It happens that memories of past relationships become obsessive and interfere with enjoying the present moments of life. In such a situation, a person constantly looks back, compares new acquaintances of the opposite sex with his previous passion, feels distrust of them and is looking for a catch in everything. Thoughts about the former partner, about the time spent together return to the head over and over again. it serious problem that interferes with planning your life and just being happy. Where the past rules, there is no future!
If you realize that you have been in this state for a long time, then it is time to take control of your own emotions and start getting rid of old attachments.
Even if after a breakup you experience mostly negative emotions, this can and should be turned to your advantage. Don't underestimate the importance of the past. It gave you a lot of valuable experience! You now know what relationships you do not need and what you should strive for. It is good if you could see your own mistakes, because their awareness is the key to self-improvement. Having gone through previous relationships, you probably came to know your true desires and learned to better understand people. Mentally thank your ex for all the good and bad that happened between you, and turn this page of life.
Be clear: the relationship is over
A huge mistake many people suffer after a breakup is to mentally replay the moment of a breakup with constant reflections about their wrongness and what should not have been allowed. Do not blame yourself for anything and do not think about how it would be better. Everything has already turned out the way it did. This cannot be changed. By dwelling on the past, you harm your present. Self-flagellation has never led anyone to anything good. Yes, for some time you will “automatically” return to the same thoughts and experiences. When this happens, try to immediately switch to something else. Keep your head and hands busy. Play a video game, go for a walk fresh air, read an exciting book or plunge into the endless worlds of movie series. Get distracted!
A good solution would be to just speak out and close the painful topic forever. Gather all the close people who are ready to listen to you, and pour out your soul to them, telling the truth without embellishment and exaggeration. Perhaps in the course of the conversation it will become clear that parting is exactly what should have happened. Friends and relatives will certainly put forward their points of view. Most often, these conversations are sobering.
In no case should you withdraw into yourself and drive longing deep into your heart. Speak out, cry, get angry and let go old love! Unpleasant emotions are completely natural, and you have every right to express them.
Find a new hobby
But only one that takes your breath away! Enroll in an art school, dance studio, or go to a rock climbing course. Make it your goal to write a book, after all! Anything! It is during a difficult period, when past relationships knock out a tear and everything reminds of him or her, that it is easiest to translate your anger into a reasonable, creative channel. Sweat at the gym with a maniacal stubbornness, paint to the point of exhaustion with watercolors, or learn another language. Put me on a pedestal new dream and stubbornly follow her! This will really help!
Out of sight, out of mind!
Despite its venerable age, this rule still works well! Get rid of things that remind you of past relationships and cause vivid emotions (including negative ones) associated with them. Remove from sight joint photos, things and gifts of the former chosen one, or conduct a kind of ritual: gather it all together and burn it (just remember about precautions)! You can even write a letter to your former love, confess your own mistakes or just speak out, and then throw the letter into the fire. Such psychological reception help to get rid of oppression intrusive thoughts and figuratively “burn all bridges”, as well as strengthen the desire to open new page life.
Feel the pleasure of freedom of action
Breakups bring more than just unpleasant experiences. When a relationship ends, a lot of new opportunities open up before a person. Take a look around! The whole world lies at your feet! Fill your lungs with air and enjoy absolute freedom. Let the love go, but with it go the control. You are free from any obligations and restrictions. Enjoy this state! Remember what you gave up when former partner was nearby. Perhaps it was traveling, chatting with friends, watching your favorite movies. Maybe you couldn't get a dog because of your chosen one's dislike for animals or because he is allergic to wool? It's time to start fulfilling unfulfilled desires and enjoy every day without a twinge of conscience!
Avoid places that link you to your ex
Unfortunately, visiting a number of establishments should be completely abandoned. Even a short walk through memorable places can cause a lot of pain: old memories pop up, and immediately there is a burning desire to plunge back into that evening when you were happy with this person. Just give up such visits for a while and find new interesting places.
Focus on the negative
Yes Yes! Remember all the bad things that happened between you: all the quarrels, misunderstandings, reproaches, unfair treatment, etc. People tend to idealize the past, and therefore, remembering it, they often ignore unpleasant moments and concentrate only on the good. As a result, the memories do not correspond to the reality that existed at that time. A person from the past seems ideal, which only emphasizes the tragedy of the situation that has overtaken you. Do not rush to reproach yourself! It’s better to remember how often your ex-partner upset you, made scandals on an “empty” place, or how many painful minutes you spent alone, waiting for him from the next “spree”. This is good practice too!
