After the birth of her son Mark, Alexandra Shaforost left her career in international company and opened the confectionery “The Marc bakery”.
– Tell me about your son?
– For now, one inquisitive, happy and smart Mark, 4.5 years old. He was born in France, but American by passport and Soviet by blood.
– What does your company do and what role do you play in it?
– With the birth of my son, my world turned upside down: I left a successful corporate career and opened a small confectionery specializing in natural delicious and healthy cookies"The Marc bakery". As a housewife, here I do everything from inventing recipes and designing packaging to promoting the product.
– What is the most important thing for you in your work to achieve results?
– Don’t get bored, don’t give up, know all the details of the business in order to more effectively distribute responsibilities and assess risks. A team of like-minded people and a supply of money or the 3 F’s (Family, friends, fools).
– What lessons have you learned in your career, what should and should not be done to achieve success?
– When you’re young, even with an MBA, don’t act like you’re smarter than your boss. Don’t be afraid to change industries, countries, areas of activity. It is important to get to know the people you will be spending 16 hours a day with as well as possible before signing up for a new project/job. You have to really want to achieve success for it to come. There is no need to evaluate colleagues as friends, this will either lead to conflicts or too close relationships at work, and it will be difficult to criticize or demand more from them.
– What do you love most about your job?
– Tangibility and specific result. The opportunity to raise a son, and not leave him in the hands of nannies.
– Has your work schedule and your attitude towards work changed after the birth of your child?
- Absolutely - I can no longer work as much as is expected of a vice president big company. The material component of my former life faded into the background.
– When you are in a rush at work, have a lot of things to do at home, and are running out of energy, how do you relax, where do you get your strength?
– A glass of good red wine, yoga with Anya L. at the NYM Yoga studio, a fleeting romance with a nice person, reading a book to Mark, TVRAIN channel.
– What services/gadgets/services help you with Everyday life successfully combine work and family?
– Ipad – recently our electronic nanny was stolen from the car, it was difficult for both me and Mark. Workingmama, The Village, Snob help us plan a cultural and entertainment program.
– What do you like to do most on weekends with your whole family and with your child?
– Trips to Gorky Park, friends’ dacha, Muzeon, breakfast at Uilliam’s, lunch at Tsvetnoy. Mark loves the playgrounds between Arbat and Patriarch's Ponds, and it gives me time to read for a couple of hours.
– What are your favorite children’s places in the city?
– Green School in Gorky Park, Shardam (but rarely, since it’s very dark, stuffy and tasteless, but interesting), “Anderson” for children’s birthdays.
– What kind of children’s space do you think is missing in your city?
– After NYC we miss everything: music classes in a game format, play schools, where children are busy for a couple of hours with everything from drawing/experiments to sports games, language courses a stone's throw. Mark studies at P’tit CREF, so there are no problems with English and French, but we still haven’t found Chinese. I couldn’t find any karate or aikido schools for children in our area, nor a swimming pool without Russian paperwork...
- Tell us about your best trip with baby?
– We are used to traveling always and everywhere. We spend the summer at sea: last year in St. Jean Cap Ferrat and Provence (France). This year it will be California. I think parents create the best trip themselves: it should be beautiful, tasty and interesting for them, and then they will have enough energy to entertain the children. On any coast of the world you can find children of a similar age, meet their parents, and then the children will entertain and learn from each other. In terms of convenience, of course California and Florida are among the best places– a lot of theme parks, interesting playgrounds, classes, and the willingness of people to help if something happens to a child, fast effective police and health care, and no screaming or sullen faces.
– How do you plan your travels?
– I have never used travel agencies; in general, planning a vacation is not my thing strong point. While having dinner with friends, a few places come up and then it's a matter of tickets and finding the best hotel within the budget and researching the children's services at the hotel. Last winter we tried ClubMed for the first time with friends in Italy - from the point of view of skiing for kids and the freedom to ski all day for adults while the kids are occupied by instructors - super. This was the first purposeful planning and search for recreation according to clear criteria (age of children, transport accessibility, quality of skiing and food). Not everything was perfect, but we will look for better next season.
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He silently loved his classmate for several years, but never discussed this topic with her, never tried to kiss her. In general, I did nothing, although such cases presented themselves. He danced with her at institute evenings, accompanied her home, and even came to visit her several times. But he only talked about educational topics. Both he and she were excellent students. One day she came to his house. His parents left for several days. They were alone. But again he kept talking about the resistance of materials. Two weeks later she married someone else. In general, he prepared the ground for his opponent. She became aroused with him, and since he did not go further, they had to finish what they started.
