Very often, growing up becomes synonymous with boring, monotonous work, because of which there is no time for interests and hobbies. The result of such an "exchange" is predictable, but very sad: boredom, constant fatigue, anxiety and depression.
Unfortunately, many adults do not understand the real reasons for their depression and anxiety. They believe that fatigue comes from a large number activities and try to focus on one activity while ignoring all others.
On the example of Winston Churchill, his life creeds and advice, you can see that the point is not in the number of classes, but in their quality: in more interesting work, in duties that satisfy you, and in opportunities to create something.
And now more about what the great prime minister advised and how he diversified his life.
Winston Churchill (1874–1965)
Politician, consummate speaker, Prime Minister of Great Britain from 1940 to 1945, journalist, writer and laureate Nobel Prize on literature. In a BBC poll in 2002, he was named "the greatest Briton in history".
Work like a slave: act and find your calling
Find a job that brings you pleasure (find without self-digging)
Churchill divided the "sensible, industrious and useful" part of the population into two parts:
... the first, for which work is work, and pleasure is pleasure; and the second, for which work and pleasure are one and the same. Most people belong to the first group and receive their compensation. Long hours in an office or factory are rewarded with livelihood and desire for various pleasures, which often take very simple and modest forms.
But Fortune's favorites are people from the second group. Their life passes in natural harmony, they never have enough set hours work. Every day is a holiday for them, and the usual holidays, on which they can’t work, are perceived as an annoying hindrance that prevents them from returning to their calling.
Now young people simply hate being in the first group and are eager to join the ranks of the second. But so far, all the advice on how to do this - look around and find your passion before choosing a profession or life's work - is just empty talk.
It is much better to seek your calling, completely surrendering to some passion. It is not a fact that it will turn out to be your calling, but this way you will more likely find the way to it. So it was with Churchill.
He developed deep love to English language and reading from early years which heralded a career as a writer. But other areas were not given to him so easily - he had to try hard to keep up in other subjects at school, and instead of university he attended a military academy.
His writing career did not begin in early age, and all because of the real passion of his whole life - war. Churchill wanted to go to the front in any military conflict, and when he was not allowed to participate in battles as a military man, he got a job as a correspondent for a newspaper in order to still get into the arena of hostilities.
When the public liked his reports about what was happening, Churchill decided to write a book about his campaigns. And already in the process, he realized that the work of the writer brings him much more pleasure than a military career. Thus he found his calling.
That is, Churchill did not sit at home, endlessly reflecting and searching for his vocation. He was engaged in what captured him and brought him pleasure, and through this he found his true calling, and he is not alone.
Many people have found their life's work simply by trying what interests them at the moment.
There is another cool way to find your calling, thanks to which Churchill found the second passion of his life - politics.
Instead of diving inward, contemplating what to do, he turned his attention to the problems that existed around him. At that moment, the problem was the lack of a sufficient number of honest politicians with fantasy. And he solved this problem by adding himself to the ranks of politicians.
Search actual problems helps you start your business. You find a problem and offer people a solution.
And more often than not, you begin to enjoy not at the very beginning of a career or the path that you have chosen, but already in the process of development.
The world belongs to those who act
When work really captures you, you do not notice how hours of hard work pass. And that's great, because without many, many hours of work, you will never reach your goals.
In any field you can find sort of "gurus" who promise you fast results for the minimum time. But all their tricks and ways will never lead you to something worthwhile. Yes, you can make some money using some hacks, but to create something reliable, valid (and legal), a few hours a week are not enough. This requires constant and hard work.
If you decide to create something worthwhile, whether it is your personal project or a career in some company, from time to time you will have to feel that you are incredibly tired, but you cannot finish, because this is your project and you are interested in doing it. If you do not have such moments, you are doing something wrong.
Whatever area you choose, the primacy in it will always belong to the one who is constantly acting, working and busy.
Even the work you love still feels like work.
You may get the impression that if you love your work, then it is perceived as entertainment and every day you spend fun and easy. If sometimes this is not the case, then you just chose the wrong job. This opinion is fundamentally wrong.
Even if you get a lot of pleasure from work, it does not begin to be perceived as constant entertainment.
Churchill always separated work and entertainment, considered them two very different things. A job you love is still a job, which means you don't jump out of bed every day with joyful anticipation.
And this is normal, because pleasure and satisfaction are found not only in games and fun, but also in challenges with one's abilities and overcoming difficulties.
Sometimes you even want to quit your favorite job.
Just because you love your job doesn't mean you won't ever have a "fuck it" thought, and it doesn't mean you don't want to quit sometimes and try something else.
