I will tell you a few secrets, using which you can stay in a person’s heart for a long time.
They are simple, and perhaps you even guess about it, but...
For some reason, not everyone manages to use them constantly and for their intended purpose.
Why? I will tell you about this in detail.
Secret 1:
Let's enjoy life.
A person who openly enjoys life becomes very attractive to others. People are drawn to them and flock to them like moths to a bright light. The only question is how to become such a person?
The fact is that we all interact with each other in order to exchange energy, no matter how trivial it may sound. But it is so…
That's why, desire to communicate with you, from other people directly depends from the amount of this energy YOU have. And, more specifically, in the sex center.
Why here?
Because it is the second chakra that is responsible for a person receiving pleasure from life, from everything that is in contact with him. Be it another person, an animal, a flower, a tree, or even an inanimate object...
If energy in this center few, you will not be able to enjoy life to the fullest and... Naturally, you can't this joy pass on to others, there is simply nothing to transfer - they themselves have little, only enough to maintain their own body.
But, if you fill your sexual center with energy in sufficient quantities, people will immediately feel it. There won’t be anyone indifferent – that’s for sure. The invisible light that you will begin to emit into the world around you will attract new fans and friends to you.
Secret 2:
Value yourself dearly.
People will value you exactly as much as you value yourself. And not a penny more.
It is very difficult to adequately evaluate yourself if you have problems with sexuality. More precisely with the quantity sexual energy.
People begin to experience difficulties communicating. This causes them to shrink, wear masks and behave awkwardly. Girls put on makeup heavily, men pump up their bodies, huge amounts of money are spent on clothes and image... But the result is most often zero. And our self-esteem begins to decline rapidly.
But because as a result of these actions, we we want to become what we are not at our core. We want to become sexy. But we do it somehow by artificial means. And it’s stupid to think that the people around us won’t feel this.
After all sexuality- this is such a thing, she either exists or she doesn’t.
Fortunately, this can be fixed. Just go the other way - fill yourself with sexual energy from the inside, not the outside. And then you won’t need to spend a lot of money on clothes and apply tons of makeup. And self-esteem and self-confidence will definitely increase.
Secret 3:
Recognize a person's importance and he will recognize yours.
Accept a person with all his shortcomings and advantages. I assure you that if you look closely, there will be many more of the latter than you might have noticed before.
Acceptance of another person, compliments and praise not only do not diminish your own merits, but also make you quite attractive in the eyes of others. Just say it all sincerely .
This will be easy to do. If you have enough sexual energy.
Remember sexy people Not only love give compliments and praise others. It seems that when they do this, they themselves enjoy what they say.
Learn the same, and you will never run out of people who want to chat. Work with sexuality, accumulate energy in the second center. It will bring you an unprecedented experience in life.
The funny thing is, when your sexual energy begins to increase, you will suddenly like those people who you previously did not like at all and even caused irritation. And all because you will see them, and the situations associated with them, from a completely different angle. Then the compliments will fly by themselves.
Secret 4:
We are sincerely interested in people.
Everything is even simpler here. A person with a well-developed sexual chakra does not need to make any effort. He does likes to communicate, and does it with pleasure. He is interested in people, how they act, think and speak...
Enough is spent on communication a large number of energy, so for people who have little of it, this is given with great difficulty.
Conclusion: pumping up the sexual chakra.
Secret 5:
Always smile.
A smile attracts and disposes. For sexy people, it simply doesn’t leave their faces. They don’t even need to make an effort - they just live like that.
Let's get sexier. We smile at everything we see around us: the world, people, nature, animals... If it’s still difficult for you to feel this, don’t be sad. Try to play this, using examples of how sexy people do it.
And, continue to increase your energy.
How to do it? I will tell you in the following articles.
Konstantin Dovlatov.
Ecology of consciousness. Psychology: Can we overcome something negative without resisting it? This question reveals one of those misconceptions that (sometimes throughout our lives) prevents us from getting what we want. We think that by resisting negativity we will free ourselves from it. But that's not true. In many cases, we gain the freedom to create what we want only after we have stopped resisting.