So: learn not only to win, but also to use the results of this victory.
93. Look where you lost, and not where it is light. But first you need to find the place where you lost it.
Inspired by an old famous joke.
Under a lantern a man crawls on all fours and looks for something.
- What are you doing? - a passerby asks.
-Where did you lose them?
“There,” says the seeker and points to a place in the dark.
- Why are you looking here?
- It’s so light here, but dark there!
So, many of my charges look where there is light. That is, they blame their communication partners. And indeed, everything is clear there - he is being offended. But he does not want to look into the dark basements of his personality, where the keys to his happiness lie. He cannot understand that it is he who provokes his communication partners to treat himself poorly because he has lost or never had the qualities necessary for a happy life.
So: look where you lost, and not where it is light. But first you need to find the place where you lost it.
94. Don’t try to get rid of failures. It’s better to dilute them with successes.
The result will be just the right amount of peppered food.
So: don't try to get rid of failures. It’s better to dilute them with successes.
95. Do not trust a secret to an enemy, lest he harm you. Do not trust a secret to a friend, so as not to harm him.
96. Rather than follow fashion, it is better to become a trendsetter.
Each of us is created in one copy. Any fashion is an imitation of some model. Why should I look up to someone? It's better to let this someone look up to me. Yesterday I changed my hairstyle fashion - I cut my hair.
So: rather than follow fashion, it is better to become a trendsetter.
97. If you don’t know what to do, it’s better not to do anything.
It's better to do nothing than to do it wrong. It is better to stand than move in the opposite direction.
The aphorism matured when I watched as an unlucky mother tried to pull out a cherry pit from her baby’s nose with tweezers, which drove it even deeper. If she did nothing, perhaps at night, when the swelling of the tissues decreases, the bone would fall out on its own. This also has a direct bearing on raising children.
So: if you don’t know what to do, it’s better to do nothing.
98. He who is not happy with himself will not be happy with other people.
99. If you are not at the peak of happiness, you will slide into a hole.
Therefore, do not stand on the slope: either climb up or go down (but up is better).
100. Try it physical exercise prolong the childhood of your body, and study - the childhood of your soul.
101. Choose a job that suits your abilities.
Then it is easier for you to become yourself, develop your strengths and be satisfied with your life.
Here is what A. Schopenhauer wrote about this: “Actually, there is no other pleasure than to use one’s strengths and feel them, and the greatest pain is the perception of insufficient strength where they are needed.
Therefore let each one, for his own well-being, examine what powers he has and what he does not have: let him then develop his predominant powers to highest degree and uses them powerfully; let him follow the path where his strengths are useful, and let him avoid the path where strengths that he possesses to a small extent are required.”
So: choose a business that suits your abilities.
102. Remember that cheese, after you were satisfied with it, did not lose its qualities, although you have lost interest in it at the moment.
For those who are dissatisfied with their loved ones, their current situation and property, and before separating from their wife, quitting their job, moving to another apartment or another city, I advise you to read this aphorism.
For prevention, I suggest starting the day with prayer, even if you don’t believe in God. It is very short: “Lord! Thank you for allowing me to wake up safe and sound!” After this, take an inventory of your property and situation: you haven’t been fired from your job, the children are alive, you have an apartment, clothes, furniture, a summer house, a car, etc. And only after that move on to what is missing. It turns out that, as Seneca said, “we have everything we need, we sweat from excess,” and indeed often not so much is missing - a little intelligence and common sense. But there's nothing you can do about it. The mind has such a property - the more you have it, the more you lack it. But its acquisition does not require additional investment, except your own desire.
If you start with what is missing, you will become like the old woman-at-a-broken-trough, who remained dissatisfied even when she became a queen.
So: remember that cheese, after you got your fill of it, did not lose its qualities, although you have lost interest in it at the moment.
103. Be about yourself good opinion and rely only on yourself, then others will help you.
Schopenhauer attached particular importance to this:
“You must recognize your own value in the depths of your soul if you want to remove the deception of life. For the feeling of one's own worthlessness is a deadly gorgon. This is not only the greatest, but also the only spiritual suffering; all other spiritual sufferings can not only be healed, but immediately and completely suppressed by a confident consciousness of one's own worth. He who is fully confident in it can calmly endure suffering that would otherwise lead him to complete despair - he can rely on himself without joy and friends. And so powerful is the consolation that is born in us from a living conviction of our own worth, that it must be preferred to all the blessings of the world. On the contrary, in the consciousness of one’s own insignificance nothing in the world can console; it can only be disguised through deception and buffoonery or drowned out by the hustle and bustle of life, but both will not last long.”