Sometimes the tasks of writing something were not so easy for Churchill, on the contrary, it was unbearably difficult. When he had his own column, Churchill used to get into a terrible mood and show bad character traits, and when the deadlines were pressed, the stress became simply unbearable.
The more your work suits you, the less often you experience such feelings and experience moments when you want to run away and do something else. The bottom line is that there will always be moments like this.
Look for opportunities in your spare time
If you are currently doing something you hate most time) and want to build a new career, start by looking for opportunities in your free moments.
Churchill wrote his first book in three-hour breaks during his service in India. He was 23 at the time, and all of his military peers used that time to sleep or play cards. Churchill at this time remained alone and devoted his free hours to writing a book. The result of this decision was the beginning of his career in literature.
Many people started the same way: dedicated to a new interesting business any free minute, combined training or work in some company with work on their personal projects.
It is not necessary to drop everything and completely immerse yourself in the work that you consider your calling. At first, it will be quite possible to combine it with other activities that are no less important at the moment.
Keep a routine
Churchill had a very strict daily routine, which helped him achieve incredible productivity. Making and sticking to your schedule will help you too, especially if you have enough tasks.
Concentrate
Churchill was incredibly productive, and not so much because of the number of hours he worked, but because of the highest degree concentration. Lieutenant General Jan Jakob was simply amazed by his ability to focus on some business:
When his mind is occupied with a particular problem, he is constantly focused on it and no one can distract him.
Concentration helps to get a clear idea and purpose. Don't work for the sake of work, always set a goal for yourself. Churchill always set himself goals, such as writing a thousand words a day to set deadlines. And during the war, as Manchester wrote, "his attention was directed only to Hitler, to the exclusion of everything else."
Clearly know your goal, carefully plan your strategy, follow your plan - and victory will be yours.
Rule Like a King: The Great Role of Leadership
There is only one drawback in this approach: such a desire to preserve youth denies one of the important features childhood - the need to influence reality, to change something in this world.
When a child is just entering the time of childhood, he really likes to press the buttons of the switch that turns on the light. This is one of the first experiences when you influence something and feel your innate ability to change this world.
Growing up, people often forget about this ability and the satisfaction that comes from controlling reality. We turn into spectators who do not affect anything.
But every person still has this desire, an itch, which can only be soothed in one way - to accept obligations, since power lies in obligations.
If people refuse commitment and choose to remain children, they continue to "flip the switch", only now their switch is a computer mouse.
They can choose from menu items, but that's where their power ends. If there are not enough options on the menu, all that remains for them is to complain about life. Meanwhile, power, however strange it may seem, grants peace.
The leader, the one who controls the situation, is calmer than the one who simply obeys and is the follower.
Studies have shown that a military pilot experiences less stress during a flight by flying the aircraft on his own, and all because he is in control of the situation. Therefore, even if the responsibility resting on you is high, in your soul more peace than those who prefer not to take on any responsibilities.
Thus, the energy of youth is not preserved by avoiding obligations and responsibilities.
The most pathetic adults are constantly complaining about the media, culture, politics and more, and at the same time they believe that they can do nothing about it. Most happy people On the contrary, they take on a colossal responsibility and enjoy the opportunity to change something in this world.
Wherever you decide to become a leader - in your family, in a group of friends, at work or in a cultural environment - remember a few rules.
Refrain from sacrifice, do not regret hard work, do not look for dirty gain and do not be afraid of ill-wishers. And all will be well.
Always be ready to lead
In 1930, when Churchill was in his sixties, it seemed clear that his chances of ever becoming prime minister were zero. When a British delegation of deputies headed by Lady Astor visited Soviet Union and met with Stalin in 1931, he asked them about political situation in England and especially about Churchill. "Churchill? Astor exclaimed with a contemptuous laugh. “Oh, his career is over.”
When everyone else thought that Churchill could no longer be considered, he himself was ready to serve and did not leave his dream - to become the head of Her Majesty's government. He watched Germany throughout the 1930s and never changed his position to please the general public.
Instead of changing to please society, he simply waited for the world to accept his truth, and it happened.
And when he finally took the prime minister's office, he felt that he was following "his fate" and that "all past life was preparation" for the tasks that now confront him. By staying true to his beliefs and keeping track of Germany's activity over the previous decade, he could confidently say that he would be good at his post.
My warnings over the past six years have been so numerous, detailed, and now so monstrously justified that no one can contradict me. Nor can I be accused of starting this war or wanting to prepare for it.