Can we overcome something negative without resisting it? This question reveals one of those misconceptions that (sometimes throughout our lives) prevents us from getting what we want.
We think that by resisting negativity we will free ourselves from it. But that's not true. In many cases, we gain the freedom to create what we want only after we have stopped resisting.
By resisting our desires, we only add fuel to the fire.
This way we are only making the situation worse. If we resist something that is undesirable for us, we become completely focused on it.; we act on the basis that external circumstances will not allow us to get what we want.
Let's look at a few examples. If at work we are against communicating with certain people, it certainly turns out that we are forced to deal with them on business all the time.
The more we fight some of our children’s habits, the stronger they become. If we, afraid of getting fat, resist the desire to eat dessert, we want it even more.
When we don't want to pay the bills, they just seem to overwhelm us. When we are in a hurry and are afraid of getting into a traffic jam, you can rest assured that we will be stuck in it for at least half an hour.
Because of this resistance, a person denies his inner strength create or attract what you want. Actively focusing on what we don't want weakens our ability to get what we want.
It's hard to be confident that you can make your dreams come true if you only think about what you haven't achieved. It is not easy to experience a state of inner happiness, love and peace if you try to look for it externally.
This does not mean that a person should ignore everything that he does not want. But instead of resisting negativity, you can use it.
Negative emotions will help you feel what you want and focus on it. The ability to create your future depends entirely on trying to do so and on life position person.
Don't resist, just acknowledge and let go. negative emotions, and then attention will turn to what you want.
Resistance reinforces the belief that we cannot get what we want. We automatically begin to accumulate signs of our own powerlessness and eventually lose touch with our creative potential.
We create what we believe in. H The human mind is much more powerful than most people think. 90% of what happens in life is caused by our thoughts, and only 10% by our actions.
A person who believes that he can have more, but cannot achieve what he wants, should take a closer look at his experiences.
And then he will certainly see that deep down he does not believe in his success. On the contrary, by continuing to believe in what you want in the most hopeless situations, a person strengthens his faith and beliefs.
When you believe, challenges make you stronger and strengthen your faith.
We create what we believe in.
When a feeling of hopelessness takes over a person's self-confidence, he begins to unnecessarily resist the world.
Instead of accepting what he has and working to get what he wants, he spends all his energy resisting the existing situation.
When we resist another person or a situation, we give desire the wrong direction.
Instead of striving for calm and cooperation, we want to get rid of something. Instead of trying to complete the project, we spend great amount energy, avoiding work.
Instead of settling the relationship, we waste our mental strength in vain, hoping to change the behavior of our partners. We focus on what we don't want and think back to times when we didn't get what we wanted.
Instead, we should focus on what we want and remember the times we got it.
We resist our partners' behavior, feeling that they don't like us. Instead of demonstrating our friendliness to our colleagues and getting them interested, we wait for them to Once again will offend or disappoint us.
In any case, by resisting the situation, we waste energy ineptly and continue to get what we resist, without getting any closer to what we really want.
What we resist will stubbornly return.
You get what you focus on. The unwanted, fueled by your attention, only increases.
When you pay attention to something and experience strong negative emotions, you once again attract to yourself what you resist.
What you pay attention to grows in your life.
When you resist something, you continue to create it because you believe that it is impossible to get rid of it. The feeling of hopelessness has been the source of your resistance, and it will reappear if you believe that you cannot get what you want.
By resisting, you reinforce the belief that you cannot get what you want.
Imagine knowing that a check for a million dollars is coming in the mail in your name. In this case, you would pay any bills without resistance and would not be afraid to sign them.
You wouldn't want the bills to disappear. If you were confident that you had enough money, you would not resist the need to spend it.
Imagine that your partner is sick, but you know for sure that he will soon recover. Would you, having such information, drop everything you were doing and start personally caring for him?