Go in for sports
Sport is an excellent remedy for blues! Each workout is a kind of psychotherapy. Choose the most exciting for you personally sports areas. The main thing is that the classes bring sincere pleasure and completely capture you. Start training gradually, under the guidance of an experienced mentor. Obsessive thoughts about the past will evaporate like dew in the sun!
They say that broken cup You can't glue it, but it gets a lot easier when you know how. The trick is to let go of the past. Easier said than done, but it's entirely possible. By following our instructions, you will be able to let go of past relationships and move on to the next chapter of your life.
1. Practice
Everything takes practice, and controlling emotions and feelings is no exception. Stop sitting in the back seat of your life, waiting for everything to happen by itself. Instead, roll up your sleeves and put in the effort. Over time, you will be able to develop the ability to think consistently and not dwell on what once was, but focus on what is now.
2. Forgive yourself
Nobody is perfect. If you think you didn't do anything wrong in a past relationship, you're out of your mind. There is a reason for your relationship to end. Something didn't click, and it wasn't what you were both looking for. No matter how shattered your world is, it's only natural to feel loss, rejection, and failure. Forgive yourself and move on.
3. Focus on the good
No relationship is completely devoid of something good, so focus on the good times you had together. Don't dwell on the fact that you could have done something better, and don't think about how to put it all back. Those times are gone, and even if you get back together with this person, it will not be the same as before. AT real life there are no second chances. Remember these good times with a smile. This time has passed, but it was happy. Do not allow negative emotions about your ex to influence your memories.
4. Learn from your mistakes
If you feel guilty, there is no need to bring yourself down. This eye-for-eye situation will only affect you, so you will lose. You will no longer be able to do everything right with this person, but you can analyze your mistakes and avoid them in the future. If you have learned something from your experience, then that time was not wasted.
5. Focus on yourself
Don't worry about what your ex thinks, how they feel, what they do, and who they talk to. There is no point in having long imaginary conversations, because there is no other person in your head but yourself. You repeat his words or make up answers. Stop worrying about what your ex is doing. You cannot control it. Focus only on what you yourself are doing.
It seems obvious The best way forgetting the past is looking to the future. Past relationships are not so bad, because you still have experience, as well as goals that need to be achieved. It's okay to remember the past from time to time, but don't let it get in the way of your present.
7. Don't try to forget
Trying to forget someone is a bad idea. If you force yourself to forget, you will do things that you shouldn't do. The time you spend with someone is part of your life. Why would you want to voluntarily give up a part of yourself? Don't set yourself the goal of forgetting something. This will happen anyway, but for quite natural reasons.
8. Accept the impermanence of life
Everything in life is temporary, even life itself. Even if immortality were possible, life would not remain as it is forever. Therefore, we need to move on. Accepting that nothing in life is permanent is part of growing up. No matter how hard you work, some things are simply out of your control. Do what you can with what you have, or very soon find yourself with nothing.
9. "Tear down the Berlin Wall"
Where there used to be relationships, there is now emptiness. You must fill it with contacts with other people. You can search for new acquaintances or reunite with family and friends. The main thing is to lower your defenses and let them approach you. Otherwise, you will only make yourself more unhappy.
10. Do good...
A great way to feel better is to help others. There are many ways you can use to do this. You don't have to change the world, but you can make the people around you happier. They will return your favor and cheer you up when something happens.
Breaking up is very hard, but we all lose important relationship. Letting go of past relationships is hard, but you need to move on. If you don't, you will end up wasting a lot of time, which you will later regret. With discipline and practice, you can get that relationship out of your mind and move on to a new and happier relationship.