Reading these lines, I suddenly understood why men suffer so much from sexual failures and what kind of men they are. So, failed men suffer greatly from sexual failures, that is, those who, despite often visible successes, failed to develop their leading abilities, and their only pride, their only achievement was the sudden loss of sexual power.
I also have clinical confirmation. I forced patients with impotence to develop their spiritual and physical abilities. If this was successful, then their true, that is, unconscious, self-esteem increased, they became interested in interesting thing, and sexually they became even more prosperous than before the breakdowns.
So: have a good opinion of yourself and rely only on yourself, then others will help you.
104. It is better to make a mistake by making your own decision than to succeed on someone else’s advice.
A very important rule, from my point of view, that few people adhere to. Fulfilling it leads to the fact that you take responsibility and eventually gain the necessary experience and gradually begin to make mistakes less and less often. In addition, if you succeed, you can rejoice in the fact that this success belongs entirely to you. Failure to follow this rule leads to the fact that in case of failure you do not analyze the situation, but blame the adviser, and in case of success you are obliged to someone.
So: it is better to make a mistake by making your own decision than to succeed on someone else's advice.
105. It’s better to grow up than to stand on tiptoes.
When you grow tall, you will be left alone, but you won’t be squatting, and you won’t have to stand on your tiptoes. It’s bad both on squatting and on tiptoes.
So: rather than rise on tiptoes, it is better to grow.
106. When performing a selfless act, say thank you to the person for whom you did it for accepting it.
After all, if he had not accepted it, then you could never feel like a benefactor. And in general, feel indebted to him for the rest of your life. Maybe this will wean you from doing selfless things. After all, when performing a selfless act, you, wittingly or unwittingly, are trying to put the recipient in a position dependent on you.
So: when performing a selfless act, say thank you to the one for whom you did it for accepting it.
107. When accepting selfless help, do not consider that you are dependent on the donor.
You, accepting selfless help, made him a benefactor. You did more to him than he did to you. His help may disappear or be in vain or unnecessary or even harm you, but the fact that he became a benefactor thanks to you is something eternal.
So: when accepting selfless help, do not consider that you are dependent on the donor.
108. Work either for free or for more pay, but always to your full potential.
This idea came to me after a conversation with one of my students. This is what he told me:
“I noticed that I get more satisfaction from free admission than for a small reward. Then I realized why this was happening. When I accept for free, I know how much I am giving to the person. After all, I value my work very highly. When I receive little reward, I feel disappointed: as if my work is worth so little.”
And you should work at full strength so as not to get out of shape. I realized this after a conversation with one athlete. After he was kicked off the team, the next day I saw him training even more intensely. He explained to me: “But of course! After all, if I stop training, I won’t be able to get anywhere, they won’t take me to any team. And when justice is restored, they won’t even accept me into my team simply because I’m out of shape.”
So: work either for free or for a higher fee, but always at full strength.
109. The rule is that we are all exceptions.
After all, each of us is created in one and only copy. And if you try to live according to generally accepted rules, then you destroy yourself. Try to live by the rules by which Mother Nature created you. These are the rules you should understand, and we can help with this. If you start living by this rule, you will stop imitating and looking up to someone. There will be an opportunity to become yourself.
So: the rule is that we are all exceptions.
110. Don’t hang around with scoundrels and don’t hang out with those who hang around with scoundrels.
I formulated this rule after the following incident that happened to one of my wards.
“My student Z. did something mean to me, and more than once. It’s my own fault, I broke the rule: “Tear it up after the first time.” In the end, after the third meanness, I broke up with him completely. One of my best and favorite students, Y, worked with him. I continued to communicate with Y., although I did not approve of his friendship and cooperation with this bastard and predicted that Z. would do great meanness to him. One day one of my friends turned to me for advice. His daughter began to attend a group led by Z. and Y. A friend came to me to consult whether his daughter should continue classes, because he noticed changes in her that were, from his point of view, undesirable. I outlined the picture and said that if she communicates with U, then this is not bad, if with Z., then she is in big trouble. As I found out a little later, by the time of the consultation Y had already broken up with Z. In general, I did not help my friend. When I found out what nasty things Z. did to Y., I formulated this rule. Y. remarked to me: “If you had then raised the question “either I or Z.”, then I would have broken up with him. After all, he has treated me dishonestly more than once.” And I was once again convinced that if you act in your own interests and according to your convictions, you benefit not only yourself, but also others, and I developed a new rule.