You are not afraid that he will feel abandoned, you do not resist the illness and do not think that it is a heavy burden.
Your resistance fades away because you are confident that you will get what you want. Your confidence that everything will be fine will prevent you from falling into the trap of resistance.
With this understanding, it will also become clear that in order to achieve success, we need to give up the idea of resisting anything. The next step is to gain the confidence to get what you want. Nothing strengthens it more than the first success.
Achieving success is like a snowball rolling down a mountain. The longer it rolls, the bigger it gets.
Likewise, achieving even minor success strengthens your faith. Following him comes a new, more impressive success.
It will give you even more confidence. Your next success will increase along with it. Now you believe in yourself and are filled with enthusiasm. You just radiate positive energy and confidence!
Once a person has gained speed, he often continues to roll by inertia.
Once you understand this, you will be able to understand why it is so important to define your desires every day. If you make a wish and it comes true, you will feel a surge of strength from the knowledge that you are able to attract what you want into your life.
However, small miracles will never happen again if you stop feeling grateful for them.
Nothing contributes to success like success.
To achieve personal success, we need to feel and act in accordance with our true desires. Unfortunately, most of our daily aspirations are born precisely from the habit of resistance.
Such desires are not true. Instead of attracting what you really want into your life, false desires deprive you of energy and strengthen the belief that you are powerless to get what you want.
By focusing on what you don't want, you reinforce your belief that you are unable to get what you want.
Let's say you're stuck in a traffic jam. If you're in a hurry, you want the car to move as quickly as possible.
By resisting a traffic situation, you focus on what you don't want, thereby reinforcing your inability to get what you want. Most likely, you will intuitively prefer the lane in which cars move the slowest.
And even if you taxi onto a not-so-bad one, you’ll think that it’s the worst of all.
Why (for example, in a supermarket) the latest packaging the desired product always taken from you in front of your nose?
Why, when you are in a hurry and worried, do you stand in a line that barely moves? This is not an accident. There is clearly a pattern here.
When you are in a hurry and unbalanced, you will choose the slowest line.
If we are in a hurry, then at the supermarket we stand in line, which moves slower than everyone else.
Without being in harmony with your inner center, you will unconsciously (“intuitively”) choose the wrong path. By resisting circumstances, we only make the situation worse. By focusing on our unwillingness to wait, we will be forced to wait longer.
Why does the past repeat itself?
The above is another reason why it is so important to heal old wounds.
If you have had painful experiences in the past(for example, in business or personal relationships), then you will strive to avoid them again. Resistance to suffering may bring it again.
However, if you haven't been hurt before, you won't think much about the hurt and will naturally focus on what you want. This is what will be attracted into your life.
Resistance to painful experiences creates the likelihood of experiencing them again.
It is very difficult not to resist the bad things that happen. After a disaster has happened once, we naturally do not want it to happen again.
But by focusing on this reluctance, we, to a certain extent, again attract suffering. The more fully we have healed our past, the less we will be bothered by the shadows of the past.
Until we get rid of the pain associated with past events, some of their negative aspects will repeat and annoy us.
For example, if we passionately do not want to be alone, that is exactly what we will get. If we don't want to be rejected and ignored, this is exactly what will happen.
If we are terrified by the possibility of losing something, it will be lost. If we are depressed by the thought of an unloved job, it will remain a source of trouble.
If we simply cannot work with a certain person, we will have to deal with him all the time.
The more we don’t want something, the more to a greater extent it is attracted into our lives.
By learning to heal past wounds, we will allow the old pain to go away, and with it the subconscious expectation of its repetition.
From now on, we will be free to focus more on what we want. Our positive desires will increase to the extent that we were able to get rid of past grievances.
If you don't let go of your past, it will appear to you again and again. By resisting negative experiences, you will automatically attract situations that will cause unpleasant emotions.
Resistance not only prevents you from attracting what you really want, but also disperses your strength. It's like a hole in your love tank that keeps it from filling.
