And by perception. For some, the problem that arises passes quickly and by, but for others it touches the soul and worries. Everything begins to fall out of hand, constant screams and breakdowns towards loved ones and dear people. As a result, relationships become bad, and sometimes even worse. And then it begins to seem that everything is set only against you. This makes you even more angry, aggressiveness and uncertainty appear. And while some are ruining themselves, others are living calmly and enjoying life.
Even if you have some tragic event in your family, problems with work, your personal life is not going well, etc., you should not always reproach yourself for something. This is a life that brings more than just good moments. Learn to rejoice in what is now, and not what once was or will be. Everything in life comes and goes. All the negativity will also pass someday.
The main thing is not to sit still, but move forward, overcoming all the difficulties along the way. Do what interests you and gives you pleasure. Take a break and make other people feel good, but under no circumstances take it out on them. Life is too short, sometimes there is not even enough time to correct your mistakes.
If on soul bad, then give someone joy. Go outside and give small child candy. You will see how much sincere happiness comes from one little sweetness. It will become much easier for you. If you love shopping, then go and buy yourself new thing. If you can't live without Japanese food, then treat yourself to a trip to a restaurant. Problems and adversity will sooner or later go away or be forgotten. Search pleasant moments in every day and minute. Just live for yourself, for the sake of your loved ones. Difficulties make people stronger, more experienced and wiser. If you offended someone, then ask for forgiveness. Fix minor mistakes that you can fix now. Don't put it off until later, because... it may no longer exist.
And finally, lie down on the sofa, turn on good and favorite music, analyze your life. Understand what is stopping you and fix it. Remove the burden from your soul. If you don't do this, you may regret it for the rest of your life. And give people joy and happiness. And everything will definitely come back to you.
Learn to enjoy the little things.
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- bad at heart
Sometimes problems and troubles pour in as if from a cornucopia. It seems that life's difficulties will never end. It is not surprising that only sad thoughts come to mind, and self-confidence disappears. To get out of the “dark streak”, you first need to regain your good spirits and positive attitude.
It happens that no matter where you look, everything is bad. You give up, you don’t want to do anything, your soul is sad and, as luck would have it, your friends don’t call, work is a mess, and the television on TV is a complete nightmare. And what to do in such a situation? How to get out of this state? We are offering to you a number of tips and we hope you will find the answer for yourself what to do when everything is bad.
1. Remember, absolutely every person can change their life.
All you need is desire. And you need to start with your own thoughts. If you constantly think only about the bad, it will come to you. You have heard the phrase many times that thoughts are material. What does this phrase mean?
2. It is not enough to just think about good things, because the word is also material, so you need to talk about good things. With friends, at home, at work, say that life is getting better, everything is just fine. If your acquaintances begin to discuss the topic in front of you: “where is this world heading,” do not support this discussion. After all, you know that everything will be fine, life gets better every day.
3. Don’t try to drown all your problems with alcohol.. They will only increase. In addition, you will lose your health and a lot of money. The same goes for smoking. This is a direct path to permanent illness.
4. I can advise you to go in for sports: it gives positive emotions and health. It is not necessary to achieve records, just a regular jog, swimming pool, morning exercises. It not only invigorates the body, but also strengthens the spirit. After this, you will not want to think about the bad, decide how to overcome depression.
5. Love always changes life for the better. She brings a sea of positivity and happiness into our lives. This bright feeling turns our lives upside down, inspires us to achieve feats and achieve success. How can there be depression if you love and are loved?
6. It’s not true that you can’t help your grief with tears. Sometimes it is enough to cry when your soul is bad to see life in a new light, to understand that it is not over yet, that there are other interests in life.
7. Try to look at your situation impartially.. Is she really that sad? Look around how many people around you have it much worse. But they continue to live, rejoice, and fight.
8. When everything is really bad, you really want to withdraw into yourself, not see anyone, not communicate with anyone. This is the wrong way. On the contrary, be among people who can listen to you and ease your suffering.