So: don’t hang around with scoundrels and don’t hang around with those who hang around with scoundrels.
111. Don’t wait for your time to come where you are. Your time has come. Only it is located in a different place. So go where your time is.
112. Don’t become part of the whole, don’t want someone to become a part of you.
113. Are you unhappy with your job? Why don't you quit? The answer will be your program of action.
Particularly productive are the answers where your own shortcomings are indicated: “I don’t know how to do anything else”, “I don’t have such high qualifications that they would accept me into another institution”, “I can’t lead business meeting", etc. Learn to do all this. Many who followed this advice noted that after they had worked all this out, both the need and the desire to quit disappeared.
So: are you unhappy with your job? Why don't you quit? The answer will be your program of action.
114. If you don’t want to get depressed, don’t do anything to be loved. You can't even lift a finger for this.
The opposite is also true: if you want to get depressed, try to be loved.
115. If you want to be free, do what needs to be done.
What needs to be done? What is natural. What is natural? Lawful actions are those that comply with the laws of nature and, therefore, contribute to your development.
So: if you want to be free, do what needs to be done.
116. When you set your sights on something, act as if you have already achieved it, but be prepared for the fact that you will not achieve it.
If I am confident that I will achieve what I am striving for, then I feel good all the time while I am achieving it. If you are not sure of success, then don’t start a business.
If it becomes clear that I haven’t achieved this, then I’ll worry a little and start looking for a way to achieve my goal. But often by the time I fail to achieve something, it turns out that I already need it. Very often this happens when solving problems in your personal life. Many women turned to me with a request to return their dissolute husbands to the bosom of the family. When this happened, most wives refused to accept them.
So: when you set your sights on something, act as if you have already achieved it, but be prepared for the fact that you will not achieve it.
117. Use all your capabilities, but don’t try to go beyond them.
Many, if not all, of my charges remind me of the owner of a huge castle that he did not inhabit. Often he doesn't even know he has it. Instead of settling comfortably in this castle, he breaks the very strong outer stone wall, makes an extension out of reeds, suffers from bad weather, but never thinks of going into the luxurious rooms of his property. At best, he just lives in a closet. These are doctors who should be artists. These are accountants who should be fashion designers outerwear. These are engineers who should be chefs. These are shoemakers who should be philosophers. And instead of becoming good artists, good outerwear designers, good cooks, they become bad doctors, bad accountants, bad engineers, bad shoemakers and become unhappy.
So: use all your capabilities, but don’t try to go beyond them.
118. You can give in both work and love, but you cannot belong.
119. Know what you want and you will know what you should.
121. If you understand what is going on in the souls of successful people, you will stop envying them.
122. Other people's thoughts should lie in the foundation of your building, and not on its roof.
123. Be sincere. And you will be attractive.
The aphorism is inspired by the thoughts of A. Schopenhauer, who pointed out that children, like animals, are entertaining because they are sincere. Empty people, putting on a mask of generally accepted standards of behavior, hide even the little good and real that they have. Wearing a mask takes all their strength, and what they still have is gradually weakening or at least not developing.
For those who care about how they look in the eyes of others (hysterical natures), I recommend reading the following thought by Schopenhauer:
“One is more concerned with the impression he makes on others; the other - more by the impression that others make on him: the first has a subjective mood; the second – objective; the first in its existence is more than a simple idea; the second is more representative.”
So: be sincere. And you will be attractive.
124. It is better to think that you accidentally possessed a lost good than to naturally lose it.
125. Appreciate what you have, not what you don’t.
126. If you want to become smarter, lose weight.
Fat people did not like the aphorism. But in vain!
When a person loses weight, this loss occurs mainly due to adipose tissue. The proportion of brain in the body becomes larger. But in children, the proportion of the brain compared to the weight of the whole body is greater, although the brain mass is less. And although their thinking is not developed, they do not commit stupid acts.
I have a habit of writing down thoughts on paper that I have at hand as soon as I have them. So, when I began to copy this aphorism into the computer, I noticed that I had written down: “If you want to lose weight, be smarter.” It seems to me that this idea is even deeper. Many people try to lose weight, but few people try to grow smarter. For some reason, most people are satisfied with their intelligence. But if they wised up, then, I think, they would find a way to lose weight. It seems that I have found a way to come up with aphorisms: swap words. By the way, when a person gets smarter, he thinks more creatively, that is, he produces his own thoughts rather than uttering someone else’s. And at such moments, endorphins are released into the blood, which are known to reduce appetite. In addition, when you grew wiser, everything became clear to you, you accept reality more calmly. And it is known that when the soul is anxious, the appetite increases sharply.