Your energy, instead of being consciously used for constructive purposes, flows out of it.
As an experiment, try noting all the negative thoughts and bad feelings that you verbally express during the day.
You'll be amazed how often this happens. But the “voiced” resistance is just the tip of the iceberg.
Negative statements reflect the true essence of resistance. Our true task is to heal the emotional experiences and sensations caused by it. Start by being aware of what you said.
Be careful what you say. When you gain confidence in creating your life, you will see that what you say comes true.
The power of your words is limitless. Especially if you express your true desires.
Game of resistance
Playing resistance can be fun. My twelve-year-old daughter Lauren and I play this sometimes. One day we go shopping together and just note all the negative statements each other makes.
Then we try to speak differently. Here are some examples of our statements:
I said, "Probably not here good place for parking, let's look somewhere else." I should have said, “Let’s see if there’s a good place to park nearby.”
We then drove to where we wanted to park and found a parking spot.
She said: “I hope we don’t have to wait long; I have so much homework.” Then she corrected herself: “I hope we can get it done quickly. I want to have enough time to do my homework.”
When it was time to leave the store, I said, “Your mom won’t like it if we’re late.” Together we reworked this phrase: “If we return home quickly, mom will be very happy.”
Near the house in the car I said: “Don’t forget to take your bag.” In a positive version it sounded: “We will now make sure that we have taken everything.”
Stop resisting your partner
The same principles apply to interpersonal relationships. Don't focus on your partner's actions and emotions that seem negative to you.
Focus on the person's behavior and reactions that you like. For example, on the desire to hear from him what a wonderful person you are.
Remember the times when your partner gave you high praise. Feel like, “I want him to love me and think I’m great.”
Instead of thinking, “He never helps me with anything.” Remember how he once helped you, relive your feelings at that moment. Then express your desire to experience these emotions again and think: “I want my partner to help me.”
If you shift the emphasis in this way, ninety percent of problems will find their solution. By defining your positive desires, you awaken your inner belief in the possibility of achieving what you want.
When your faith becomes stronger, what you want will begin to happen.
If you make wishes with an affirmative accent, you thereby contribute to their fulfillment.
When communicating with people, try to address them in an affirmative manner and avoid expressing dissatisfaction, criticizing and demanding.
Try to get rid of expressions such as “no”, “you shouldn’t”, “you must”, “you never...”, “you always...”, “why don’t you...”.
Try - at least as a game - to find more positive way expressing your desires.
Instead of “We never go anywhere,” say, “Let’s do something different for the weekend.” Instead of saying, “You forgot to take out the trash again,” say it differently: “When you’re in last time did you take out the trash? The bucket was full, so I took it out myself.”
If you ask for something more, do not verbally condemn, do not shame, do not blame. Everything will work out if you use a light tone: as if at the table you are asking your partner to hand you a butter dish.
There is no need to doubt that he will hear you.
If you approach your partner thinking that he is deaf, then he will not hear you.
If you are opposed to some actions or moods, then at the moment when your partner is in a good mood, briefly and friendly ask him for what you want, and then patiently insist on it.
If necessary, ask again, but each time as if you were doing it for the first time. After several requests, your partner will realize that he did not give you what you wanted; at the same time, he will be grateful that you do not get on his nerves.
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The latter circumstance will allow him to overcome his own negative emotions towards you. Not only will he not reject you, but he will have an additional incentive to do something else for you.
The same approach applies to all areas of relationships: in the office, school and home.
The power of memory
Remembering good things builds your confidence, just as negative experiences build resistance to life. If I really want something to happen, then I remember happy events of the past. published
You probably know those people who seem to be so charming that everyone without exception likes them. Amazing property personality, usually called charisma, is difficult to define, however, this does not mean that this mysterious quality cannot be developed in oneself. There would be a desire! To help you, we have compiled a list of actions that will support and strengthen your charisma and self-confidence.
1. Master the “art of intimacy”
"Proximity" is the most important aspect charisma. Essentially, this is the ability to show your interlocutor that all your attention is focused on him.
