary candle about the repose of the soul is also a memory of the deceased. In home prayers, you can remember the deceased. There is a special Christian book - a commemoration, where the names of the deceased should be entered.
During a visit to the cemetery, Christians read the akathist, perform a litiya (it is also performed before the memorial dinner, for which a priest is invited).
Alms distribution
V memorial days attention should be paid to works of mercy. Memorial dishes can be presented to those in need, acquaintances, colleagues. This is done so that as much as possible more people remembered the deceased with a kind word.
A good occasion for charity is the anniversary of death. How to remember the deceased? You can distribute money, sweets, cookies to the poor near the church and ask them to pray for the deceased, donate money for the construction of the temple. People in need are usually given the belongings of the deceased.
Charity is a good deed towards the poor. Therefore, the family of the deceased does not have to distribute food, money to the poor at the church. You can find people in your environment (retirees, large families), which will be important real help... Or take a small donation to a nursing home, boarding school, or baby home.
The procedure for celebrating the anniversary of death
- Notify in advance about the approaching mourning date, invite the family and friends of the deceased.
- Choose a cafe or organize an event at home.
- Visit the cemetery, the grave of the deceased.
- To honor the memory of the deceased with a memorial dinner.
- Give alms to those in need.
The day of death is considered the first day, that is, the day on which a person died, and will be considered the day of his memory in a year, and in 10, and in 20 years. On this day, you must visit the church in order to pray for the deceased, and after the end of the service, ask the priest to serve a panikhida.
First of all, you need to pray for the deceased, and only then celebrate a memorial meal, which is not so important, although it is not superfluous.
One should always pray for the departed, but especially on the days of their memory. By church tradition days of remembrance of the dead - it is customary to celebrate the birthday and the day of death annually. On the day of remembrance, it is imperative to pray at the Divine Liturgy for the repose of the deceased, serve a panikhida for him, and then you can celebrate a memorial meal.
When to celebrate the anniversary of death?
It is better to celebrate the anniversary of death in due time, however, in the life of every person there may be many reasons why you have to postpone the date of the memorial day. In such cases, it is possible to postpone the memorial day, but it is imperative to honor the day of death by visiting the temple, serve a requiem and celebrate the smallest memorial meal in the home circle of the closest people.
On big days church holidays it is not customary to commemorate the dead, since nothing sorrowful should distract from such holidays. Therefore, the day of remembrance is usually transferred to another close day after the holiday. And if the years fall on Easter, then they are spent after the end of Bright Week.
In a number of tragic cases, the day of death has to be set conditionally, which greatly worries those close to the deceased. However, the church advises not to give too much of great importance Yes, there. There is nothing wrong with establishing a conditional starting point, because it is unknown, for example, exact date death of many saints, and how many are missing who have not been found.
The duty of the living, according to Christian beliefs, is to pray for the deceased (and this must be done not only on memorial days, but also on ordinary days), the forgiveness of his sins is also called upon to ask for the dead church services, and then there is an opportunity to change his afterlife fate by forgiving even grievous sins.
On the anniversary of death, people close to the deceased pray for him, thus expressing the belief that the day of death is not the day of destruction, but the new birth of the deceased for eternal life, the day of the transition of the immortal human soul in completely different conditions, where there are no earthly sorrows, diseases and hardships.
And yet, the days of remembrance should be met and seen off, only in a state of good spirits, not to hold a grudge against anyone, and even more so against a deceased person. On memorial days, it is also customary to distribute alms to people in need, to commemorate the dead at a meal, and also to donate to monasteries so that they can pray there for the repose of the soul of the deceased.
The topic today seems to be sad. Unfortunately, in our life there is always a place not only for joy, but also for sadness. Let's discuss what happens to the soul of a person after death, how to properly see off and remember the deceased loved ones.