Winston Churchill
You are preparing to lead, not in the middle of the storm, but in the calm before it. Everything may be fine in your family now and your business may prosper, but someday it may end. Are you ready to take responsibility, direct and lead?
speak the language
Words have great power if you know how to control your speech. Well-formed powerful phrases and persuasive arguments can literally change the world. Churchill argued that a person who knows the language ...
…possesses a power more powerful than that of the greatest king himself. He is an independent force in the world. Abandoned by his party betrayed by friends, deprived of his post, he can still control anyone with this formidable power.
Be an example for your subordinates
Examples have even more power than words. Churchill did not just talk to the people, he, as it were, walked the path he spoke about. The strength of his moral standards was undeniable, and the strength of his character created an incredible effect. People could follow him to the ends of the earth.
It doesn't matter if a father, coach, boss or spiritual leader is an example strong man The one who does the right thing is far more effective than hundreds of diatribes.
A leader who shows determination and courage doesn't even need to use fiery speeches to get other people to follow him and do what he inclines them to do.
Be prepared for people to try to overthrow you
Do you have enemies? Okay. So, in your life you once defended something.
Winston Churchill
As soon as you realize that you are moving towards real change, critics will immediately appear who will try to vilify you and dethrone you from the position of the leader. Just take these attacks for granted. This is a sign that you are really making a difference in this world.
Have the courage to face ingratitude
Don't expect people to thank you forever just because you did something nice for them, even if there was a lot of that good thing. People have a short memory for good deeds, they prefer to focus on the negative.
After Churchill led his nation through six years of World War II, Peaceful time The British wanted a new leader. His friend Harold Nicholson once said, “It's human nature. When we get to high seas, we forget how they clung to the captain during the storm.
But Churchill only brushed aside such thoughts of ingratitude. Yes, he regretted that his service was shorter than he would like, but he already did a lot of what he was going to do, and that was enough.
Create Like God: An Integral Part of Life
To be truly happy and healthy, a person needs two or even three hobbies. And they must all be real.
Winston Churchill
The secret of Churchill's incredible productivity can be considered a paradox, since it lies in the same active and productive use of his leisure.
Churchill discovered that this was the only way to get many hours of productive work a day. If he noticed that the results of his literary works were becoming confused and unsatisfactory, he simply switched to another type of activity. After some time, he could return to writing again, cheered up and ready for new literary exploits.
Churchill believed that, periodically engaging in various activities, a person perfectly trains his brain and fully rests.
There is no point in telling tired "mental muscles": "I'll give you a good rest," "I'll go for a walk" or "I'll just lie there and not think about anything." The mind will go on doing the same thing. If he weighs and measures, the weighing and measuring continues. If he gets upset, he will continue to do so. It is useless to argue with your mind in such a situation. One American psychologist said: “When you get upset for some reason, there is a kind of spasm of emotions: the mind has caught something and is not going to let it go.” You can only carefully try to hint at something else while the mind convulsively compresses the subject of past reflections. And if this something is chosen correctly, if it really belongs to another area of interest, then the mind begins to gradually relax and recover.
Despite the fact that Churchill called a hobby an integral part of a full-fledged adulthood, he did not think that you can choose them just like this:
A hobby is not something that can be quickly chosen in one day. Finding interesting things to do for your mind is a long process. You need to carefully choose your hobby and maintain interest in it.
Churchill believed that an interesting hobby is needed not only for those for whom work and entertainment are incompatible things, but also for those who really love their work. The most important component in choosing a hobby, he believed, is the difference between the activity and the one that you did during the day.
It makes no sense to offer a laborer who has been sweating and exhausted all week to play sports on Saturday, such as playing football or baseball. In the same way, you should not call a politician or a businessman who has been working all week and worrying about important things, to work and worry more on the weekend, but on a different task or project.
Even Churchill noted that, despite the great popularity of reading as a hobby, it is too similar to the daily activities of a person who earns a living by mental labor to provide him with enough contrasting impressions.
In addition, Churchill advised choosing hobbies that involve both eyes and hands at the same time - craft activities, since they in the best way help restore mental balance.
Again, this is especially true for knowledge workers, as manual labor makes up for the lack of such activities. In addition, there is an opportunity to create something that is especially important for people whose work is not related to creativity.
And finally, Churchill was against the huge number of hobbies that some people take up just to enjoy a new or unusual activity, and then abandon it. Discipline is important not only in work, but also in hobbies, because it sets the very way of life and thoughts.
Let's summarize:
- Carefully consider different activities and choose the most suitable for you.
- Make sure that your hobby is fundamentally different from your usual work activity.
- Do the chosen thing long enough so that it can turn into true love of your life.