In fact, the art of intimacy emphasizes one simple thing, which you should always remember when developing charisma: you are in the background here.
When you think of charisma, you can think of it as an attempt to, as they say, “present yourself,” to make a competent self-presentation. However, the paradoxical secret of charisma is that the main task here - not to trumpet everyone about your wonderful qualities, but to make people feel great next to you.
True charisma is directed not inward to the individual, but outward, into the world. True, we all love ourselves very much, and we like to talk about ourselves. The people in your life who you find likable and charismatic are the ones who allow you to be yourself and talk about yourself. So be more positive, put your ego aside and turn all your attention to your interlocutor.
It's really very simple.
Pay attention to every word coming out of the other person's mouth. Imagine that you are watching an interesting film, or reading a book, and gradually getting to know the main character better. The most important thing here is to listen and not think about what you will say when he finishes.
2. Develop a sense of self-confidence
Confidence can be an excellent springboard for strengthening charisma, but this quality also needs to be worked on. On the one hand, you don't want to appear arrogant. On the other hand, you don’t want to seem timid and constrained.
It all comes down to feeling good about being yourself. We have described several simple techniques to help build confidence in.
3. Master the art of conversation
First of all, decide what you want and don't want to say. When in the middle of a conversation there is something that makes you embarrassed, the tone of the conversation may change or even the conversation will simply end if your interlocutor is tactful and does not want to make you awkward.
And also good conversationalists They know how to raise others to their level. Talk and share your experience. Use humor, refer to quotes, read the book “How to become an interesting conversationalist.”
And last but not least: the ability to ask questions. People like to be heard. The one who asks the questions usually controls the meeting. Plus, asking the right question can reveal more about the depth of your knowledge than annoying boasting.
The ability to ask the right questions There are many books on this subject, but we want to highlight Just Say No! by Jim Camp. This author built one of the most efficient systems negotiations, one of the main aspects of which is the ability to ask the interlocutor the right questions.
Imagine yourself as a talk show host. These shows are hosted by nice, charismatic, charming and funny people, but most the time they do nothing but ask questions. Because charisma is mostly about listening to others, not about talking about yourself.
4. Practice effective eye contact
Sometimes good eye contact helps in communication better than any words. Proper eye contact can show that you are listening, that you are interested, and that you understand the other person as a person.
A gaze directed at the floor or a wandering gaze shows that the interlocutor is not interesting to you and that your attention is focused on something else.
Training eye contact is difficult, but still possible. Try holding eye contact for a second longer than usual. How does this make you feel? How does your interlocutor feel? Remember: there are plenty of opportunities to try this. Train on waiters, bartenders, cashiers.
Over time, you will begin to get a feel for what works and what doesn't.
When installing eye contact what matters is how long it lasts. If you are unsure of yourself and don't know how to start, try focusing on the color of your interlocutor's eyes. Try to notice the eye color of every person you interact with and make it a habit. This is the type of eye contact that will help you appear more confident without sounding weird.
5. Use your body to express emotions
Use own body to emphasize and enhance sensations and emotions: gesticulate, smile, be animated, but don’t overdo it: don’t spin around like a spinning top. Simply emphasize your positive emotions from communication with facial expressions and gestures.
And a few more words about bad types of expressive behavior. For example, nodding is a great way to show someone that you are listening. But too many nods are bad; it’s better to do nothing at all. Because in this case, the interlocutor will quickly understand that you are only trying to show that you are listening, after which he will feel stupid.
6. When in doubt, “mirror”
“Mirroring” is the easiest way to add charisma to yourself. Match the other person's demeanor and level of expression and you will see how well they begin to respond to it. You don't need to agree with everything your interlocutor says or does, just try to behave and act the way he does.
You can also try "mirroring" useful qualities that you meet with others. In general, when it comes to charisma, observing others becomes the main tool and success factor. Take a closer look and adopt. After all, this is how children learn basic life skills from adults - through copying.