Sometimes the past haunts us so much that we cannot fully live in the present. It can be disappointments, failures, or moments of happiness that have been and gone. All these memories oppress us and do not allow us to live happily in the present. So to stop all this fuss, you need to get rid of the memories of the past. After all, everyone understands that how we live now depends on what will happen in the future. Therefore, drive away negative thoughts, remnants of the past. This is a milestone, whatever it may be! And we live now! For this, it is not necessary to contact a psychotherapist or psychics. You can bury your negative memories yourself, while providing them with very worthy ritual services. Here are a few tips to help us deal with the memories that come flooding back. So, how to get rid of the memories of the past:
The first way Now we will give effective reception NLP. Imagine a wall in front of you, on which photos from various moments of life are pasted. Here is the photo where you went to school, here is your very first love, here you got your first job, here comes the unexpected that you so want to forget... The most significant and even some ordinary moments of life should be on this wall. Just imagine that all the photos are bright color, and only your unforeseen event is black and white. Now you need to step back and look at the wall of life as if from the outside. Take a look at how colorful everything is, and how small this inconspicuous black and white photograph is on a scale. Now shrink it mentally to a size of 3-4 cm. Continue to “stick” the photo on the wall of your life. Also glue the future. Fill up the wall of life bright colors. Any of your desires, any moments, whether it's vacation, children, your career achievements ... Pictures where you help people. Images where you are admired. What do we see as a result, your black and white photography will be absolutely from all sides, surrounded by color photos that go far from him to the sides. Then you look at the wall and begin to understand that the trouble that you want to forget is just a single life event. It has its own boundaries, it is local and occupies a very small part of your life on the wall. This faded black and white photo is not your life. Your life is bright, rich, colorful. As a result of this exercise, you removed bad thoughts. No, you have not forgotten the past, you have simply limited it, and it no longer extends to your present and future.
The second way Here's another NLP trick. It is not recommended to use it to get rid of the memories of the past during the period of exacerbation, which immediately follows an unpleasant event. You can use it when a little time has passed, and you seem to have “cooled down” a little. Enough effective method. So, you need to play in your imagination an unpleasant event from the past that you want to forget. Yes, you will have to get into that unpleasant past memory that you are so afraid of. Only you need to do it in a special way - in the form of a black and white film with cheerful music on background. So, turn on the movie and take your place in the cinema in the back rows. Insert into your film the perky laughter of the audience in the hall. You can add some hysterical laughter. Scroll through some stories reverse order to make the movie funnier. Scroll through your movie until you are no longer afraid of it. By adding funny sounds and distorting the picture by playing it in reverse, you can kind of “colorize” your black and white memories from past life and change your attitude towards them. This technique helps to improve memory. Remember how you removed the deuce with the blade. you erased bad grade and instead of it they drew a four for themselves. AT this case you will do the same. Only the "diary" of life after this exercise will look great, and you can stop worrying about "bad grades" in the past.
Third way Very practical way. There will be no mind games. This method can not only help you forget unpleasant memories, but also help you change your attitude towards the situation that bothers you so much. Just imagine that your past, which needs to be forgotten, is as if nuclear reactor. And even after a long time, it continues to emit radiation and poisons everything around. The life of people living nearby, that is, your life, is infected. You can no longer inhale the fragrances of flowers, because the sense of smell gives out distorted odors. It feels like a burnt-out station, which constantly haunts you even during sleep. We need to eliminate this radiation. The reactor needs to be concreted and this event should be buried in the past. Start concrete! If the memories disturb you, and you just sit and think “how can you forget them”, then you again stir up the ashes and blow to make it flare up more. Negative memories continue to poison your life. Otherwise, you probably want to take your mind off the thoughts that torment you and sit down in front of the TV. All this does not work! It's like if you covered the source of radiation with oilcloth. Remember, in order to forget negative memories from the past, it must be concreted. How to do it? Very simple - bury the source of a jet explosion under active actions. Our memory is limited in our capabilities and cannot retain all the events that we have experienced. The more massive actions we have taken, the more numpy has been experienced, the more a layer of “concrete” will cover the event that you wish to forget. Those. actions that require 100% attention from you and will become concrete for a radioactive reactor. So, get yourself into massive action. Agree, it’s quite difficult to worry, fill your head with memories from the past when you are skiing with steep mountain. Also, it is unlikely that you will begin to remember the unpleasant moments of life when you speak in front of a large audience. Start laying concrete in layers that won't let your past into your present and future. Start bold, active, bright actions and your past will forever remain in the past.
Unfortunately, some moments cannot be erased from life and memories of them are always with us. We've all had embarrassing moments, stupid things, etc. By the way, bad memories harmful to health and it is scientifically proven. How to get rid of bad memories and move on.
Grieve to the fullest
Exactly. Our psyche is arranged in such a way that if we displace shameful or terrible moments from life from memory or suppress these memories, most likely, they will settle in our head even more. Allow yourself to be angry, to feel that pain or sadness. If necessary, do not be afraid to scream or cry. This way they will get out of you sooner.
Try to think about horror story until she loses her sharpness in memory. If the memory makes you feel bad, go for a walk. True, you don’t need to hang on sadness for too long. Were sad intensely - and immediately return to today's life.