Keep different interests at the ready and break away from a boring activity without regrets
Boredom was a threat to Churchill's peace of mind. Winston saw boredom as a waste of an already not too long life, and when he felt boredom approaching, he made sure to take a “ruthless break” and choose a more suitable activity.
Any activity could be a cure for boredom: dictating a letter, off-key singing of Gilbert and Sullivan operas, or laying bricks in the garden on Chartwell ... He always had a whole list of possible activities in reserve: reading a novel, feeding a goldfish, analyzing what was written in newspapers or pathos of England's great past.
Modern adults sometimes get stuck in tedious activities, not even because they haven’t found an interesting hobby for themselves, but simply because they don’t even suspect that they are bored.
IN modern world, where at any moment you can sit down at a computer or take a smartphone, we don’t even understand that we are really wildly bored, and useless surfing is just a way to distract from boredom.
You just waste time on useless distractions, and there is no time left for interesting activities. Therefore, the ability to identify boredom, ruthlessly interrupt and do something else is very important, in particular, and for freeing up time for worthwhile hobbies.
Delegate tasks if possible
Of course, Churchill's super-productivity is due not only to his enthusiasm and ability to concentrate. He had a whole team of assistants who solved the main problems and thus freed up space in his schedule for more important things. He didn't clean his house, he didn't cook, he didn't go shopping.
Some people think that if you delegate your affairs to someone else, in other words, dump your affairs on others, then this can change your character for the worse. However, an analysis of the lives of many great people shows that for the most part they were able to delegate their affairs and very often used it.
After all, would it be of much use to the English nation if Churchill, instead of making speeches on Saturday mornings, raked the leaves in the garden?
In addition, outsourcing everyday routines allows you not only to devote more time to work, but also to find more time for hobbies, which, as we said above, are sometimes no less important than the work itself.
Yes, of course, most of us are not wealthy enough to pay people to do all the chores for us. But, perhaps, you can find money for some of them: pay for cleaning at home and in the office, transfer some business to your employees and relatives.
Remember: you free up your time, which can be spent much more productively than cleaning the tiles in the bathroom.
Taking a drastic break from boring adulthood
Many adults are now bored, have little rest, feel anxious and depressed. Churchill was prone to melancholy, but he managed not to succumb to her bouts due to work that brought him satisfaction, interesting hobbies and no less interesting duties.
To deal with bad mood, periods of boredom and idleness, Churchill always used the method of hard breaks. The bodyguard assigned to keep an eye on Churchill remarked:
It can start moving at any moment, without warning. If during dinner he comes across boring people, for some time he will behave politely and tolerate them, but then he will simply give up and leave. If the movie he is watching is boring, he will not force himself to watch it to the end - he will simply get up and leave, and it does not matter with whom he came to the session, even with Mr. Franklin Roosevelt himself.
Sometimes it's time for a drastic break from the flat and boring adult life. Our work, responsibilities and free time can be difficult, stressful and problem-filled, but not boring.
Someday you will die. But until you're in the grave, don't let boredom get to you.
The best way to get rid of boredom. What to do if life becomes boring?
Are you a bored person? You are bored at your usual job, bored at home, even at a party with friends you are bored. Every day the same thing. And there is no longer the strength and desire to change something. So boring that often you just want to howl. Boring, because everything is familiar, everything has long been boring. There is less and less new in life, you are surprised less and less. Even entertainment no longer brings the former pleasure, surprise of the discoverer. We have to do something about it.
Experiment with sex: scented candles, aromatic oils, massage, unexpected places, erotic lingerie and wild fantasy.
Change. Change the style of clothing, hairstyle, hair color. Dress how you want, not what is dictated by fashion.
Release your pent-up feelings. Let yourself go, for example, for an hour. At this hour, do whatever you want, do not hold back anything: scream, jump, run, sing, rage ...
Learn to follow your intuition. Come up with meditation for yourself: find a position of the body in which you are comfortable, accept it and just relax - you are not there. Watch your thoughts, they rush through your head, but you are an outside observer. Or put on a disc with natural sounds, listen to them and merge with nature.
Learn to be yourself. Try to play less roles that society imposes on you. Learn to identify other people's values and imposed stereotypes. Throw them away and enjoy yourself, your unique beauty, because you are unique, no one can ever repeat you. Don't try to be like someone else, you're killing yourself.
Feel yourself. Feel yourself under different circumstances, in different places, in different situations… Try to feel yourself and feel the world around you. Simultaneously. Himself as a part of the surrounding world, and the world as a part of oneself.
Love yourself. Each one is one and only. You need to love yourself, love as you are, without inventing various shortcomings for yourself.