So: if you want to lose weight, become smarter.
127. If you want to always be fashionable, become a trendsetter.
What is fashion? By and large, this is imitation of others. After all, by trying to be like someone else, you destroy yourself at worst, and ruin yourself at best. And why should you be equal to others - it’s better to be equal to yourself! Then you will always be dressed in fashion, have your hair cut, you will have the most fashionable furniture and the most fashionable car. If people need to look up to someone, then they better look up to you. Three days ago I changed my hairstyle fashion - I cut my hair, and a week ago I changed my shoe fashion - I put on different shoes. The most best fashion when you do, wear, eat, etc. what you like. Don't worry - you won't be left alone. Whatever you do, whatever you wear, whatever you eat, some will like it and some will not. So isn't it better to do what you like? At least one person (you) will be happy. And if we must take care of our neighbors, then who is closest to us? Aren't we ourselves? Don't we deserve to be taken care of? And why should we make it difficult for others to take care of ourselves. Isn't it better to take care of ourselves and thereby relieve those we love? After all, we want to be loved for ourselves! So why do we try to appear before those on whose love we count as something different, and not as we are? If they love us not as we are, but as we appear to be, then have they loved us? After all, by deceiving others, we ultimately deceive ourselves! By the way, are your friends so helpless that they cannot take care of themselves?
Stop reading and try to answer these questions. Maybe the reasons for your misfortunes will become clearer to you? Maybe this is because you are trying to follow fashion (I mean not only fashion for clothes, but also fashion for food, thoughts, actions, medicines, etc.) After all, if you are not a trendsetter, then all this is for you It will only do approximately. After all, you are created in one copy.
So: if you want to always be fashionable, become a trendsetter.
128. If you become what you wanted to become, then you are happy. If the answer is no, ask yourself another question: “What should I do about this?” The answer will be a program of action.
129. If you feel offended, think about whether you have what you were accused of.
130. You should write in such a way that it is impossible to take notes.
This thought occurred to me while I was reading one of Aristotle’s works on rhetoric. It was about 17 pages. I found the work very interesting. I decided to take notes on it, but as a result I simply rewrote it.
We help establish family and love relationship. Our clients write letters to their partners, which sometimes reach 20 pages in length. After editing, there is one and a half left. And then we dictate one page (see section “Letters of Depreciation”).
So: you should write in such a way that it is impossible to take notes.
131. Work for yourself.
When you work for someone else, you don't have enough time for yourself. When you work for yourself, you don't have enough time to work for someone else. And why would you work for someone or live for someone. If this is a worthy person, then he will not accept this sacrifice. He can take care of himself. And if he is unworthy, then is it worth dedicating his life to him?
So: work for yourself.
132. If you stop drinking, you will become a man.
Memo for drinkers and alcoholics. Man differs from animals in mind. First of all, alcohol destroys the mind and, therefore, at the moment of intoxication a person cannot be considered a person. A woman, if she has sexual relations with a drunk, is committing sodomy. (Sodomy, or bestiality, is a type of sexual perversion in which the sexual object is not a person of the opposite sex, but some animal.)
I advise women not to have sexual relations with your partner until he sobers up, and the man should make a vow to himself not to approach his sexual partner while intoxicated. Firstly, if she real woman, then she will refuse you, and if something works out, then it will no longer be sex, but rape. And if she doesn’t refuse, then after sobering up you will lose respect for her, because a woman who has sex with animals is unworthy of respect.
So: if you stop drinking, you will become a man.
133. Find an element of praise in abuse and calm down.
Since they scold me, it means that I am a significant figure, that means I can do something that I haven’t done yet. Listen to what they scold you for, and you will find out what hopes people have for you. This is how my ward calmed down when he began to use this rule. “For example, the head of the department scolds me for the fact that I still have not defended my doctoral dissertation, have not completed the textbook, have not organized in the field methodological center, publisher - because I write little, wife - because I don’t have enough sex with her. Consequently, the manager does not doubt my scientific potential, the publisher does not doubt my writing skills, and my wife does not doubt my sexual capabilities. I think that this contributed to the fact that in the end I defended my doctoral dissertation, completed my textbook, organized a center and began to have more sex with my wife, to my great pleasure.”
So: find an element of praise in the abuse and calm down.