After all, the ancestors said - “When a person is born, he cries, and everyone rejoices. When a person dies, he rejoices, but everyone cries. "
What happens to the soul after the death of a person
Are you interested in knowing what happens to the soul after a person's death? After all, our dense body, with which we identify our I, is just one of the bodies, the densest and most visible in the wave spectrum of an ordinary person.Subtle human bodies
And there are also subtle human bodies. What we call the aura is the energy, the so-called subtle bodies of a person, which perform their functions in the life of a person in his earthly life.
Human earthly body is biological and 4 thin bodies a. The remaining three subtle human bodies are unchanged since the creation of the Soul and are relevant in subtle worlds when blocks of temporary memory are removed from the matrix of the Soul, and it becomes possible to assess all incarnations and the quality of the accumulated experience.
For example, astral body "Responsible" for our passions and desires.
Mental body- for our thoughts and intentions.
The connection between dense and subtle bodies is carried out through energy centers called chakras.
What happens at the time of death?
From the point of view of sacred knowledge on Earth, in a dense body, birth and death is only a transformation, a rebirth of an immortal Soul from a subtle to a dense state and back.
Moreover, the stress of the birth of a baby is much stronger than stress of death. In both of these processes, it is necessary great amount energy.
In the womb, the child remembers all his past lives and the task of incarnation, hears and understands everything that the mother says, feels and thinks, as well as her environment. Not only the child's physical body is being formed, but also his subtle bodies, which are necessary for life on earth.
Dense, ethereal, astral, mental, casual bodies. This is earthly man.
The other three subtle human bodies are a constant component immortal soul on the path of evolution in incarnations and incarnations in the worlds (and not only on our mother Earth).
At the beginning of the birth process, the child experiences severe pain, the muscles of the uterus contract, suffocation, the apocalypse - his world is crumbling ...
At the same time, it is necessary a large number of energy, which with a correct pregnancy and correct behavior the mother and her relatives accumulated over 9 months - and in this case, the birth is easy and quick without complications.
The correct behavior of a pregnant woman is stipulated in great detail in the Vedas (and in all absolutely teachings from the beginning of time), and the ancestors knew what was desirable and forbidden.
Therefore, our ancestors gave birth on a haystack or in the woods (where it would be enough), and then with their legs they returned with the baby and could calmly go to milk the cow, for example.
The natural amount of energy required for childbirth has been accumulated, the child's stress is minimal, as they say - he did not have time to get scared, and he was born.
In principle, they died in the same way, since death is birth in the subtle. And birth is death in the subtle ...
What happens to a person after death?
In the reverse transformation - death - a large amount of energy is also needed in order for the alternate separation of subtle bodies from the physical and from each other to take place without deviations and according to the laws of transition. How does the soul leave the body after death?Ancestors raised from childhood in offspring correct understanding death - that is why no one was afraid of her ... At the funeral feast (that is, at the commemoration), heroic deeds were remembered, battles were organized in honor of the departed warrior.
The energy of death, its quality and quantity does not depend on old age or youth, health or illness, death in bed or in a catastrophe.
It depends on the quantity and quality of the energies that the soul of a person has accumulated on his life path ...
How the soul leaves the body after death
I'm on simple example I will tell you how the soul leaves the body after death. The lower the vibration frequency of the energy, the harder and longer the exfoliation of the subtle body takes place.
The soul, like a 4-stage rocket, loses the carrier rocket upon passing through each energy filter.
The astral body remains in the astral body, the density of which does not allow it to penetrate into a more subtle mental filter.
In the mental layer of the Earth - will fall away mental body... Only having lost all earthly bodies, from the biological in the grave to the mental in the mental sphere - the filter of the Earth - the soul has the opportunity to get into completely different spaces, where it was actually born and where the further will be decided.
Or a return to school on earth, perhaps in new class... Or in the second year ... Or the chance to become a first-year student of the higher HIERARCHY ... It is also full of its own troubles ... You can fly out from the first session.
A person who lived by his conscience, who has accumulated energy, who has spent old karmic tails, can literally fly through these layers, rapidly losing spent bodies.