Live this day like it's your last. Think that our life is very fleeting, maybe this day will be your last on Earth. I went to relatives in another city. And I saw an accident on the highway. Three cars crashed. Apparently, the two met head-on. A girl died in this accident. I had only one thought about this: “Hurry up to live!”. What does it mean? Yes, look around.
Everyone lives as if in rough outline, half-heartedly ... How do we all think? “Well, let it be bad now, uninteresting ... Or maybe after ... it will be good?” Or like this: “Now I will live for ... family, friends, work ... (underline as necessary), and then for myself, someday ...” And what happens? If a person, for example, dies tomorrow, it means that he did not really live ... He put off life for later ... He did not live for himself. And this "later" may not be. Hurry up to enjoy life...
The best way to get rid of boredom
Get creative, express yourself. Hurry up to work creatively to please yourself. Try to do what you like.
Hurry to love. Love just like that, love truly, love unconditionally ...
Hurry to rejoice. Even the smallest victories. And even losses, because they are lessons that will allow you to win in another similar situation. Let go of all your past negative experiences. After all, sorting through them in your memory, experiencing them, you miss the real moment of your life. We are born happy. We are born to be happy. This is our purpose. So why have we forgotten about it? Why are unhappy, gloomy faces normal, but joyful, happy faces are looked upon as crazy?
Hurry up to be surprised. be surprised at our beautiful world, our beautiful nature. Just stop. Stop thinking. Look around. Smile.
Be amazed at how beautiful the world is and how amazingly good it is to live in this world.
Make the most of the proposed list. Or do one thing, but now, today. Live this day totally, fully and beautifully.
Parable about optimism.
A fairly well-known shoe manufacturing company has accepted a project to start exporting its products to India.
In order to study the market, the company's management sent two of the best experts to this country. They split up and went to the provinces in order to collect information about the potential of the future market.
Several days passed and one of the experts returned with the words:
- Nobody wears shoes here. Don't waste your time exploring this market!
The second expert was still in India and did not know anything about the conclusions made by his colleague.
After some time, the company received a fax from him:
- Gentlemen, the amount of expected exports can be tripled. No one wears shoes here yet!
The same situation for someone can become an insurmountable obstacle on the way, and for someone a great opportunity.
Just the same in life different people everyone evaluates differently...
Surely each of us met people who complain that life is monotonous and not interesting. But everything is in our hands, and we can fill it with new colors. So, how to get rid of boredom? Presents to your attention 5 useful tips, which will help you turn the peaceful course of gray everyday life into something more interesting.
1. Take care of your education. If you are prone to boredom, you probably have a lot of free time. This is not a reason to mope - it is better to use it wisely. Sign up for advanced training courses or vocal lessons, learn foreign language or visit or oratory- new skills will not hurt anyone. Perhaps new knowledge will provide you with a promotion career ladder or new circle communication will give you true friends.
2. Find yourself an exciting hobby. Start DIY Greeting Cards or souvenirs, take up embroidery or knitting - maybe you will discover a talent in yourself, and a new hobby will already become a real source of income. If not, at least you will find a way to spend time with benefit, you can surprise your loved ones with pleasant surprises, for example, with a warm cozy scarf, knitted by your own hands or a small craft.
3. Look for new ideas. Today everyone is preoccupied with the pernicious. Is the social network evil? Not at all if we are talking about using the Internet for good purposes. The World Wide Web is a huge storehouse of knowledge and new ideas, many of which are quite useful in everyday life.
Girls, for example, can watch educational videos and learn how to make themselves a festive make-up or learn a recipe for an unusual dish. Men can see here the most interesting moments football matches or get acquainted with new trends in interior design and, in accordance with them, make repairs in your apartment. In a word, social media There are many ways to get rid of boredom. 4. Get a pet. Whomever you choose: an aristocratic Japanese Chin, an energetic Yorkshire Terrier or an unusual American Curl, a calm Ragdoll cat or an impressive Sphynx, you are guaranteed a charge of vivacity.
Both the dog and the cat equally need your care, so you will definitely not be bored. Playing with your pet, you will not feel lonely even the longest winter evenings, and you will no longer ask yourself a question, because in the morning a loving and demanding animal will be waiting for you.
5. Don't forget your loved ones. Sometimes we become so immersed in our personal space that we stop seeing the desires and needs of our loved ones. Use your free time not to be bored and complain about your fate, but to help your grandmother or mother, a friend who is about to get married (during such a period she will certainly be glad to help from outside), a younger sister who has difficulty learning English - all of them will be pleased with your attention.