134. Wish to be treated like a good milkmaid treats her cash cow or like a car fanatic treats his car.
135. Do not bow to desires, but satisfy their just demands.
136. Be a leader for yourself.
137. If I am afraid to break up with someone when circumstances require it, I am a zero who does not want to become a one.
138. True creativity is possible at the top of the mountain of knowledge created by others, otherwise it will turn into the invention of the wheel or the discovery of America, in general, into creativity for oneself.
139. Try to get to know a person, not his horoscope.
140. If you want to become kinder, achieve success.
141. If you learn to tolerate your neighbors, it will become easier to tolerate yourself.
142. Marry one but fruitful idea. Fertilize it with your inspiration, and it will give you a lot of new ideas, which will all be different, but to some extent similar to both mom and dad. But these will all be your children.
143. If you want to at least sometimes experience a feeling of joy, never expect anything good from anyone or anything.
145. If you do not fulfill the LAWS, then it is better if you do not know them. Then retribution for you comes AFTER, and also BEFORE.
146. One should be afraid of breaking LAWS. But THIS is the only thing you should be afraid of.
147. Love and act only within your capabilities, but constantly increase your capabilities.
148. Treat misfortune with gratitude, as if it were good.
One of my students, having become acquainted with this aphorism, became grateful to the girls who abandoned him, to the officials who did not approve the gold medal, to the head of the department who did not allow him into graduate school, to the managers who did not allow him to take administrative positions. True, he realized this about 20 years later, when he found out that these girls turned out to be rather vile women, the lack of a medal hardened him when entering a university, the refusal to be accepted into graduate school protected him from pursuing a very unprestigious specialty, and the exclusion from an administrative position turned him into a prominent researcher and writer.
So: treat misfortune with gratitude, as if it were good.
149. Go with the flow, because as the ancients said, when you see that circumstances are not favorable to you, then do not resist them, but leave them to them natural course, because whoever goes against circumstances becomes their slave, and whoever submits to them becomes their master.
150. When a person is haunted by illness, he must carefully examine his actions.
If he did not find anything reprehensible in his actions, then he must think that he has stopped in his growth and development. And this is the most terrible sin. You are deceiving yourself and God.
We have developed a technique for talking with your body, which painful symptoms signals us about our misbehavior. You just need to list all your actions and intentions. As soon as you hit the target, the body will immediately give a signal in the form of a weakening of the symptom that is bothering you. Or in general you will feel general relief or enlightenment, and sometimes something like blissful peace.
Here is an example of such a “conversation”. One of my students, who, through working on himself, became a prosperous person both professionally and personally. After a few years, he realized that the institution in which he worked did not have the conditions for him personal growth. There was simply no equipment necessary for it, and it was not possible to purchase it. He should have quit there. But he worked there for many years. Actually, all my life. He never worked anywhere else. His colleagues treated him great and asked him to wait a little and be patient. He was invited to other places. Almost four years passed like this. Then he developed extrasystoles (interruptions in heart rhythm). He treated them relatively calmly and continued to work. The number of extrasystoles became more and more. In order to somehow drown out his melancholy at the inability to continue research, he began to study a lot social work, loaded myself with other unnecessary things. But the number of extrasystoles became more and more. Three years later he turned to me for help. I challenged him to go over everything he had done and everything he had intended to do but had not done as soon as he mentioned his intention to quit his job. The number of extrasystoles has become noticeably smaller. But he decided to wait a little longer. Their number immediately increased. After several days of hesitation, he announced his decision. He immediately felt better. Persuasion followed. He began to have internal doubts again. It got worse again. But as soon as he made up his mind and submitted the application, his extrasystoles immediately stopped. They continued to persuade him to stay, but he was adamant. He realized that he would no longer be able to work in such conditions. In the end they figured it out. Elsewhere he managed to do everything he set out to do. The extrasystoles stopped, which surprised the therapists with whom he consulted. One of them said that he hoped for their reduction, but he did not expect this. There have been no extrasystoles for three years now, although previously their number reached 13 thousand per day.
So: when a person is haunted by illness, he must carefully examine his actions.
151. Firmness of spirit is necessary in misfortune, but even more so in happiness.
152. While you are studying, you are young, or at least you feel young.
153. Do the things of youth, and you will feel young.
154. Remember that work for the development of your soul is always work for yourself.
155. Repent even when you have sinned against yourself.
157. Since you were programmed in the image and likeness of God, then become godlike and remember all the time that you are not God, no matter how much you are praised.