9. Stop feeling sorry for yourself: many people have it worse than you. Take action. This is the only way to change the situation. Or start a new life.
10. Don’t be shy to ask family or friends for help.. For any person, timely support can be very important. It will help solve a lot life problems and find a way out of any situation.
When everything is bad, shitty, difficult, painful, etc. and so on. I want to talk about this.
In such a state, in such situations, in fact, there are always 2 options for the development of events.
Option 1.
A lot of people, when in reality everything is very bad, shitty, painful, terrible, difficult, etc. and so on. they commit suicide, that is, they hang themselves, jump from bridges, throw themselves under trains, drown themselves in alcohol, become addicted to drugs, kill themselves, etc. and so on. This is the position when a person gives up.
The position when a person loses under the conditions of natural selection. All. His battle is over.
Why battle? Because if you haven’t understood yet, in order to survive in this world, you need to fight. If you don't fight = you will lose/die out = hence the expression: the battle is over.
Option 2.
In spite of everything, you fight, cling to life, solve problems, difficulties, questions, try, make every effort and no matter how difficult, painful and hard it is = move forward.
This is the real position strong personalities who are not going to give up so easily, lose to natural selection and end up in the evolutionary trash heap.
The easiest thing to do is just give up. Anyone can do this. Therefore, option 1 is weak, a loser. But getting out of the ass when everything is: It’s difficult. Badly. It sucks. Hurt. Tears. It's a total mess inside. Emptiness. State of darkness. I don't want anything. Severe depression. Apathy. Weakness. Dejection. Sadness. Life is pain. Etc. bullshit. and change everything in the opposite direction = this is already a strong, active, practical position.
When you move forward and only forward = and change your life, your current situation, take concrete actions to improve everything, and don’t sit still and whine about how bad everything is, how fucked up everything is and so on or something else - you jump under trains and shit like that.
That's what the 2nd option is. This is what a strong and active position is. Male position!
Everyone decides for themselves what position to take; I just think out loud.
In the end - natural selection - and it always puts everything in its place.
But! As you understand, I personally have an unambiguous position on this question - you need to get out of your ass if you are already in it, you need to change something, your situation, correct, adjust, take action on what doesn’t suit you or what worries you, worries you, hurts you, etc.
Understand the main point: in life, anything happens, this is life.
And good, beautiful, wonderful, and incredibly beautiful-wonderful, etc. and so on.
And bad, not very good, and terrible, and regrettable, and painful/bad/sad, etc. and so on.
It doesn’t happen that you move upward like a string and everything is always fine with you. No. I'm like that at least, Don't know. Life = like a wave. Draw a wave, now, with your finger in the air.
And you will understand that there is a peak (rise) and there is a decline (fall), there is no such thing that the peak is eternal...
Therefore, difficulties, problems, failures, pain, anxiety, experiences when it sucks, etc. and so on. = this is an absolutely normal process inherent in absolutely all HOMOSAPIENS on planet Earth.
Any stressful situation, stress, anxiety, worries, pain, suffering, etc. = in fact = makes you stronger and stronger inside, spiritually, every time. It was not without reason that I once said that personality develops very strongly and quickly when it is bad, painful, not good, when it suffers.
But! What is important in all this...
Your inaction is your main enemy.
All these, how can I not give up, when it’s bad, it hurts, what should I do? what to do? I can’t anymore, if everything is bad, terrible, painful, tell me, help, motivate me, and so on = loser crap.
I was always surprised by such questions, worldviews, etc. Do you know why?
Because if you are not happy with something, something in your life does not suit you (you feel bad, hurt, not good, sucks, you don’t like something, you suffer, suffer, etc., etc. .) = you need to change this, take steps, in the right direction to set everything up the way you want.
And it all depends on who? Right! From you. Himself. And all these motivate me. Help. What to do? What should I do? How not to give up? Etc. = it’s all crap, apparently it’s not so bad for you, it sucks, it hurts, because if you wanted to change everything, you would change it and change it. Otherwise, if you don’t want to, then sit in the ass.