Communication with friends and relatives is what helps to make life more fun and brighter, because a visit to grandma for a cup of tea with raspberry jam or a walk with friends in the autumn square will always be more pleasant than a banal pastime in front of the TV.
How to get rid of boredom is up to you. But absolutely everyone can be advised and use their free time not for the blues and worries, but for committing worthy deeds. By following these simple tips, be sure that boredom and fatigue will not visit your home!
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Boredom (synonymous with melancholy and apathy) is one of the main reasons that prevent you from enjoying life. Medical preparations that help get rid of this state of mind, unfortunately, have not yet been invented. However, you can try to remove unnecessary sensations forever in other ways.
Loneliness, boredom, apathy - all these are dangerous conditions that harm the individual. Therefore, it is necessary to get rid of them in without fail. And that is exactly what this review is about.
Dangerous mental anguish
Why is boredom so dangerous? It is not considered to be a simple kind of human mood that periodically arises without endangering our personality. In fact, it is one of the main sources of numerous problems.
Is boredom a feeling or an emotion? It's like this emotional condition, which makes you constantly look for external stimuli, any activity, in order to get rid of the feeling of discomfort caused by the lack of activity.
And there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with that. However, it should be understood that during the search for activities, selectivity completely disappears. A person who is "attacked" by boredom is ready to do any, even the most meaningless work, if only negative feeling disappeared. Boredom is an emotion, and not the best.
Dependency state
Agree, this is very similar to addiction, where information, a certain kind of activity, acts as drugs. In such a situation, a person will begin to have an acute desire to do something, the satisfaction of which is not capable of bringing any tangible pleasure.
Moreover, it is almost impossible to control your condition. All that can be achieved is to temporarily reduce the feeling of discomfort. And then life, at least a little, but will become brighter.
No one denies that a person needs fresh impressions just as much as changing places, meeting new people, and having fun. If this is not the case, then the personality will cease to develop. However, all this is good within acceptable limits. And boredom is the very feeling that can make you go beyond all the limits of reason.
What is the danger?
Boredom is a state of mind that is extremely dangerous. What troubles can cause by going into the chronic phase?
- A person will begin to constantly experience nervous tension.
- There is a high probability of addiction - alcohol or drugs.
- Long trips, rest, meetings - all this will begin to cause torment, from which only work will help get rid of.
- You won't be able to concentrate.
- will appear chronic fatigue, which will interfere with relaxation.
- There will be a painful craving for various and useless purchases.
- The brain is simply clogged with informational garbage, numerous tasks.
- All the time there will be a feeling of restlessness and apathy.
This list looks quite impressive. Few people consider boredom as the main source of evil, so this set of problems can surprise.
So why is boredom so dangerous? Indeed, at first glance, it is a completely ordinary state that occurs in the absence of activity. Something like hunger or thirst. However, boredom is not only a feeling or property of nature, but also a serious lack of personality. Therefore, it must be eliminated.
Or maybe it's motivation?
There will always be people who will say that boredom is a serious motivator. And without it, hardly anyone will budge and do something. Perhaps she even helped someone achieve great heights in a particular field of activity.
But it is worth drawing an analogy with drug and alcohol addiction. After all, she also makes people work to have money to buy drugs. And if he does not look for opportunities to earn money, then he will have to endure torment. Do you think a person should be grateful drugs for helping him achieve something?
And the same can be said about boredom, which can turn anyone into a robot that obediently and diligently performs tasks. And if you think that boredom is synonymous with motivation, then this is an erroneous opinion. A lively interest, a desire to improve and reach certain peaks, while realizing one's potential, should act as a motivator.
Why does it occur
Do you often have to say the phrase "I'm dying of boredom"? Before telling how to get rid of this emotion once and for all, it is worth understanding the reasons that cause it.
- A person is not able to manage his time. In connection with the constant progress, people have more free time, because now they do not have to spend a significant part of their lives trying to earn money for food. And these minutes, not filled with work, many do not know what to do.
- There is no meaning to life. A person can go forward, or he can stand in one place. And at the same time, nothing changes in his perception. He is simply unable to tell the difference between being active and wasting time.
- Work is not a vocation, and tasks are performed only “for money”. There is no such interest. In such a situation, a person is waiting for a lunch break, the end of the working day and work week. He is not interested in the quality performance of his tasks, and attends work simply because it is necessary.
- Not enough communication. In this situation, their own thoughts are capable of poisoning.
In trying to get rid of boredom, you can go down the wrong path. Consider how you can eliminate this state of mind, causing yourself even more harm.
Will alcohol help?