Feel free to use this method. Copying can even give you additional confidence: by feeling “in someone else's shoes,” you will automatically look at the world from a slightly different angle.
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In our world there are people filled with cheerfulness and energy, but they do not have bad mood. They are almost always friendly, cheerful, sweet and charming, and this despite the fact that they have not achieved success in their careers, they do not have large incomes, influential acquaintances, or a beautiful and attractive appearance. Even those people who are always skeptical of others in life notice that they also fall under their magnetic influence. This article will talk about how to become charming and learn to attract people.
Life is so cheerful and positive people always full various events and fun surprises. There are always a lot of them around different people, because charming personalities can give you any advice, calm you down and cheer you up, listen to you and cheer you up. With such people you are never bored or sad. Those who often arrive alone and cannot find friends constantly wonder: “How do they always manage to be so charming and easily attract people to themselves?”
Everything is very simple. Such individuals always do not pay attention to surrounding opinions and do not expect others to approve their actions. Their main character trait is determination; if they have something in mind, they will see it through to the end, no matter what the cost. These people do not have the gift of attraction, they simply adhere to their behavior, which any person can achieve.
7 tips and tricks on how to learn to be charming and easily attract people to you
- Treat others with respect. Always treat all people with dignity, kindness and respect. It doesn’t matter who it will be - the director of a large company or a simple janitor. Remember that if you treat at least one person badly, this will immediately cause a negative impression on the people around you. Confident people know that they are no different from everyone else, so they show respect to everyone without exception.
- Never use social manners. Arrogant and proud people often start empty and unnecessary small talk. This way you will 100% alienate those around you. Charming people will never do this. They will question their interlocutor with sincerity and interest, which allows them to give advice and the necessary answers to questions, without getting into the soul and not annoying.
- Distinguish between personal opinion and facts. Naturally, in a social circle of diverse people, conversations can begin in various topics and even very controversial. To easily attract people to you, you need to be extremely careful in your statements. Of course, it’s not worth avoiding such conversations on the tenth road, just as it’s not worth taking sides all the time. It is best to express your opinion, but at the same time clearly emphasize that this is your personal opinion and that it is different for everyone and you should respect them.
- When showing interest in people, don't just talk about yourself. One of the most simple ways How to become charming and easily attract people to you is to have a sincere interest in their personality. When you communicate with your interlocutor, do not talk only about yourself and your positive qualities, ask your friend about his life, plans for the future, what he is interested in. This approach to a person will endear him to you.
- Always be honest and open. What people respect others most is loyalty, honesty, kindness and openness. Never be a hypocrite and don’t put on someone else’s mask. It is best to tell a person the truth in his face than to throw mud at him and gossip behind his back. Charming people are always open and sincere.
- Treat people the way they want to be treated. Many people have a very erroneous belief that you need to treat a person the way you would like to be treated. Everyone is different, and treating everyone the same is simply not right. Some are too vulnerable, others are proud, some are always cheerful, and some are, on the contrary, gloomy, but each of them would like to be treated and acted exactly as they want. A charming person immediately knows how to recognize him, so he easily adapts to him.
- Learn to smile and enjoy life. If you want people to communicate with you and be attracted to you, stop frowning and showing dissatisfaction. People around them love cheerful, joyful and kind personalities; they will never exchange them for angry and sad people. After all, a smiling person and his joyful laughter always evoke a response, therefore, they will want to communicate with such people.
Naturally, charming and nice people have their own problems, but they take them lightly and try to solve them immediately. You can also easily attract people and become charming by taking our advice. Subscribe to blog updates and receive new ones useful tips: Visit the website, where there will be a lot more useful and necessary information.
How to attract the people you need? 10 psychological techniques.1. Response to kindness, or the Benjamin Franklin effect
The story goes that Benjamin Franklin once wanted to win over a man who didn't love him. This man was looking for a rare book that Franklin had. Benjamin found out about this and lent him this rare book, and when it returned to the owner, Benjamin simply thanked him. As a result of this, they became best friends.