Whining, killing yourself, complaining, not doing a damn thing, giving up, jumping under bridges and killing yourself, etc. will not give you the desired result. It won't do a damn thing. It won't get any better. Every time I find myself in situations like this, I repeat to myself that if I give up, I won’t get better. Therefore there is only option 1.
Do you know who's the best? goal-oriented person in the world? Someone who wants to shit. Think about it somehow.
You can often hear, that everything will work out, that everything will be fine, that forget it, that everything will pass, time, etc.
The point I want to convey to you. It won't fucking be good. Nothing's going to get better. And so on. If you don't do something about it, then everything will be as it is. The simplest things are the most difficult to understand. If you don’t do anything, nothing fucking will happen, everything will be the same.
Answering all these: what to do when everything is bad, shitty, what to do? It's simple. You either stay in the ass (give up, lose) and whine there forever, ahh, help, everything is bad, life is pain, women are whores, the country is not the same, everything is not the same, or you kill yourself there or change the situation to the right (better) side. All.
All. In this life. In your life. Depends on yourself.
It’s good, of course, when you have a family, close people, good wife, husband, or just a girl/man nearby when you are together, helping each other, going through everything together, etc. and so on.
But! I want to get the point across that you need to solve what doesn’t suit you and improve your life.
Start taking control and managing your life. Start solving your problems Right!
Manage your life...
Not happy with your material wealth? Start thinking about how to improve it and improve it. Don’t sit on your ass at a job where you get pennies, whining and complaining, from morning to evening, without changing a damn thing.
Not happy with your appearance? Start working on it. Sign up for Gym, swimming pool, wherever you want, go to a salon there, I don’t know, for some kind of procedure, buy new clothes, etc.
Do you miss feelings and love, your (same) girl next to you? OK. For example, start looking for a girl. Come outside. Meet me. Communicate. Just not with just anyone - as long as it is, but with those - who you really like, because your goal is to find yourself a good, worthy girl who will make you happy, with whom you will share your life, grief and joy, etc. and not with whom you fuck and you will break up or something like that. Understand? And vice versa, for girls, with men.
Do you lack emotions in general? Start doing something to receive these emotions. Jump from a parachute, bungee jump, meet a girl, ride a motorcycle, ride a fast car, shoot with a machine gun, pistol, go to another city, country, travel, well, in short, you can give a million examples.
Well, etc. and so on. on any question = you can write it all down. Do something.
About natural neurotransmitters (hormones)
In our HOMOSAPIEN body there are a lot of substances present and working (acting) to improve our well-being, for example: dopamine, serotonin and many others.
There are also substances present and working (acting) to worsen our well-being, for example, corticoliberin and cortisol.
I won’t list all the substances, I just want to convey the essence to you. In our body (organism), nothing happens for nothing. All substances that are produced do so for the sake of something (that makes sense). Although sometimes we are people and don’t see this meaning and don’t understand it, believe me, it still exists...
Let's look at some examples now. Look. Dopapin is a process. That is, for example, when you are caring for a girl, dopamine is produced in your body, it encourages you to continue the “process” with this girl, it improves your condition, gives you a buzz, pleasure.
That's why, when you meet a girl, you start to feel crazy about yourself = you feel great.
Serotonin is the result. That is, following the example above, imagine that you had sex with this girl (what you wanted). Accordingly, everything is euphoria, buzz, pleasure. Do you understand the chain?
These are natural drugs for us (humans). This is a way of encouraging us. Like a carrot, so that we do what is beneficial to evolution (to us personally). Understand? If there were no neurotransmitters = people would not strive for anything, because why, what is the point? And so it makes sense to get a natural dose (gingerbread), and the natural dose (drugs) are the same neurotransmitters (dopamine, serototin and others).
What I mean is that there would be no evolution if there were no neurotransmitters, so Mother Nature (our creators) took care of all this.