But today we are talking about ordinary people who lived an ordinary life - and most of the old people leaving today lived under militant atheism.
After the onset of biological death, the etheric body is the first to separate, the heaviest and densest of all the subtle ones.
It is the etheric body, which for various reasons is "stuck" in the world of the living, that we call a ghost. And quite often it can be seen as a translucent haze even in our light spectrum of vision.
Theoretically, the etheric body is separated within 3 days, which is why the first commemoration is usually arranged before that time.
The separation speed depends on the vibration frequency, on the accumulated spiritual experience, and therefore for someone it happens within a few hours, and for someone 3 days.
How to properly accompany the deceased
But even therefore, a funeral earlier than 3 days and the burial of the body to the earth - at the start, can disrupt the path of a person's soul after death. The etheric body will in any case exfoliate after 3 days maximum.
How to see off the deceased? Which speeds up the separation process etheric body?
1. Ablution while the body is still warm - the energy of the water gives additional vibrations.
2. Prayers of relatives, but they have tantrums, panic, and an understanding of what is happening in reality.
3. More desirable give additional energy before breathing stops- in Tibet, a monk reads Tibetan book the dead, for Christians - communion and unction, for the Slavs - reading texts Slavic books the dead, someone even hired women for this or simply arranges a magnificent commemoration with all relatives, etc. ...
All religions, without exception, have their own rituals for sending off the soul and for a more comfortable separation of subtle bodies.
4. Lack of screams on the topic - "Who did you leave me for?" or "Take me with you." These are heavy and very low negative vibrations that cling to the etheric body with anchors. And he is far from sweet.
5. Candle fire gives the energy of fire - the more they burn, the better. But 2 candles at the head of the deceased and 2 at the legs are required.
At the time of death, a person may lose consciousness, but then "comes to his senses."
Consciousness is preserved because I am the soul. And a person after physical death, not prepared for this kind of immortality, an atheist or an unbeliever Thomas, experiences a certain shock.
It takes some time to REALIZE - yes, I am dead!But if Vanya died, then the etheric body is the same Vanya.
Only by dropping all earthly bodies and falling into the higher layers, the blockage of deep memory is removed, and the Soul already knows all its incarnations, in what times and bodies it was, how it lived and passed the lessons, and the accumulated experience is analyzed and accepted.
The etheric body flies through the tunnel towards the light. And after getting into the Light, he can no longer return to a dense body. Resuscitation is not possible.
Why did the Slavs burn (cremate) the dead?
But this requires the separation of the etheric body and the breaking of the "silver" thread.
Ideally, it is body burning or cremation ...
There is no mass - there is no reason to linger, nothing holds.
This is perfect simple formula Einstein's relationship between energy and mass. And the coefficient of the speed of light squared is the very speed of thought.
That is, the faster we reduce the mass, the faster the energy will be released, and the energy of thought will make it possible to slip through the mental filters quickly and easily.
In so many cultures and religions, it is the burning dead body was a burial. The ashes were either scattered over water or buried. But not the body - but ashes.
What happens to the soul of a person after death during rapid burial up to three days after respiratory arrest?
But this is from the series buried alive. Consciousness of the Soul is preserved after death. Yes - ethereal, not dense - but in comparison with the astral and mental it is much heavier ...
And the path of ascent from under the earth begins. Vanya needs a lot of energy, a lot.
Why doesn't grass grow on the grave?
Therefore, even his positive energy accumulations, instead of being reasonably spent when passing through the lower filters, go stupidly to crawl out of the grave, on which the groaning relatives still lay marble slabs and put heavy monuments.
You may have noticed in cemeteries that some of the graves are completely dry. Neither grass, nor flowers, nor trees grow. Even on abandoned and unkempt graves, grass and weeds do not grow. And on the type of well-groomed - nothing takes root.
Although next to it is the same old and abandoned grave - but natural thistles are chest-high. They live and feed on useful biofertilizers.And the birds do not fly nearby and do not sit on dry twigs.