Alcohol, of course, will help get rid of the daily routine, add brightness. But this cure for boredom is temporary and has big amount side effects. The next day after the “treatment” it will be worse, as a severe hangover will appear and And the more often you resort to alcohol, the more your life will deteriorate.
Will the new sensations help?
Search for new sensations and impressions. It seems that constant travel at first glance is a harmless way to get rid of boredom. However, it requires an almost bottomless wallet and great amount time. In addition, over time, such entertainment will get bored. The same can be said about changing sexual partners. It seems that boredom disappears, but then reappears. And the more often the change occurs, the shorter is the period of time spent without this sensation.
Is adrenaline a cure for boredom?
The pursuit of adrenaline is a kind of drug that requires more and more doses each time. And in the end, an overdose usually occurs. For example, a long parachute jump no longer evokes the same emotions, so you should try to open the canopy as close to the ground as possible. And the loss of control in such a situation will lead to a disastrous result.
Is it worth spending all your time on the Internet?
Care in virtual reality, social networks, games, watching videos - all this kills time and brains. You don't just sit around free minutes in vain, but also reduce your mental capacity. After all, instead of finding food for thought, you just look through a bunch of unnecessary information and stupefying series. At the same time, the next morning you can not even remember what you watched in the evening.
Correct Methods
So what is the right way to get rid of this negative feeling? Enough to list some effective ways, and you just have to choose the most suitable cure for boredom.
- Find several goals in life that will push you to develop and improve your skills. Thanks to this, it is possible to improve physical and intellectual parameters, as well as relationships with people. You can draw up a plan of action for the near future in order to know in which direction to move.
- You need to learn how to properly manage your time. Getting up in the morning, a person should be aware of what he will do during the working day and after it. Again, planning will help with this. Weekends should not be spent solely on the couch watching a movie or TV show. You can devote your free time to chatting with friends, going to the movies, theaters and other activities. You can go to nature or make a list of what to see and read. Do not forget about sports. With their help, it will be possible to get rid of apathy, and not just boredom.
- A great way to get rid of negative feelings is to change jobs to one that will please and bring satisfaction. In such a situation, it will be possible to occupy thoughts not with how to quickly complete the tasks and go home, but with how to do everything efficiently.
- Close people will help get rid of boredom. We need to communicate more often with friends and relatives, relax together, share thoughts and help each other.
Conclusion
What is boredom? Psychology considers this concept as a negative feeling that destroys the personality. And you need to get rid of it. In fact, there are a huge number of ways. Only the most effective ones have been described above. We hope that this review will help you put your life in order, and you will be able to get rid of such negative states like loneliness, boredom, apathy.
Can boredom cause a stroke? Or is this feeling just temporary Bad mood without serious consequences? To find out, you will need knowledge about the relationship between boredom and physiological processes in the body. If these correlations really exist, then what comes first - a bored mood or changes in physiology? And finally, is it worth doing something about it? If yes, then what? The answers will be unexpected.
What is boredom
Boredom- this is a negative emotion, a mentally passive state, which is accompanied by a lack of interest in people, activities, and the environment in general. A person with such a mood has a reduced reaction, both on the physical and on mental level. Associated sensations - anxiety, irritability, absent-mindedness, dissatisfaction.
Physiology does not affect boredom. And here negative emotion can cause physiological discomfort. The reason for this is an increase in the level of cortisol, or stress hormone, in the blood. In high doses with chronic manifestation, it can provoke diseases of the cardiovascular system, stroke or diabetes. Given the risk, it is still worth fighting the systematically occurring boredom.
How to get rid of boredom
Analyze sensations
To begin with, it is enough to listen to your body and feelings. Then you can try to change the physical position and observe the reaction of the body. Sometimes a simple comfortable position solves the problem, as it relaxes well. Boredom turns into relaxation. This method helps if you have to wait a long time, but there is nothing interesting around. Long queues, flight delays bright to that examples.
Is there something to do? Fine. You can use this and follow the changes. Occupation means not only work or study, but also hobbies or useful things. Then the situation will develop according to one of two scenarios:
- Thanks to employment, boredom will gradually recede, since only idleness served as the cause of the depressed state.
- The bad mood will either stay the same or get worse.
The reasons for the second option are absolutely different problems. One of them is the complete absence of classes. But energy can be in excess. Not being able to calm the excited state of any business, a person begins to get bored. That's why best solution will be the next step.