This applies to everything. There are many so to speak ARTIFICIAL DRUGS in our body. Yes, we are little people, in fact, fucking drug addicts, every single one of us, just few people understand why.
I'll give you a simple example now. Drug addicts - those who inject drugs, snort, etc. I don’t know. They receive the same drugs that our BODY produces, only attention: not in a natural way.
That is, natural way, this is when you, for example, achieve something (goals) and realize them.
That is, attention, remember, now, the formula is very simple.
You do certain things correct actions(I have already given examples above, for example, you meet girls, I don’t know, you reach heights in business, you improve your appearance, improve your material well-being, etc.) = certain neurotransmitters (hormones) are produced in your body = “gingerbread” = you feel good. All. End of the formula.
Well, for example, you’re about to seduce a girl, dopamine is released, you feel good, you’re high, you got what you wanted (s*x), well, generally euphoria (serotonin). Well, for example. You feel great.
And the drug addicts who inject themselves with all this, they receive hormones (substances) not deservedly (not for their achievements). Such people, they lose the motivation to do anything and even sometimes live, they just shoot up, fill themselves with alcohol, eat junk food(for example, sweets) and so on, and they get an undeserved buzz, pleasure, and even in large quantities and their life, so to speak, is going downhill.
This is a loser option, which belongs to option No. 1. when a person has essentially given up. Is not the right way. Wrong path (road) = leads a person into an unknown direction and does not lead to anything good. That's why I don't drink at all, don't smoke, don't use anything, for a healthy lifestyle, sports, etc. and I recommend the same to absolutely everyone, because in the conditions of natural selection = the fittest win, and these are those who move in the right direction.
Millions of people = drink too much, take drugs, snort, smoke, kill themselves, always complain, whine, are depressed, negative, and in short, follow the wrong path (road) which will lead them to the coffin, and that’s all.
What can I say about this? Well, what can you say? What do you want me to say?
Natural selection, in which the strongest and fittest individuals win.
In general, I hope you understand me. In order for everything to improve and become good, you need to do something about it. Let it be a little bit, let it be little by little, step by step, but do something, guys and girls.
And don’t whine, kill yourself, snort, get addicted to all kinds of shit, alcohol, drugs, etc.
If you do something = natural corresponding hormones (neurotransmitters) will be released in your body = they will encourage you (these are gingerbread cookies) = in the end = you will start to feel better, and everything will get better, everything will be fine. This is very simple formula, use it for good.
You won’t do anything = inaction = this also goes to option No. 1. Everything will be bad. The choice is yours.
I really hope that this article will help many people in difficult times, which can come to absolutely each of us, at any moment. That's all for me. Thank you for your attention.
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Before reading this text, I must warn you: deterioration in life does not occur overnight, they are the result of gradual and sometimes imperceptible processes for the brain deceived by illusions. It doesn't happen that way! and everything in life became dramatically worse. A person himself prepares the ground for this - he strengthens inadequate realities and unviable attitudes with faith, makes strategically erroneous decisions, ignores facts, etc. and so on.
First you need to understand and accept as an axiom one simple thing, which is that There are no unsolvable problems, there are unpleasant solutions. It is difficult to accept it, because in the minds of many people, a woman’s attitude toward the perception of reality, “what is true is pleasant,” “I close my eyes and all the bad things will disappear,” dominates in the minds of many people. It is with its elimination and eradication that the process of getting out of the ass into which a person has driven himself begins.
Next step– this is a sober look at reality. You cannot correct a situation / solve a problem without recognizing the facts. This is usually made difficult by the fact that the individual is accustomed to lying to himself. Freud also proved that most of our words and thoughts serve to hide the truth. First of all, from ourselves. It’s difficult to figure out your own lies and false interpretation of facts on your own, so smart people turn to those who know how to separate reality from bullshit for help.