This is the so-called active grave; in addition to the current biomass, there is also someone who draws energy from wherever possible. From plants and silly birds.
And especially from people who sit near a nearby grave and commemorate with vodka and Easter cakes. This is your Vanya, drenched in tears and buried according to the schedule of an expensive ritual office.
The process of the release of the etheric body under such conditions can last up to 300 years.
That is why it is important to know how the soul leaves the body after the death of a person, what happens to it, and how to see off the deceased loved ones correctly.
How to remember deceased relatives correctly
Moreover, it is important not only to properly see off the deceased loved ones, but also to know how to remember correctly deceased relatives.
Of course, commemorations after burial, for 9 days, and a year after death give their energy - but in theory this energy should help to pass astral passions (or ordeals, as the passage of the astral level is called in Christianity).
This is certainly not a rule, but exceptions, but, alas, they do happen. And if relatives do not comply elementary rules wires of the soul of a loved one, the consequences can be so catastrophic for the soul.
So, what is the correct way to commemorate the departed?
In no case should you photograph the deceased and the funeral, let alone keep these photos in the house ...
It is impossible to display a photo of the deceased in a prominent place until the anniversary of his death, and even more so to lament over him.
In the question of how to remember the deceased correctly, it is important to know and understand that death is not the end, it is just the transformation of your loved one.
He is, and he continues to be aware of himself as Vanya, as he did when he was living next to you on the couch. And he needs help, perhaps even more than the obstetrician assistance to you at the birth of your baby.
He is also born, and it is not at all easy to throw off the accumulated bodies, because we do not know the laws, we live in dogmas, and we go to church to bless eggs and beads, not forgetting to attach them to a basket.
Your loved one, his Soul after death needs energy, and the more, the better. Therefore, prayers and magpies (or some other religious rituals in other denominations).
Pray yourself, let him go, your soul is tied to your home and earthly life, to your children, grandchildren, your habits even without your whining. You need to help break these ties, not strengthen them.
While the body is still in the house - Entrance door should be open - no one knows at what point out of 3 days the silver thread broke and the ethereal Vanya came out.
The ancestors had a simple means of preserving the body - on the little finger right hand a thin copper wire was tied and the end was placed in an earthen jar or pot of earth.
Such grounding did not allow the energy of the Soul to flow into the space of the house, because if a person is not prepared for death, his consciousness needs time to REALIZE the death of his biological jacket.
Therefore, the ether can walk around you for some time, learn to use its new state, etc. This is a baby that has already been born, but is completely helpless.
Therefore, mirrors and all reflecting surfaces are covered (and today we have installed - plasmas, monitors, etc., etc.)
For lovers of mirrored walls and ceilings that cannot be covered, dilute saturated saline solution and wipe any mirrors that are inaccessible to the cloth. Upon drying, there will be a white salt film - the Soul will not see itself, and the salt reflects energy.
Why, in case of clinical death, people immediately fall into the tunnel? I just hear such a question or comment.
because clinical death- this is stress, an emergency restart of the Genesis program, the same can be said about people who die in accidents, disasters, etc. There the stress energy is so strong that the ether is separated instantly and there is no need to wait for 3 days.
All, in fact, the above refers to the standard death at home or in the hospital, from old age, from chronic diseases.
What and why not to do at the commemoration
Expanding on the topic of how to remember deceased relatives correctly, I would like to touch upon the question of what and why should not be done at the commemoration.
The first commemoration immediately after the burial. All ancient rules are violated here.
The main task of those who commemorate is to give the Soul additional energy for the transition.
Therefore, the products of violence - meat, eggs, fish - everything that was killed cannot be eaten at the commemoration.
This is a trifle for the living, but for the Human Soul after death, the energy of fear that accompanies the DEATH of a pig or a calf pulls down very strongly. He himself ... your Vanya ... fresh in the fear of death.
Why can't you drink alcohol at the commemoration?