Get checked out by a specialist for post-traumatic stress disorder
Post-traumatic stress disorder can appear after a really terrible life event. In this case, getting rid of bad memories is unrealistic and they cause constant anxiety and fear that the event will happen again. Among the symptoms of the disorder are not only terrible memories, but also nightmares at night, as well as terrible thoughts. Also, the disorder is accompanied by depression and anxiety. Only a good psychiatrist will help to cope here.
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Live actively
Try not to be alone and fill your life to capacity: work, fun, hobbies, reading, learning something new, creativity, physical education, community work ... Do not let bad memories of time and place. In addition, if you live on the positive, you will constantly receive a lot of endorphins. And what you don’t need to do is to move away from your bad memories into drugs or alcohol. Not only is it harmful, but it is also a depressant, so if bad memories provoke your depression, then alcohol will only increase it. The same applies to any other irritants and habits, such as overeating, risk, etc. It's just harmful, but the negative will not be erased from memory.
Form new memories - good ones
All memories are erased over time, but this process can be accelerated. For example, filling the memory good memories. To do this, you can travel, and not only around the world, but also around hometown. Do you know how many amazing places there are in your city? You can also change something in your daily routine more often: go to a new restaurant, organize interesting event, just unscheduled to invite all friends and neighbors to visit ...
Think about what you learned from unpleasant events
That's what negative experiences are for, to teach you something. This is generally the same part of life as any other events. If the disaster happened to you not so long ago, it will not be easy to understand what you learned from it. If many years have passed, then it will be easier for you to understand what you received along with a shame or a stupid act. Then the bad memory will lose its sharpness. Besides, you wouldn't be able to appreciate the good if it wasn't for something terrible.
Live in the present
Only in this way, because there is no future, no past. Learn to focus on what is happening.
To do this, try to notice all the smallest changes around, smells, sounds, shades ... What you usually do not notice.
We pay attention to what you feel right now: what your body feels, what all your receptors feel.
If you often go into memories, come up with a mantra for yourself. For example, "I'm here." And say it at the first attempt to mentally fly into the past.
Learn to meditate. This will teach mindfulness and control over memories.
Focus on good memories
As soon as they come to mind, turn on the good memories. You can compare bad memories with positive ones. For example, if you think about unhappy love, compare the memory of it with the memory of happy love. If you have an embarrassing performance at a school party that everyone laughed at constantly pops up in your brain, compare it with a successful performance.
Rearrange your memories
Every time a story pops into your mind, change it. We have tiny gaps in memory, so the brain will fill them with fake memories. Over time, they will change beyond recognition and will be perceived as not yours, but someone else's events from the past.
Everyone has childhood memories, so if you always remember how you, a little one, were bitten by a scary red dog, you can imagine it as spotted. If you are afraid of water after riding a boat with dad and almost drowned, but dad saved you, you can change the name of the boat in your memory and what dad was wearing then.
Change those moments of memories that make you feel especially bad. So, if in the case of a boat, when you were sinking, you felt despair and fear, it is better to think about how good it is to be saved by dad and how grateful you are to him.
All in the past
Console yourself with the fact that everything that happened happened a long time ago and is gone forever: both the laughter of classmates and fear in an extreme situation - everything is gone and will not happen again.
Try to avoid things and places that bring back negative memories
Do not go to the yard where you were beaten half to death by big boys as a child, do not go past the school where you once disgraced yourself, etc. Change the way to work, stop listening to music that you associate with unpleasant moments in life, give away love stories that are associated with unhappy love. If you can't do this, or the things that bring back memories are intangible, see a therapist.
Rename your negative memory
This is also very effective and helps to deceive the brain. For example, call a negative memory not bad or bad, but the past. Over time, the "past memory" will become a thing of the past.
Every person has their own past. And no matter what anyone says, it is completely impossible to forget him even with great desire. This is how the brain works, this is the peculiarity of memory. Today we will talk about the past that you want to throw out of your head.
The main reasons for memories of the past
Living in the past is a thankless task, especially if there are many unpleasant and painful events left. But often a person mentally goes back again and again, each time re-experiencing the difficult moments of his life. Unpleasant constant memories of the past can completely absorb a person, and he begins to get hung up on them, which is fraught with bad consequences and problems with the present.
There are typical situations after which it is very difficult for a person to cope with emotions. He dwells on what happened and brings negative memories into his later life. Among them:
- Death loved one or child. It is really hard to go through such an event. Especially if there were many happy moments lived together, if death took a loved one suddenly.