In fact, after this step, we can consider that half the path has already been completed. Because an honest and conscious look at reality automatically puts everything in its place and a large (if not most) part of the problems falls off by itself. By the way, Allen Carr’s methods for overcoming drug addiction("most easy way quit smoking” and others).
Third step is decision making. It seems like a simple action, but it stalls in the swamp of childish infantilism generated by a woman’s upbringing. The average representative of society does not have the desire and ability to live independently, that is, to live freely - he is accustomed to others deciding everything for him: first his parents, then the school and college, then the authorities with the government and money, which the moneyphile-bred man in the street perceives as “universal.” problem solver,” they say, I’ll take it where it needs to be, I’ll pay and there’s no need to strain myself.
And this is where the mistake comes in, because active, that is, subjective life position ALWAYS involves the application of effort, and any effort requires a certain amount of tension. Otherwise, it turns out, as in that vulgar joke: “And what did you understand, Vovochka? - Don’t relax, otherwise you’ll #boot!” True, you also need to strain yourself mentally, and not like the horse Boxer from Animal Farm, who, in the situation of the onset of another ass, constantly said the same thing: “I will work even harder.” As you know, the horse ended badly - he was sent to a slaughterhouse and soap factory. Yes, you have to work not 18 hours, but with your head.
The degree of tension, by the way, directly depends on the steepness of the solution. You won’t have to work hard to fix or even slightly tint a leaky fence, but the result won’t be particularly beautiful and won’t be very durable. But for a small person with small goals, in general it is quite acceptable. To completely reconstruct a dilapidated house (if everything is really bad in life), all forces and resources must be concentrated into a fist. Well, of course, you need to know WHAT EXACTLY do. Since, as the classic bequeathed, “a specific analysis specific situation- that’s the essence, what alive soul Marxism."
In fact, the development and assistance in implementing a detailed strategy for overcoming the crisis is the subject of coaching and consulting work. Since this requires operations that are very problematic to do alone - take an honest look at yourself and your life from the outside, clarify your true goals and desires (understand your real, not fictitious purpose/vocation) and discard false ones, subject to critical analysis and revision of beliefs and the attitudes that previously guided me in life and which ultimately led to my ass (after all, our fate is neither more nor less, but the deployment over time of our unconscious attitudes and “game packages”). Well, and various other important things.
“Deceive the Emperor and cross the sea”
Another dissatisfied reader will grumpily say: so, they say, everything is bad, there is no health, life is not going well, debts, loans, no home, no work, in general, I don’t want to live, and then I have to spend a lot of money on the help of a trainer-consultant. I would like some free, effective advice.
Only here it’s free and effective advice, unfortunately, does not happen. For everything in life you have to pay. And often not with money (a virtual and renewable resource), but with much more expensive resources - time, energy, health...
There is this thing that I called "the theory of last money" and which has numerous confirmations in world practice (for example, the biography of the former poor man Peter Daniels or Edison Miranda, a homeless man who became a famous boxer). Its essence is to put yourself in a hopeless situation when “it’s either hit or miss.”
The fact is that any person always has money, even if he thinks that he doesn’t have it (here, as a rule, we are dealing with a perverted form of lying to oneself). The question is priorities. If survival is a priority, then all the money is spent on it. And a person will do only one thing all his life - survive. If the priority is a leap forward and development, then all his actions will be subordinated to these goals. Therefore, when a person invests all his money in himself, then he has no other acceptable options except to win.
The problem, however, is that the vast majority of people by upbringing have an unconscious ban on winning (hence the life-survival "victim philosophy"). But this can also be treated. The main thing is to overcome your own fear. Fear of finally becoming yourself, strong and free!
A person does not immediately realize the moment, they say, I feel bad, I have to understand what to do when you feel bad… Gradually, like a snowball, trouble is layered on top of trouble, trouble on top of trouble. Similar to similar.
And there comes a moment when not only everything is bad, but everything is very bad in life. And the most difficult thing is that at this moment we are at the minus point of our energy.