As Franklin said: “He to whom you have once done good is ready to return you with good much greater than yours...”
2. Ask for more than you want
This effect is very simple and akin to trading on the market. The effect almost always works. You are obliged to increase your demands if a person needs you. At first you will most likely receive a refusal. Don't resist, but give it time. In 95% of cases, the person interested in you will respond again and offer a little less than you requested, but at the same time guaranteed higher than what you initially expected.
3. An imposed desire to help
The reception is very similar to the previous one. In order to awaken in a person an independent desire to help you, ask him once for something that he definitely will not agree to. Having received a refusal, you have created for yourself a person who considers himself obligated to you. Most likely, he will turn to you more than once on his own with a desire to help, because inside he will have a feeling of guilt.
3. A person's name is like a magic sound
Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, believes that using someone's name when speaking is an incredibly powerful argument. A person's name is the most pleasant sound for him. By saying his name in a positive context, you grow significantly in his eyes.
4. Flattery is everywhere
She is everywhere and always. To begin with, it is important to understand that flattery must appear natural, otherwise it can do more harm than good.
If you flatter someone who has high self-esteem, then you have more chances of luck. Such people love themselves and love flattery, but they do not notice it. And those who have low self-esteem see any positive assessments as a dirty trick and a deception.
5. Mirror
If you want to please a person, copy him. People with such a skill are considered chameleons in society; from the outside it is noticeable how they constantly change and adapt to each individual. However, this skill must be at least slightly developed in order to attract the people you need.
The work of parody actors is based on this principle. All the celebrities who have been parodied on TV are often good friends these actors.
6. Ask for mercy from the tired
When someone is tired, they are more receptive to all requests. The reason for this is that a tired person becomes tired not only physically, but also mentally. If the boss is tired, then it’s easy for him to allow you to finish it tomorrow, but you must finish it without fail and with high quality. This will give you a little respect in the eyes of your boss. After all, you kept your word.
7. Start asking for small things
It's simple, ask a little at the beginning, and they will give you a credit of trust. According to this principle, people become dependent on social movements. For example, at first you are asked to support an action against deforestation, you support it, then again and again. It’s a small thing, but you are ready to give more. Are you ready to support an action against deforestation in distant Tanzania or join the Green Party and make contributions.
8. Don't correct people when they're wrong.
Carnegie also wrote in his famous book that you should not poke your nose at a person’s obvious mistake immediately after you have found it. If you want to change a person’s point of view, then approach this carefully. Even if in front of you is a loser who blames anyone but himself for his troubles, you should not shout in your face. Agree with him on this moment and gradually try to change his point of view. Otherwise, you risk becoming enemy number one.
9. Repeat phrases and expressions the right people
This principle is akin to the “chameleon” principle, when a person, with facial expressions and gestures, repeats the person with whom he is interested in communicating. Words can be soothing to the ear if they sound like an echo. It is necessary to pronounce what a person has already said, what he heard inside his head.
10. Nod of the head
Scientists have found that when people nod while listening to someone, they are more likely to agree with them. They also discovered that when someone nods in front of them, the person parrots them back. Thus, the nod stimulates the listener's agreement. Everything is based on our favorite principle of imitation... 
2. Act as if you are already happy and you will actually become happier.
3. Don't criticize, don't judge, don't complain.
4. If you want to find happiness, stop thinking about gratitude and ingratitude and indulge in the inner joy that self-giving brings.
5. Remember that your interlocutor may be completely wrong. But he doesn't think so. Don't judge him.
6. Know how to take the position of another person and understand what HE needs, not you. The whole world will be with the one who can do this.
7. If a person tries to use you for his own purposes, cross him out from among your acquaintances.
8. If fate gives you a lemon, make lemonade out of it.
9. Never try to settle scores with your enemies, because by doing so you will do yourself much more harm than them.
10. Act like General Eisenhower: never think for a minute about people who are unpleasant to you. 