158. Do not try to make a strong impression, because, as Schopenhauer said, a strong impression can only be made on the common people and the ignorant. The reason for this is their cowardice and lack of understanding of the essence of things.
159. Behave at home as if you were visiting, communicate with your wife as with a bride, with subordinates as with a boss, with students as with teachers.
160. Don’t cheat, and if you cheat, then don’t get caught, and if you get caught, then don’t confess, and if you confess, then confess to business contacts, but not sexual ones. As a last resort, refer to the fact that you were in a state of disturbed consciousness and do not remember anything.
161. Remember that the most best light- the light of your own mind. It illuminates both outside and inside.
162. If you want to harm someone, praise him, and you will set your enemies against him.
163. If you want to live in peace, don’t promise that you will keep a secret. If you want to live in peace, refuse to take the secret for safekeeping.
164. Think about who you are taking revenge on. Aren't you humiliating yourself by doing this?
165. Give up revenge - and you will have a huge energy reserve.
166. You must strive for victory over those enemies who sit within you. These enemies are rules and principles that do not correspond to either our nature or the situation, but tyrannically control us and live at our expense, leaving us only scraps.
The magical energy of love. Secret magnets of Tikhonov’s charm – Aiyn Snezhan
Great power visualization. We behave as if...
Start with your Highest Thought about yourself. Imagine yourself as you would be if you lived this thought every day. Imagine what you would think, do and say and how you would react to what others do and say.
Neil Donald Walsh
…For those who themselves achieve the state of millionaire consciousness develop within themselves the experience, knowledge and skills to repeat this process again and again. When someone becomes a millionaire, it is what he has become that matters, not what he has. What kind of person do you need to become to get everything you want? “To have” stems from “to be.”
Another important detail when acquiring wealth is the power of visualization. When you dream, visualize yourself in another dimension, a small miracle happens. The virtual “I” becomes real! You are a product of your beliefs about yourself. Start behaving "as if", and you will truly become the person you see yourself.
Imagine this situation. You walk into a boutique and see a man there. He wears an immaculately pressed, tailored dark gray suit with a red check tie and a matching handkerchief in his breast pocket. This man simply radiates unshakable self-confidence. What do you think of him? First of all, he is probably very wealthy. Why did you think that? Yes, because he behaves like a self-sufficient and confident person. You don’t even know where he works, where he lives, what his name is, how much money is in his wallet or on his plastic card, but you are sure of one thing - HE IS RICH.
In one of my favorite movies, “Ghost” with Demi Moore, I remember a funny plot. The incomparable Whoopi Goldberg acted as if she were an aristocrat and the heiress of an oil tycoon at the city bank, and the bank employees truly perceived her as such!
As Alexandre Dumas said: “Pretend to respect yourself, and they will respect you.”
If you want to become a millionaire then act as if you are already a millionaire. If you dream of becoming a global superstar, then act as if you are already a superstar. If your deepest desire is to become famous author international bestsellers, then act as if You're already a best-selling author.
I understand that, perhaps, as a child you were insulted, humiliated, and swear words were spoken to you, as a result of which over the years you have developed an inferiority complex. You feel like some kind of ugly duckling. But until you part with this “bouquet” of complexes, you will fail in all endeavors, be it love or money.
Why is this happening? Yes, because, my precious ones, your inflated needs do not correspond to your inner state. You don’t have the energy that would attract money energy. Yours internal state falls short of high-frequency desires and needs. Start tuning into the high-frequency wave of abundance, and fortune itself will rush to you. Remove mental blockages that block the flow of abundance.
I know one wonderful woman, the mother of three children. When we met her, her wage was lower living wage, she could barely make ends meet. So, after our friendly conversation, Evgenia began to behave as if she were already a rich and self-sufficient woman. The next day after our meeting, I’ll be honest, almost with her last money she bought herself very expensive, chic boots for a very high heels. Naturally, her gait changed. When she walked down the street, men did not allow her to pass.
Further more. Colleagues began to treat her completely differently. If before she was constantly sent to the nearest kiosk for shopping, now this has stopped. Two months later she got a new high-paying job. Evgenia no longer sits at home, she hired a nanny for youngest child, always on the road... Her “as if” state has now become real. Praise and applause to this amazing woman!
Constantly train your mind, accustom it to the state of wealth. WITH today start acting like you own incredible wealth. Copy the behavior wealthy people, the movements of their hands, proud posture, royal gait, manners while eating, intonation.