- Cheating and parting with a loved one. Betrayal can leave a deep wound on the heart, make you turn away from the opposite sex for a long time and stop trusting people in principle. The result can be complete loneliness, detachment.
- Lack of demand in the profession. Often live in memories of past work people who could realize their abilities and ambitions there, get a decent wages, but in force various situations(were laid off, the company went bankrupt) were left without a favorite place.
- Moving to another city permanent place residence. Homesickness, even if life was much harder there, is characteristic of every immigrant. It is expressed rather not in memories of the past place of residence, but of the people who stayed there, their favorite vacation spots.
- Daily routine at home and at work. Lack of emotions, sadness, depression from the change of seasons - all this makes you return again and again to memories of cheerful companies, warm weather, etc.
Whatever the reason for remembering the past, if a person constantly thinks about it, reproaches and blames himself for what happened, or for what he did not do, mentally turns events and thinks, what would have happened if then he acted differently, he clearly needs to urgently get rid of obsessive thoughts. This is a false path to the healing of the soul. A person who constantly looks back to the past is doomed to further failures. As the famous German writer of the twentieth century, Erich Maria Remarque, said, “one who looks back too often can easily stumble and fall.”
How to get rid of memories of the past
Our life is not full of troubles. Everyone has bright and joyful moments, at the recollection of which the soul comes to life and sings. And instead of thinking about the good more often, many people are ready to suffer for the rest of their lives, regret the unrealizable, harbor pain and resentment, worry about past failures and disappointments. They do not even understand that it could be otherwise, and continue to hurt themselves and their loved ones. irreparable harm refusing to forget past memories. In order to clear the memory, you first need to calmly sort out the reasons, separate the events that are worth deleting from your life, or accept them, leaving tender and warm moments in your memory, and turn them to your advantage.
Conducting past memory analysis
In order for the events of the past tense to stop haunting a person, you need to figure out at what point and why these thoughts began to disturb and occupy most his consciousness.
At this stage it is important:
- forgive and let go. It often happens that, having experienced certain failures, a person constantly scrolls through them, reinsuring himself from new disappointments. He mistakenly thinks that he will be ready for a situation where the same failures will be repeated in his life, and does not understand that, on the contrary, only attracts them to him.
- Admit your guilt. It must be understood that everything that happens to a person partly happens because of his actions. It is very important to realize this, since it is easiest to blame anyone for all the sins, but not yourself. This approach will make it possible to quickly draw the right conclusions: if you yourself are to blame for what happened, by actions or thoughts you have attracted negativity to yourself, then it is easier to get out of this situation and change everything.
- forget mistakes. It often happens that a person reproaches himself all his life for having acted badly towards another, giving him a lot of trouble, pain and tears. Most likely, he really acted disgustingly, for which he should be ashamed. But this does not mean at all that because of this you need to endlessly torment yourself, poisoning the life not only for yourself, but also for those close to you. The very fact of realizing a bad deed is important.
Learning from memories of the past
Everything that happened to us in the past, good or bad, should not just disappear without a trace. Even if a person has a wonderful life, you should not relax, as everything can change in one moment.
As for unpleasant situations, then, all the more, you should always learn from them. Firstly, so that they do not repeat in the future, and secondly, so that in the future the question of how to get rid of negative memories of the past.
The past should become an invaluable experience for everyone. And if a person learns to use it wisely so as not to make or repeat mistakes, then he will be able to live, enjoying the present, and look confidently into the future.
But, unfortunately, there are not so many such people. The rest continue to step on the same rake, which leads them to the next vicissitudes of life, which return to them in unpleasant and unwanted memories.
Releasing negative thoughts about the past
First of all, in order to stop living in memories, you need to have a great desire and perception that this cannot continue like this.
To get rid of obsessive memories will help daily practical exercises and meditation:
- Choose the Right Mood. Every morning you need to start by listing everything positive and dear to your heart that is today.
- Conduct a psychological reception with water. If unpleasant thoughts and memories come into your head, you need to open the faucet and imagine how all the negativity flows into the sink along with the water.
- Let go of things from the past. If resentment and anger at the former loved one with whom you broke up pester you, you need to remove his phone number from your mobile phone, put it away or throw away his photos, gifts and things. It is better to destroy them, while freeing yourself from his invisible presence, or at least hide them away or give them to strangers.