Calm down and try to relax
Effective relaxation helps reduce emotional arousal. Thanks to this, boredom develops into relaxation. Perhaps this is what the body lacks. Exhaustion causes a breakdown, which is falsely mistaken for boredom. Several simple ways to relax:
- meditate, preferably to quiet, calm music, with subdued lights and aroma sticks or candles;
- sleep, providing yourself peace and quiet;
- dream about future successes, figure out how to achieve them;
- relax in nature;
- watch over aquarium fish- they perfectly calm the nervous system;
- go to yoga, massage or any relaxing procedure.
If the problem is not overwork, then relaxation will not drive away melancholy and bored mood. In this case, it's time to move on to the third step.
Focus on something
Especially on a specific subject or person. In the first step, it was already suggested to find something to do. However, in situations where you just have to wait, it is difficult to find an interesting case. Walking around the airport during a flight delay quickly gets boring, and getting out of the queue without risking your seat is almost impossible. So, you can try to keep your attention on some object.
Stealthily peeking into a neighbor's book or looking through the lines of newspapers near the kiosk while the owner has turned away is not very fun. Although connoisseurs of detectives will do. The rest is better to pay attention to others. You can unobtrusively consider a person and ask such questions:
- What's his name?
- How old is he?
- What is he doing in this place, where will he go next?
- Who he is by profession?
- Does he have a couple and children?
- Is this a sincere person or is he hiding something behind smiling masks?
- What does his clothes, accessories, bags, gait, behavior say about him?
Previously bored players who are deeply imbued with such an activity are surprised how close to reality their guesses turn out to be. In addition, this game can push you to new acquaintances. And if the object of observation suddenly notices that he is being followed, then psychologists recommend not to look away immediately, but simply smile.
Analyze past months
Do the above methods help? Then, perhaps, the reason for boredom is hidden not in the current situation, but somewhere in the past? If so, it is advisable to try to remember your life over the past six months. Negative emotion could be caused by:
- severe mental shock, severe psychological trauma;
- routine, continuous monotony in actions;
- lack of a clear understanding of their goals and desires;
- ignoring own feelings, caring about anyone, but not about yourself;
- a terribly unloved job or other systematic activity that you absolutely don’t want to do.
It is impossible to be a fully happy person by following other people's rules. These two stories are proof of that.
Parents want their son to become a lawyer, not a violinist, as he wishes. In order not to upset his loved ones and meet their expectations, the guy goes to study at the law academy. Receives a diploma, finds a job in his specialty. A few years later, he has prestige, money, respect from his parents. As well as boredom, irritation, self-hatred, uncontrollable outbursts of anger. And another bottle of alcohol next to a broken violin.
A young man marries for love. The wife is an angel in the flesh. Her only negative is that she demands that her husband give up weekly football games with friends for her sake. The man loves to chase the ball with his friends, this is his true hobby, but ... Inspired by the sharpness of feelings, he agrees to his wife's ultimatum.
Six months later bored guy makes an attempt to talk to his wife and still go to the football game. Gets a tantrum that ends only after he abandons the intention. A few months later, the missus begins to accuse her husband of his passivity towards her, household chores. A year later, she finds him in bed with another. Divorce.
Change life in accordance with the results of the analysis
If the two situations described in the previous step, to put it mildly, do not meet expectations, then it's time to act. What can be done:
- learn more about your desires, ambitions, dreams;
- stop ignoring personal needs, emotions;
- add something new to life or, conversely, get rid of something;
- change the way you perform everyday tasks;
- learn new things;
- love yourself, develop self-respect.
In other cases, the next step will help.
Visit a psychotherapist's office
Sometimes this turns out to be the only true and effective solution. Talking with a specialist is about discovering and accepting yourself. Some people face stereotypes that stop them on their way to professional help.
The doctor will go to the head.
No, he will not require telling anything against the will of the client himself. Will not press. Push? Of course, because, by overcoming indecision, a person is able to get rid of a dozen problems. But this is help, not pressure.
Going to the doctor means that the person is sick.
The patient really needs help. But, firstly, why is no one afraid to talk about a visit to a therapist, a cardiologist, an ophthalmologist? Although they are exactly the same doctors as a psychotherapist, the field of treatment is only different. Secondly, the psychotherapist is not a psychiatrist. In fact, the first one solves the problems with which they turn to a psychologist, only he also has medical education eat.
An entry in a medical card from a psychotherapist is bad for a career.
Many specialists do not work with medical books at all. At most, they take notes in their own notebooks to keep everything in their heads. The law on medical secrecy does not allow them to tell someone about the problems of their clients. Sometimes even conscience.
A rare short-term boredom in itself is not dangerous and even useful. But its chronic manifestation can be a wake-up call. Calling this emotion a diagnosis based solely on a medical point of view is difficult. But psychosomatically, it is. A psychotherapist can help overcome a constantly bored mood.