The second thing that cannot be done at the commemoration is to drink alcohol. Alcoholic drinks are a complete Taboo, especially this touching glass of bread for the SOUL. Why? This will cloud the consciousness of both the living and the ether. Remember this if it is really important for you how to remember the deceased correctly.
Let me remind you that consciousness is preserved. And the soul tastes the energy that products radiate. Therefore, products that reduce vibrations should not be eaten by people and displayed for the ethereal Vanya.
You can't begin to discuss earthly affairs at a commemoration after a couple of glasses.
Why can't this be done at the commemoration? Everything worldly pulls the Soul down with weights.
Vanya is completely fresh-born, and so far he is very interested in everything that happens in his former and understandable world.
And before the first filter - astral, the first exam in the New World, there is still up to 9 days. Therefore, conversations at the commemoration are a wish for the deceased to quickly find himself in the world of that, well, and variations on a theme.
How to remember the deceased correctly? You cannot indulge in obvious grief and, again, about sobbing - you need to control yourself and understand that VANYA is not dead. He is alive - he just went on a distant business trip.At the same time, nothing hurts him, he feels perfect, and the same ethereal Masha from the neighboring cemetery is already manifesting near him. And soon they are on lower astral will go. For ordeals.
What should be eaten for the commemoration?
At the commemoration the right food- kutia. I will not repeat the recipes, everyone knows, but no one eats, everyone drinks vodka.
Pancakes are obligatory, and it is the first pancake, hot, is broken by hands and placed on the window sill of the deceased.
Any porridge with butter, jelly and uzvars, bread and pies, and you can't cut bread - just break it. The Soul cannot taste the product cut with a knife.
What to do with the funeral photo?
Well, yes, let's imagine the ubiquitous glass of vodka and a piece of sliced bread for Vanya. I took a sip of vodka, nothing to eat. Energy - minus ... twelve (or rather, a lot of energy will be released, but it leads such a soul rather not up, but down, as you understand, and a righteous soul will only be negative). And astral and ordeals are ahead, 9 days have not come yet.
Borscht and soups are vegetable only. I understand that during the periods of the Soviets and atheism, all the real rules have been forgotten, and the richer, the more prestigious.
At the commemoration after burial, and on the 9th and 40th days, energetics - help for the Soul - should be placed on the windowsill in front of the photo. A glass with uzvar (this is a compote of dried fruits, always with honey) and broken pancakes or other pastries - just not cut with a knife.
After the commemoration, the photo must be removed. That is, a photo up to a year should not be in a conspicuous place, especially if children are running around in the house. And when remembered, a photo is put, and before it is a treat for the soul.
If your Vanya is dear to you, then make a commemoration not in a cafe, bar, restaurant, but at home, with a couple of relatives and neighbors who were really close, and did not come to a free banquet - to drink, devour and discuss their earthly affairs.
A commemoration is when a lot of people gather and they give energy to the newly buried person. And not a reason to get drunk, get drunk and take away the energy that is so necessary now from the Soul.
For me, than such commemorations, it is better without them at all - the soul will be healthier. He will not receive energy, so at least they will not drink the accumulated energy!
In the meantime, the process of disincarnation is underway. Or preparation for a new incarnation. Or to be born in a new quality, these formulations - whichever is more convenient for your consciousness.
Any funeral today resembles a bunch of caterpillars that have lost a companion on their branch. The caterpillar has died and is mourned. Only the butterfly knows that it is alive, and even free, and even with wings. And the butterfly does not understand why its caterpillar neighbors are crying ...
After all, very soon they will die as caterpillars, and become butterflies, and the meeting will be in a blooming meadow.
Understanding what happens to the Soul after a person's death, it will be easier for us to understand how to properly see off and remember the dead, what and why should not be done at the commemoration. After all, our task is to help a deceased relative leave peacefully and be born in a new capacity.
The next article will be about the passage of the Astral by the Soul. Or in a Christian way - ordeals.