The Universe will support you, because in its eyes you have already become a rich person. Don't just dream “at least I can have this” or “yes, that’s enough for me” No, dream about the maximum!
The higher and further your goal, the greater the likelihood of achieving it. After all, if you want a little, you will achieve a little. And vice versa, the more you want, the more you will achieve. Don't limit your bottomless imagination.
Remember Alice in the movie "Guest from the Future". What was she capable of, unlike her ordinary classmates? Alice did not allow the thought of losing. It seems to me that the director of the film wanted to convey to the viewer the idea that in the near future, thanks to constant training of the mind, we will achieve brilliant results in all endeavors. Believe fairy tales, believe magic! If your adult consciousness is confused by the word “magic”, replace it with “ positive thinking”, which, in general, is the same thing.
It is very important to visualize your dream in every detail. It is not enough to simply want an apartment or Vacation home, you must clearly and clearly imagine the realization of your dreams. We know very well, my radiant ones, that guardian angels are always happy to help us, and therefore it is more profitable for us to make their work easier.
In order to speed up the process of achieving what you want as much as possible, you must clearly imagine the object of your dreams. If this is a car, then imagine its make, color, upholstery, cost, etc. If this is a house, then what kind: a classic Russian estate, medieval castle, English mansion, Swiss chalet or Italian villa?
What happens during visualization? Yes you create virtual world your dreams. As Louise Hay said, the universe has no sense of humor, therefore, your desire enters the Universal information field at the speed of light and the Universe will gladly fulfill it!
Only your choice determines your destiny. If you imagine something negative, always afraid of the bad, then the Universe will understand that this is what you want. After all, your desire is sacred. You yourself can probably remember someone around you. These people were afraid of something, and it was to them that misfortune happened.
Never allow gloomy, threatening objects, some aggressive scenes, hostile people, and so on in your dreams. My friends, tune in only to the positive, only to the bright and divine, be extremely attentive to your desires and dreams. Choose elegant, high-quality, expensive, chic, kind, juicy and bright!
Do not think that you are unworthy of something, that you cannot achieve something. We are all made from the same clay. If Henry Ford, John Rockefeller and Bill Gates managed to turn from the poor and unknown into the richest and influential people, then you can too! You must believe in your unique capabilities, believe in miracles. After all, only then do miracles become the norm in your everyday life.
“Self-respect is the most important determinant for any success or significant action in life,”– writes Jean Landrum in the brilliant book “Thirteen Women Who Changed the World.”
There is no limit to perfection! After all, you are an omnipotent deity, for whom there are no limiting factors on the way to the land of abundance and prosperity. So, here and now, say it slowly, with the intonation of a multi-billionaire the following words.
I am the heir to all the luxury of beauty of the Universe!
I am God's mighty creation!
All mine cherished desires performed quickly and easily!
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Act as if you are already happy and you will actually become happier.
Keep busy. This is the cheapest medicine on earth - and one of the most effective.
Never try to settle scores with your enemies, because by doing so you will do yourself much more harm than them. Do like General Eisenhower: never think for a minute about people you don't like.
There is only one way to earn love in this world - stop demanding it and start giving love without hoping for gratitude.
How many of you have ever sawed sawdust in your life? Of course, no one can saw sawdust. They are already sawed. It's the same with the past. When you start worrying about things that have already passed, you are sawing sawdust.
If you want to change people, start with yourself - it’s both more useful and safer.
The expression on a woman's face is much more important than her clothes.
Three quarters of the people you meet tomorrow crave sympathy. Show it and they will understand you!
Do not allow yourself to be upset over trifles that should be despised and forgotten. Remember that life is too short to waste it on trifles.
Remember, happiness does not depend on who you are or what you have. It depends entirely on what you think about.
The surest way to a person’s heart is to talk with him about what he values above all else.
If a person is trying to use you for his own purposes, remove him from your list of friends.
“A smile costs nothing, but it is highly valued...”
Don't imitate others. Find yourself and be yourself.
Know how to take the position of another person and understand what HE needs, not you. The whole world will be with the one who can do this.
Three subjects are the most interesting in the world... Sex, property and religion. With the help of the first we can create life, with the help of the second we maintain it, and with the help of the third we hope to continue it in another world.
“Every person is a complete fool for at least five minutes a day. Wisdom consists in not exceeding this limit."
You are not happy or unhappy because of what you have, or because of who you are, where you are, or what you do; your condition is determined by what you think about it all.
It's human nature to blame anyone but yourself...
The expression you wear on your face is much more important than the clothes you put on yourself.