- Change something in the environment and habits. Another good way forget about the bad - do something useful (visit perfect order in the house, buy new furniture or start repair), change environment(go to a fitness club, make new friends), transform your appearance (cut your hair or dye your hair a different color), and finally change jobs.
- Master meditation. This will help you learn how to relax your body and mind, soothe nervous system, focus your attention only on important and pleasant things.
- Take the lessons of fate. In order to let go of resentment and forgive offenders, you need to learn to be grateful for what you have. After analyzing all the events that have occurred in the past, you can find in them positive points. For example, how did they help creative development or developing yourself as a person.
As you can see, nothing special is required from a person. But still there is one important condition- laziness must be discarded, since laziness and stupidity are our two worst enemies. You should get rid of them first of all, otherwise nothing in life will change for the better.
The introduction of meditation to get rid of memories of the past
Meditation is the art of relaxation through concentration. No need to be scared. The initial practice is quite simple and involves concentration on sounds. Since many people perceive information better by ear, this method is very effective.
With the help of certain mantras, which are not difficult to find on the Internet, or meaningful phrases, you can protect yourself from negative thoughts. It is not bad when a person independently comes up with phrases for meditation according to his personal memories and phobias from the past, which he wants to get rid of.
It must be short and specific phrases, for example:
- I release my past. Repeating the phrase several times will make it easier to deal with the memories. It also acts as self-hypnosis.
- I am free from bad memories I control my own thoughts. This is the second step of purification. This is the only way to set yourself up, to open yourself to the outside world.
- I easily part with painful memories, forgive myself for mistakes in a past life. Yes, it's painful and difficult. But you can't bring back the past and you can't change it. So it's better to accept it as it is, let it go and avoid repetition in the future.
- I sincerely thank the past for the lessons and life experiences. Sometimes believers say that God will not give trials that a person cannot endure. Once it was destined to happen - there's nothing to be done. But you need to find the strength and survive the events.
- I only live in the present. Such a simple mantra teaches to perceive reality, to notice others, events that just happen, helps to escape from the abyss of sad memories.
- I love myself, my loved ones and all people. Yes exactly. Even if someone hurt you a lot, you should forgive them. And also to live with faith that this will not happen again.
At the same time, the psychological mood of a person is of no small importance. And if he pronounces healing formulas from the bottom of his heart, this can be the starting point for a new life without unpleasant memories of the past.
I would like to once again emphasize the well-known truth about the materiality of thoughts. Therefore, you need to repeat verbal phrases slowly, thoughtfully, many times and until you begin to feel favorable changes in your mind. Relief may not come immediately, so do not be upset ahead of time. Positive thoughts will surely begin to fill the brain, gradually displacing disturbing memories from consciousness.
The main thing in meditation is to learn to concentrate your attention on the spoken words. At first, a person's mind may be distracted by other thoughts. Therefore, it is necessary to return the consciousness to the repetition of the mantra or significant phrase trying to keep their attention as long as possible.
Why can't let go of memories of the past
Unfortunately, it also happens. It seems that a person understands everything, sincerely wants to change something in his life, tries to forbid himself to think about what has long passed, takes some steps for this, but he succeeds. Some kind of unknown inner strength holding on to those memories of the past and not letting them go.
There may be several options here. Either a person is cheating with himself, or the problem really sits so deep that he cannot get rid of it on his own. Then you need to contact a psychologist who will help you not only understand yourself, your feelings for past events and people, past grievances and failures, but also provide qualified psychological help, sorting out all the memories on the shelves: pleasant - closer, and tormenting the soul - away, in the bins.
Letting go of the past is very difficult, but possible. You need to constantly work on yourself in order to learn to forgive yourself and others, to let go of people with whom unhealthy relationships have developed, to get rid of bad habits and constant feeling guilt, do not regret what did not work out, do not invent unfulfilled desires. And those who managed to overcome their thoughts and feelings, turn weaknesses in strong, really regret not having done it sooner. After all, that inner freedom, healing power, peace of mind and happiness that they felt and acquired are incomparable with anything.
For some, the usual will be enough frank conversation, someone needs to apply special techniques, and in especially severe cases - to conduct lengthy trainings. How faster man understands that he needs the help of a specialist, the faster he will be able to recover from his "sick" thoughts, and the problem of how not to live with past memories will go into oblivion.
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The past should remain in the past and be only an invaluable source life experience. To stop living in memories of what is already irrevocably gone, you need to start living in the present. One has only to discard laziness!