We must clearly know what to do if everything is bad, and by an effort of will DO IT. Rescue of drowning people - remember, whose business is it?..
What you will learn from the article:
What to do if everything is bad and you decide to change it?
Sometimes I receive letters describing one or more life tasks (for a person = problems). You can’t answer in one letter how to set this up. So I'll draw it for you general scheme, a universal one that will help you move. And then you will listen to yourself, receive tips from above, notice them and follow your path, but in a more positive and pleasant scenario than before.
What to do when you feel bad: 5 steps towards a new life, no matter what point of minus you are at
Everything is bad - you chose it
1.you are here because you chose misbehavior once upon a time a long time ago.
You thought wrong, felt wrong, acted wrong.
What are we doing? We begin to think, feel and act correctly. In a nutshell: at any moment in your life, stop and listen to yourself - what is there inside?
Pain, resentment, anger, irritation, anger - are they all bad? In three years you will receive all this multiplied many times over!
Joy, harmony, tranquility, holiday and anticipation of the holiday, love, faith, tenderness? In three years you will be a completely different person, with a different life - even happier and more joyful!
This rule works for everyone! Even if it seems to you that there is no reason for joy, squeeze this joy out of yourself. Gradually it will be born within you! Smile intentionally, it will help. And remember - this is your job! The first point is mandatory!
Book to read: 78 steps to understanding reality transurfing, Vadim Zeland
2. according to your personal luck, most likely, your home reflects it (as well as destiny written from above).
If we change our home, we change our destiny and change our mood, our personal luck (it works the other way around, in all directions).
I'm not advocating moving. Without a specialist 99% that new house will reflect and reproduce the same problems!!!
I urge you to look around and soberly assess the extent of the “tragedy.” I hope your place is clean and free of trash. If you still sin with this, then materials and
When cleanliness becomes total, pay attention.
And gradually your “everything is very bad” transforms into the magical “everything is very good!”
Book to read: any book with the word Feng Shui in the title by Natalia Pravdina
When I feel bad, I meditate
3.it’s better to layer good positive thoughts and emotions on a clean base.
Therefore, clean your head too (by the way, when you clear out your living space, you may be surprised to find that your brain has become cleaner, you can breathe easier and fewer fears/anxieties are born. I wish you to do all this in a complex manner. The effect will be amazing!
Silence is necessary to clear your brain, especially inside. Meditation will help you. Just once a day, to begin with, for at least 5-10 minutes, freeze your thoughts in nothing-thinking. Practice, you won’t succeed the first time. But this task in my life is a must-do when I feel bad!
Book to read: The Power of the Moment by Eckhart Tolle or any book by Osho
What to do when everything is bad - understand how good it is for you
4.you must be clearly aware of what you ultimately want to achieve.
“I don’t want to live like this” doesn’t work. It works “I want to live like this, like this and like this!”
This is also work. What are we doing? We find time alone with ourselves, take a notebook and pen, and start writing.
What to do when everything is bad? Describe one day in your life two years from now. How does it go? Who is he with and where? What are you wearing? What is your relationship and with whom? How many friends do you have? What is your income? What do you feel?
Emphasis on feelings and sensations!!! We run emotions through everything we write. And if something inside doesn’t respond, we cross it out and write again. As a result, you will get a perfect day when everything suits you.
“I feel bad” echoes in the body
5.our desires and goals will not please us if our body is not in order.
Because in this world we came to gain experience through the body. And if, for example, I feel bad mentally, physical pain will not take long to occur...
From this day on, every day you choose to do at least one pleasant or useful little thing for your vessel of the soul: get a facial massage, treat a tooth, drink vitamins, fresh air take a walk, make a mask, do yoga, do exercises, dance for a couple of minutes while the potatoes are fried!!!
Your body is your business. Not doing well? This means that somewhere you have deprived yourself of the opportunity to have a well-groomed and healthy body.
If in the evening it turns out that you have not completed this point, you get up and go get a facial massage!
